1. You dream about them
Image source / The ScientistPeople who are significant to us often appear in our dreams. So if your ex keeps making night time appearances, it could be a sign you’re not over them yet. In fact, some say that our dreams reflect our subconscious thoughts, so if your dreams depict you and your ex rekindling your relationship, it could be a sign of your deepest wishes.2. You check their socials
Image source / The VergeAnyone who says they never look at their ex’s social media is, in my opinion, a liar! But there’s a difference between having a glance every 6 months or so to religiously checking week after week or, dare I say it, day after day. If you find yourself doing that, you may want to question your motives.3. You can't delete old pictures
Image source / MacPawIt’s weird when you break up with someone. Suddenly all your loved-up snaps just sit awkwardly on your phone or social media reminding you of what once was. Many would say the healthy thing to do would be to delete them. I mean, you’ve broken up so surely they don’t have a romantic significance anymore, right? Hmm, if you’re struggling to delete the pics (especially the ones of you together) then maybe you’re struggling to let go.4. You spend hours looking at old photos
Image source / LADbibleOk, so you’re not quite ready to hit delete on the loved-up pics. Maybe next week. But what if you find yourself constantly looking back at them? Obsessively scrolling through the photos to bring back memories that surely you should be distancing yourself from…? Alarm bells - you might still be in love.5. You reread old messages
Image source / Wiki-HowWhen it’s not old photos you’re obsessing over, it’s those long chat conversations. Adorned with love heart emojis and sickening messages of how much you love each other they can be painful to revisit. So why do you keep looking? If you’ve split up you should be moving on, if you can’t move on then maybe you’re still in love.6. Every conversation leads to them
Image source / Reader's DigestIf you’ve just broken up with someone it’s natural that your friends are going to ask you about it. If however you find yourself mentioning them in every conversation, this might be more than just ‘break up chat’. Do your friends look engaged when you talk about them or a bit bored? If it’s the latter why not ask their honest opinion - do you think I’m over them yet?7. You still wear their clothes
Image source / PinterestWe’ve all been there - your bf lent you their sweater or shirt one time and you realized how comfy it was and how it actually looked pretty neat on you! Added to this, it became a comforting reminder of them when they weren’t there. So what happens when you split? Surely that’s the first item in your wardrobe to get rid of? If you’re still in love with their clothing then there’s a high chance you’re still in love with them…8. You visit your old favorite spots
Image source / Cookhouse GalleriesThat cafe where you had your first date… The bench with the amazing view where you shared your first kiss… each relationship has its special places. If you’ve recently split with a partner and find yourself gravitating back to these spots it may indicate the behavior of someone who has yet to get over an ex.9. You keep messaging them
Image source / Never the right wordIf you notice that you can’t stop messaging your ex you are surely showing the signs of someone who is still in love. If they message you right back then perhaps there’s a rekindled future for you both. If not, move on! Top tip - delete their number!10. You ask their friends about them
Image source / TellmemoreIf they won’t reply to your messages, you may turn to their buddies to try and maintain that line of contact. Do you find yourself reaching out to their friends for a chat? If you’re genuinely interested in talking to them, fair enough. But if you have an ulterior motive (to ask them about your ex) then that’s pretty sneaky and a sign that you haven’t moved on.11. You contact their family
Image source / CBCSimilar to reaching out to their friends, if you find yourself messaging their mom, dad or siblings too often then that’s not particularly healthy. Sure, you may have been close and cutting ties with them can be as hard as the split itself. That being said, it’s not fair on them to be expected to keep up contact with you. Do everyone a favor, leave them alone.12. You wonder if they think about you
Image source / Deborah KristinaYou know full well that you’re thinking about them. Do you also wonder if they are thinking about you? Getting stuck in a mental cycle of questions like this is called rumination and could be a sign of anxiety. If they’re ‘stuck’ in your head, speak to a friend or therapist about how you can move on mentally.13. You practise conversations
Image source / Let's reach successAnother form of over-thinking would be imagining what you’d say if you bumped into them. In fact, you’ve thought about this so much you could win an Oscar for how naturally your pre-planned speech would be delivered. Don’t fool yourself - if things really were going to work, conversations wouldn’t be pre-planned. You’ve split, it’s time to accept it.14. You go crazy if you see them
Image source / HelloGigglesOf course, there will be times when you do bump into an ex. Maybe you go into full actress mode and deliver your oh-so-natural sounding ‘I’m doing fine thanks’ speech. Or, maybe you just freak and hide. Either way, you react pretty intensely for someone who has supposedly moved on…15. No new relationships
Image source / Keep Calm-o-MaticIf you’re still in love with your ex, the thought of getting with someone else might not have even crossed your mind. Sure, it’s natural to want some time to settle down again before looking for love but if the thought of a future partner has never even entered your imagination then I’m afraid to say you’re living in the past.16. Jealous if they've moved on
Image source / Heartmanity BlogNew relationships for you are firmly off the cards, but what if they have started dating? How does it make you feel? A pang of jealousy or upset is probably natural but if you're left in a total rage, you may want to question your reaction. Surely someone who had moved on wouldn’t care if their ex had a new partner. Dare I say it you may even be happy for them!
