We all know that friendship is important to our wellbeing. It helps our perspective, our mindset and our happiness. NOT when friendship is toxic though; that kind of friendship can be detrimental to our mental health. Seeing through the friendship fog and figuring out the good eggs from the bad isn’t always the easiest – we all saw what happened to Cady Heron in Mean Girls…
People do change and grow apart, and it’s important to remember that, BUT don’t confuse it with toxicity. These are some clear signs to keep in mind when considering your friendships.
Image Source/ Heat
You don’t enjoy their company
These people are supposed to be your friends. The people you WANT to hang out with on the weekends and evenings. Make sure you spend that precious time wisely with people who’s company you actually like.
If spending time with them is making you feel sad/ guilty/ angry/ insert-synonym-here, see if spending time with other friends is different. If it is, then you know that there is a problem with them, if not, then perhaps you should take a look at yourself…
Dread spending time with them
This is similar to above, but it is meant more in the sense that you find yourself walking on eggshells when you are with them.
You are unsure what to say, overthink every word that comes out of your mouth and are continually scared that you’re going to say something that’ll ‘set them off’. You leave them feeling exhausted, rather than feeling chilled out.
You don’t trust them
If you have some news that cannot be shared with everyone just yet, are they one of the few people you would tell? When you get some good news, do you let them know instantly? Would you tell them a secret?
You don’t need us to tell you that if the answer is no, they’re perhaps not the friend you want them to be.
Give more than you get
Do you find that your friend LOVES to talk about their problems, but whenever you need to vent to them they don’t have time or brush it off?
Hun, I’m sorry to say but that isn’t friendship. One that’s worth your time anyway.