Signs He’s Falling In Love With A Single Mom

1. They've stepped up

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If a guy is falling in love with a single mom, the single biggest sign is whether they have stepped up for you both. If a man is willing to step up for both you and your child, then he's doing it because he's in love with you. It also shows an amazing amount of strength and kindness if a man is willing not only to accept and embrace you but you as a mother. He's willing to step up for your child even though he isn't naturally the father. If this is the case, he's in love with you and he sounds like a keeper!

2. He's always there for both you and your child

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If a man is in love with a single mom, it's so important that he doesn't only embrace you, but that he also puts in the time and the effort for your child. And so, if he's always there for you alone, he's not falling in love with you, his feelings are more surface level as he isn't willing to take on the responsibility of you as a single mom. But, if he really is falling in love with you he's always there for you and your child and you know if you needed him, he wouldn't hesitate in helping either one of you.

3. He has established a close relationship with your child

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For you as a single mom, your main and first priority is and always will be your child. So when you're dating a guy not only are you looking for a partner that will be right for YOU, you're looking for someone who will be right for your child. And when a guy makes the effort to establish a close bond with your child it is because he intends on being a part of your future family. If he and your child are close, it's because this man is falling in love with you. He's earned the trust of your child and your child has come to care for him and see him as a role model figure.

4. He prioritizes you BOTH

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A guy can't be falling in love with a single mom if he doesn't prioritize the both of you. It can't work if he only prioritizes you. So this guy has probably done whatever he can to prove to you that he prioritizes you both, to show you that he's not here to mess you around or for a brief 'fling' to date you without it actually leading anywhere. Instead, he's shown that you AND your child are a priority to him and he understands that he will need to take on some of the challenges of being a parent.

5. He gives a lot of time to your child

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It is super important for a guy falling in love with a single mom to give plenty of time to your child because it shows that he's committed and invested in the relationship and the both of you as individuals. It also shows that he genuinely cares about your child which can show you a glimpse of what life could be like as a blended family in the future. It also shows that he has established an emotional connection as the more time they spend together, the closer they will get.

6. They are emotionally available

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When your man is falling in love with you, and you are a single mom, it is SUPER important that he's emotionally available. There has to be open communication because you both need to communicate not only your own needs as a couple but your child's needs to establish a connection as a three. Being emotionally available also means that he will be there to support you both and it shows that he's emotionally mature enough to be able to handle the situation of joining an already-established family unit.

7. They talk about the three of you in their future

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Someone who is falling in love with you starts to see you as a part of their future. So when he references the future he will be talking about the three of your together, not just him on his own.  He's expressing to you that he's got long-term goals for your relationship and that he wants to become the permanent man of your life. When he talks about the future he's also trying to give a sense of security for both you and your child so that you know your emotions are protected and he won't let you down.

8. They strive to be a role model

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When a man is falling in love, or anybody for that matter, they want to be the best version of themselves. Especially, if a man is falling in love with a single mom they realize that they will be taking on a very important role as a male figurehead in this child's life. He will become a role model for your child, and so if he's falling in love with you he wants the best and to be the best for you and your child and so it will be super important for him to present a good role model for your child.

9. He regularly praises how good you are as a mom

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When he's in love with a single mom, he will look at you and think how amazing you are. He's going to appreciate you even more and admire you more because of the fact that you're a single mom looking after and caring for a child. He'll be vocal on this point about sharing his praise for you and his admiration for you as a mom. When he's falling in love with you he will love the fact that you have shown the strength to be the amazing single mom you are and you'll know just how much he thinks of you.

10. They're affectionate with you and your child

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Affection is super important and it sometimes means more than words. A reassuring hug can give you all of the support you need in a moment. And if a guy is affectionate with both you and your child then he's falling in love with you because affection develops as an extension of true feelings and care. When he's affectionate with both you and your child he's showing that he values you and also, he's reassuring you and it creates a feeling of closeness and safety. Affection actually helps a child's development because of the feelings and emotions it creates.

