1. You have great difficulty falling asleep

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‘It’s 1 AM I have 6 hours of sleep left’. ‘It’s 3 AM I have 4 hours of sleep left’. We all know how horrible it can be lying there not being able to sleep, worrying that you can’t sleep and then making it even more impossible to drift  off to sleep. Especially if you have things going around your head or past emotional trauma affecting your unconscious and conscious thoughts.

2. You have struggled with substance abuse

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Substance abuse can often be triggered when somebody is facing a deep pain or emotional trauma. Sometimes, that person may seek substances which will for a period of time allow them to escape their emotional trauma, intrusive thoughts and pain. But, this can cause somebody to develop an addiction.

3. You have intense intrusive thoughts

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Intense intrusive thoughts are those thoughts that don’t just pop up gently in your mind and drift away. They come unwillingly, no matter how hard you try to stop them and they completely take over your brain so that that is all that you can think about.

4. You have fierce waves of emotions that you feel you cannot control

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Similarly, when you experience emotion it is extreme. It almost feels as though it takes over your whole body and consumes you. These waves come and you cannot control them. This is a clear sign that you are suffering from an emotional trauma that you have not yet healed from.

5. You experience flashbacks

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When you have had a particularly traumatic experience you may have flashbacks to the moment where you feel as though you are reliving the event and the same emotions that you experienced. This could be linked to a condition called PTSD where flashbacks can be a regular occurrence.

6. You suffer from anxiety

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Anxiety is a very common condition where you feel uneasy or you feel a sense of worry and fear. This may come in varying degrees of intensity at different points. Some people unfortunately suffer this on a daily basis and the symptoms can be severe. But sometimes, it can be caused when a person is emotionally suffering.

7. You have or have suffered from depression at some point

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If you have suffered or are suffering depression then this also could be a sign that you are suffering from an emotional trauma. Depression can come to people without cause, or it can be triggered by something. Depression can be all consuming and debilitating.

8. When you finally fall asleep you can’t STAY asleep

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As we talked about previously, getting to sleep can be a mission in itself. But then, if you cannot stay asleep this is also a sign. You finally drift off, and then whether your brain randomly jolts you awake or you are disturbed by all of the lightest and quietest sounds you are never able to get a decent nights sleep.

9. You frequently replay certain traumatic memories in your head

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This is different to experiencing flashbacks. Flashbacks come involuntarily and consume your head as though you are right there in the moment. But you may also consciously or sub consciously be replying the traumatic moment in your mind. A certain compulsion will make you feel as though you cannot get it out of your head.

10. You feel like you are living in fear

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Lining in fear can jeopardize your day to day life, when you cannot function normally or live life as you would usually then this fear is taking over you. The fear may not be rational, it may be a response tot he trauma you suffered and now even day to day situations cause a response of fear.

11. You have intense anger inside you

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Anger can eat you up inside. It can completely cloud your senses and take over your judgement. Anger can be a very destructive emotion. But it is a totally normal response to emotional trauma, you may feel angry at the world, at people, or at yourself…

12. And you have a lingering sense of sadness

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After suffering emotional trauma it is expected and completely normal to feel sad. Whatever has happened to you or to someone around you will of course have a very negative effect. It may leave you with a lingering and consistent sense of sadness which feels as though it will never lift.

13. You suffer frequent stomach ache, chest pains or headaches

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Now here are some physical signs you have suffered emotional trauma. They may be physical but they are triggered by emotion. Tight chest pains is linked to panic, stomach ache to fear and anxiety and headaches to stress and worry. So if these symptoms persevere and they are not because of a medical condition they could be emotional.

14. You view the world as dangerous

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Of course the world can be a dangerous place. But that doesn’t mean that you should always view the world and everything in it as dangerous. There is a difference to using caution and your senses than being afraid of the world. But perhaps right now you view everything as a threat.

15. You find it very difficult to trust anybody

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trusting people can be very difficult, especially if you have been burned in the past. And, when you are suffering emotional trauma you may fund that you are mistrusting of everybody and everything. This may be because your body and mind is trying to protect you from further hurt and emotional pain.