17. Constant comparisons
Image source / The Daily IlliniMaybe you have begun to move on and are chatting to new people, great! But what if every new love-interest is bound to your strict, internal comparison against your ex. Not tall enough, not funny enough, too tall, too funny! The list is endless but of course it will be - no one is going to replace your ex like-for-like. If you can’t accept that, you haven’t moved on.18. Easily emotional
Image source / SelfCrying at the end of a relationship is totally normal. In fact, I would argue that not crying is a sign you were over them months ago! But what if the crying just. won’t. stop? If it’s been weeks since you split and you’re still as emotional as the early days it’s time to ask for help. Speak to your friends, confide in your family and, if you need to, speak to a professional. Endless emotions suggest you could still be in love and you’re struggling to move on.
19. They're still your go-to
Image source / YoutubeYou got that promotion at work and your sister got engaged! Exciting news to share with someone right? But who? In the past it would have been your ex that was your go-to person for sharing major life events with but now you’ve split that would naturally be someone else. If you find yourself automatically wanting to keep your ex in the loop then have you really moved on?20. You wonder what went wrong
Image source / UnsplashWe’ve already heard about the risk of over analyzing things and getting trapped in a negative thought spiral. You might also be doing this about your relationship and wondering how you ended up splitting. If you can’t stop mulling over the different scenarios that led to you and your ex separating then you’re clearly not at peace with the situation.21. Your future contains them
Image source / Chapters of MayEqually, if your future goals, dreams and life plans have them firmly in the centre then that’s one sure sign you’re still in love! If you really imagine them at your future wedding or being the father/mother to your children then you sure haven’t moved on.22. You go to places where they'll be
Image source / MomJunctionWe’ve heard how people might visit their ‘special places’ to relive romantic moments. This one is more practical and, if I’m honest, more manipulative. If you know that your ex will be leaving their college class at a certain time or hitting the gym after work and you just so happen to be there, you know what you’re doing! Stop trying to get them to notice you and move on.23. You want them to notice you
Image source / StylevoreSo visiting places they’re likely to be is a firm no-no, it’s actually pretty creepy. So what if you take a more subtle approach to getting them to notice you? Increasing the Insta posts maybe or going out clubbing knowing fully well that you’ll be seen by your mutual friends? It may be more subtle but it’s ultimately for the same aim - you want them to think about you, just as you can’t stop thinking about them.24. You think about them non-stop
Image source / GeniusThis one seems obvious and I guess it is. If your ex is front and centre of your thoughts day in, day out, then I’m afraid you’re not over them and you could even still be in love. How about trying something that will help relax your mind - meditation and exercise are both great relievers for an over-thinker.25. You think about them on special occasions
Image source / Inc. MagazineYou may no longer be thinking about them day and night, great. But what if a special occasion still makes them come flooding back. Making your Thanksgiving plans and you can’t stop remembering last year with them? Getting ready to go on holiday and get caught up thinking about when you went away together? Yep, you may not be thinking about them non-stop but it doesn’t take much, does it?26. Selective memory - only the good times
Image source / The conversationWhen you split from someone you still love it’s easy to fall into the trap of only remembering the good times. This idea of seeing your relationship through rose-tinted glasses is unhealthy - there was a reason you split and even if this wasn’t your decision, remember that you deserve to be with someone who is 100% committed to you. If all you can remember are the positives, get a piece of paper and write down the things that bugged you about them. It might help you to move on.27. Other couples - no thanks!
Image source / FreepikIf seeing other happy couples makes your stomach turn then you’re not handling your break up very well and could even still be in love with your ex. For most of us, seeing a happy couple might give us the drive and determination to find love ourselves or simply feel happy for them. If it’s making you bitter and resentful, ask yourself why.28. Can't throw the keepsakes
Image source / The Container StoreGo on, what was it? A cute teddy bear? A silver necklace? Whatever the cute keepsake your ex bought you was, you know it’s not healthy to keep hold of it. So why are you? If it’s really that difficult to get rid of, have a friend come over and take it away for you. If it’s worth some money why not sell it - you’ll soon associate moving on with more positive emotions.29. Something is missing...
Image source / Bevin NiemannIf since breaking up with your ex you have a lingering feeling that something is missing I guess you’d be right. Going from spending most days with someone to them suddenly not being in your life can, admittedly, be hard. If this sinking feeling or void continues beyond a few weeks then I’d be questioning how attached you still are to the relationship.