11. He's protective over you

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Protectiveness shows that you care deeply about someone. We all naturally feel protective over the people we love. And so when these protective instincts rise up in us it is because we have some kind of feelings for this person. He may also be ultra-protective because not only is he protecting you, but he's protecting your child and so he may feel even more strongly about wanting to keep you both safe from home. He may see himself as responsible for keeping you and your child safe because he's falling or fallen in love with you.

12. He gives you lots of reassurance

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When a guy is falling in love with you he won't be secretive about his feelings, he's going to openly tell you what he feels for your man and that he cared deeply about you. As a single mom you have more to look out for than protecting your own feelings, you are protecting your child too and so reassurance is more important than ever at this time when you are not yet settled down with this man. And when he is falling in love with a single mom he's going to give you all of the reassurance that you will need to feel safe.

13. He's introduced you and your child into his own family

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Introducing someone to your family is a big deal. We don't like to introduce everybody, it's a careful decision that people make and they consider whether they really see you as a part of their future. Generally, we introduce people to the family to the family when we see potential and when we can envisage them being a part of it somewhere down the line. So if he's introduced both you and your child, this is a huge step for all three of you which he won't take lightly. He'd definitely falling in love with you.

14. He'd never let either of you down

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When you know for sure that a guy is falling in love with you, he won't let you down. In fact, he'll do everything he can to show you that he won't let you down and he'll show you as much as possible that you can trust him. Not only will he tell you that he won't let you down, more than that, he'll show you.  Words are easy to say, and so it's more important that somebody's actions reflect what they say, it's the only true way you know what somebody's intentions are and how they really feel about you.

15. He's willing to take on the hardships of parenting

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Being a parent is a very difficult job, albeit the most rewarding. Yet being a stepdad/mom figure has its own challenges which can make it extremely difficult. Navigating somebody else's parenting style and getting to grips with a child that isn't yours and establishing a bond of trust between you two can take time. And in many cases, it won't be smooth sailing. But if he's willing to take on these hardships as well as the reality of parenting life and all of the unglamorous things that come along with it such as making packed lunches and the school run, he's falling in love.

16. He takes your child out on his own for bonding time

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You know he's truly making an effort and he's serious about being in both of your lives forever when he starts taking your child out alone or creates activities just for him and your child so that they can bond. This means he's seriously into you and falling in love with you because he knows that it's not just his relationship with YOU that matters, it's his relationship with your child that is equally as important. So when he's taking your kid out to the cinema, or to the bowling alley or ice cream parlor, you can know for sure that he's falling in love with you.

17. They make you feel that the fact you already had a child is a blessing for them

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You're a single mom, and some guys sadly run away when they see that there are responsibilities involved. But this guy, he's stuck around, and not only that he's embraced it and he's both shown you and told you that the fact you're a single mum is a blessing, not just a factor he had to accept and come to terms with. The fact you already have a child gives the potential for a family unit...and this is how he'll see it. When he's falling in love with you you will feel as though you and your child are adored by him.

18. He's proud of your child's achievements

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Children are constantly hitting milestones and achieving different kinds of things whether at school or personally, and for them, it's a huge deal. Whether they hit their 100 meters swimming record or they win star reader at school, these achievements are massive and they can really help with a child developing their confidence and self-esteem. If your, and is falling in love with you as a single mom then he will genuinely be proud of everything your child achieves and will want the absolute best for them in every way possible.

19. He's accepted that the father of your child will be part of their life

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One of the biggest complications with blended families or taking on a stepfather role is that you have to accept that the child has a biological father. Sometimes, they may be totally out of the picture but you still have to navigate space for their child to remember them and come to terms with it. Sometimes, the biological father will be in their life and you'll have to learn to be amicable to protect the interests of both mom and child. So if he's genuinely falling in love with a single mom he'll accept this and won't make it any more difficult.

20. He's genuinely interested in your child

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Showing a genuine interest is different from showing interest to gain something. If he's showing interest to get in your good book and try and prove a point then it's not genuine and he's probably not falling in love with you. Yet, if he has a genuine interest in your child it's because he's come to care deeply for them and he actually connects with your child. He'll be interested in their likes and dislikes and he'll join in their hobbies because he genuinely connects with their personality-wise.