16. You constantly put yourself down or view yourself negatively

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I’m not good at anything, I’m not good enough, I’m a horrible person… Does this sound like the kind of self narrative that happens in your head? Constantly viewing yourself in a negative light and putting yourself down can be a symptom of suffering emotional trauma.

17. You are constantly on edge and on guard

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After suffering emotional trauma your mind does not want you to suffer anymore. It also puts you on guard for the next trauma or danger. So you may find yourself being hyper aware, hyper alert and constantly on edge and on guard in case something else bad happens.

18. You may push away your loved ones around you

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Pushing those you love away can be a typical response to trauma. But in fact it is the last thing you need. If you are conscious of yourself doing this, try your hardest to in fact pull people closer and allow your negative experiences to bring you closer to those around you.

19. Or you may be extra clingy to certain people

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On the other hand, you may feel like you can’t be left alone, you may not want to do anything by yourself and feel like nobody or a certain person can leave you. So you may be acting very ‘clingy’ to a certain person which could end up being un healthy for both you and them.

20. You feel like you’re dissociated with the world

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Dissociation is a condition where you feel disconnected from the world and even yourself. It may even feel as though you are not really a part of the world. This can be a defence mechanism by your body to try and shield you from the suffering and the trauma of the past, making you feel slightly numb or dissociated.

21. You cannot concentrate

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Concentration only happens when your mind allows it, when you are in a good place mentally to be able to give your full focus on something. When your mind is suffering it is hard to concentrate, Trauma has a real effect on the brain which can make it almost impossible to concentrate on anything.

22. You feel helpless

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Feeling helpless may have come from not being able to protect yourself or someone you love, even if it was impossible to have done so. It may make you feel as though you cannot do anything, you are helpless to either your own pain or suffering or the bad things that happen in the world around you.

23. You have experiences of memory loss

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Memory loss can happen after emotional trauma, this is a way that your brain will protect you. To stop you suffering and reliving painful memories, sometimes our brains actually block out those memories so that we cannot properly remember or focus on what happened to save ourselves suffering more pain.

24. You avoid certain places or people who could trigger you

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This is completely understandable. It is only natural to want to avoid those places or people who you associate with a time that causes you pain. Certain places or faces can trigger emotions in you that you do not want to relive. Do you find yourself avoiding certain things due to the associations you have?

25. You may seek to be as perfect as you can

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The need to feel and constantly strive to be as perfect as possible can sometimes stem from a feeling of inadequacy. Sometimes, people who are suffering emotional traumas can blame themselves or feel unworthy due to circumstances outside of their control. So, they may feel like they have to be as ‘perfect’ as they can be.

26. Your moods can switch easily

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One minute you’re fine, the next you’re happy and then very quickly you can feel intensely anxious, sad or angry. Your moods may feel totally unpredictable. You can wake up in one mood, knowing that your day will be a roller coaster of emotions, never stable and always up and down which can be mentally very difficult to deal with.

27. You lose your appetite at intervals

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Our appetites are very much a reflection of our mental state. Some people turn to food to seek comfort; ‘comfort eating’ whereas other people cannot even barely eat anything when they are suffering or emotionally stressed. It can completely take away your appetite so that you do not feel able to eat.

28. You always feel exhausted

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You’re always tired. No matter what you’ve done, or what you’ve not done! Whether you’ve literally slept the entire day and you’re still tired. This could be because emotional trauma is exhausting. For your mind and body to cope, it takes a lot of energy which could be making you tired.

29. You sometimes avoid going out or doing things because you feel overwhelmed or scared

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I can’t go out today…I shouldn’t go here something bad may happen  I’ll stay at home. I can’t face seeing anybody today. Does this sound like the kind of thing you think before you do something, where you convince yourself you shouldn’t leave the house? You may be avoiding anything that will possibly cause you any amount of stress.

30. As well as intense emotions you may have periods where you feel totally numb

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Feeling numb is a very strange sensation. You may feel like you cannot feel anything, like nothing can register or process. You are just totally numb. If this is you then it could suggest you are suffering emotional trauma. Your brain is creating this sensation of numbness to allow you to heal better.