21. He tells both you and your child how much you mean to him

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When a guy is falling in love with you as a single mom, it won't only be you that feels so cared for and knows how much you mean to him. He will also do his utmost to tell your child and make them see how much they really do mean to you which will mean a LOT to you. It's only this way (and of course, through reflecting this with his actions) that they will come to both understand that and believe it. Words and reassurance are very important in building any relationship and connection, but especially with a single mom.

22. He actively seeks out activities to do with your child

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If he's looking for activities to do with your child, you know for sure he's falling in love with you and not just you, but you as a single mom. When he's thinking about your child and what's best for them and how to make them happy you know you're onto a winner. He may take his time to think about the things your child loves and all of the activities he could take them to that they will love and enjoy. As a single mom, it's super rewarding seeing your man and your child bond over shared interests.

23. He understands that your child comes first to you

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A man dating a single mom has to realize that first and foremost she is a mother, and her child will always be the first priority and will always come first. When he's truly falling in love with you, this will not only be accepted but he'll appreciate this fact and love how much you love your child and put them first. He'll never try and complain that he feels that he comes second or that your child ever gets in the way of you and him, it will always be the opposite if he's falling in love with you.

24. He wants to learn more about you and your child

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We are always learning about people. Even if we've known someone for a really long time people are always evolving and so there's always new things to learn. Especially when you're in the stages of falling in love and getting to truly know someone. And when someone is falling in love they'll be so interested and keen to get to know you and your child as he's falling in love with a single mom, and not just a woman. He wants to get to know the both of you better and to keep learning about you both.

25. He respects and adheres to your parenting style

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At the end of the day, you are the mom and your say will always come first as you are the parent in the situation. You have raised your child, or are currently raising them, and so when a man falls in love with you he will completely respect your parenting style. He will also adhere to your style as much as possible to support you in what you do. For example, he won't berate your child or go against your wishes in terms of how you act around them or the kinds of morals and values that you try and instill.

26. He's always consistent

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Consistency is so important, not only in a relationship but especially when there's a child involved. Even in a relationship, if you do not know what mood or how your partner will act on a day-to-day or hourly basis you feel as though you are treading on eggshells. With a child, it's even more important because safety and security are crucial for a child and so a man coming into your life has to be consistent. If they are falling in love with you they will make sure that they are consistent for the both of you.

27. They treat you both as a girlfriend and a mom

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When a guy is falling in love with a single mom he has to respect both sides of you. You have two identities. You are not JUST a girlfriend and you are not just a mom. You're both and you deserve to be treated both as one and the other. For example, he always has to consider the fact that you come as a package with your child, and his actions have to respect this. But on the other hand, if he's falling in love with you he's falling in love with you as an individual and so you deserve to be treated as such.

28. He attends your child's activities

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Whenever your child has an activity day at school, or he has a project to come up with or a sport training session they want to go to, he'll always be eager to attend and he'll want to watch them and support them. He's doing this because he cares for you and them and he wants to be a big part of both of your lives. When he's in love with you he's attending your child's activities to show you that he is serious about you and that he's a suitable role model for your child. But he's also doing it out of genuine care for you both.

29. He wants to support you

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Does this guy want to support you as an individual, support you as a single mom, and support your child? If so, this guy is totally falling in love with you. Not only will he be there to support you as a girlfriend or potential romantic partner but he'll also be there to support you as a single mom, and to support your child and their own individual needs. Emotional support is super important in forming and forging connections to make them stronger. And he may offer physical support to help you out too!

30. He's expressed that he's in this for the long haul

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What can be challenging for single moms who are dating or have met a man is whether they are really in this long term or whether they are going to be messed around by someone who decides that the commitment will be too much later on down the line. But when he's falling in love with you he will have no questions in his mind about the fact that he's in this to stay. He'll reassure you about this numerous times and his actions will show you this so that you have no concerns about the fact he's in this for real.