30 Subtle Ways That An Introvert Will Try To Flirt
By Anna Collins
10 months ago
1. They'll talk about things you like
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The thing is, an introvert won't actually flirt. But when they like you there will be ways that you can tell, subtle signs and hints that they are flirting with you in their own introverted way. It's completely the opposite of how an extrovert would flit, so it's a lot more difficult. But one of the ways you can tell an introvert is flirting with you is when they talk to you about all of the things they know you like, even if they're not remotely interested. They're showing you they're interested in YOU.2. They'll keep looking at you and looking away
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So one of the ways everyone flirts is through the yes. The eyes say a thousand words without having to say anything at all. Just a look can tell us SO many different things. And so it's pretty much the most used flirting technique. Now an introvert won't give you 'the eyes', instead, you'll catch them keep looking at you and looking away. This is because they're looking at you because they just can't help it, but also because they're trying to flirt with you. But, they're getting shy when you look at them so they're quickly looking away.3. They'll start to open up to you
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The behavior of an introvert is much more guarded than an extrovert's behavior. So often, an introvert is a closed book and it can take a long time to open up and communicate certain emotions. If an introvert likes you, they'll start opening up to you, and you'll know this is basically them trying to flirt because they like you. If they weren't flirting and they didn't have feelings for you they would not try and open up to you and show their feelings because this is a huge step for an introvert.4. They make an effort to stay around you
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You'll know for sure an introvert is flirting with you when they're always around you whenever they get the chance. For example, you may be in a group setting and you walk over to get a drink by yourself...what are they going to do? They're going to subtly follow you (pretending they were getting a drink coincidentally at the same time) so that they can see you alone out of the way of everybody else for a second so that you will hopefully strike up a conversation. Yes, this is how an introvert flirts!5. They'll make subtle suggestions about spending time together
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Introverts generally aren't as forward and they may find it a LOT more difficult to outrightly ask you 'Hey, do you wanna hang out?'. In fact, even thinking about this can make an introvert start to sweat with nerves. Instead, they may throw subtle hints or suggestions. It could sound something like 'oh, I love hiking too. I've never been there before, I'd love to go one day...'. Now this is your opportunity to say 'let's go together!'. Because, in the eyes of an introvert they've basically just asked you out and they will expect you to get the hint they've just thrown you.6. They might be super sarcastic
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For an introvert displaying feelings can be super daunting. And so instead of acting all 'nicey nicey' around you (which they think is too obvious), they'll be sarcastic and use wanted to flirt with you instead. It's an introvert's dating bread and butter. It's a go-to technique because they can lightly tease you instead of having to openly declare their feelings for you. So if you have an introvert teasing you and you have an inkling that they like you...they're most definitely trying to flirt with you!7. They'll like your posts on social media
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Now this is where it gets a lot easier to decipher and figure out. Introverts are a LOT more confident behind a screen when they're not interacting with you in person. So you may be a little bit confused at the fact that they seem confident online, and barely speak to you in person. When an introvert is flirting with you they'll watch ALL your stories (probably one of the first) and they'll like all of your posts. They may even DM you or react to your stories if they have the courage. But this is clear flirting!8. They'll ask a lot of questions
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Another thing you may notice when you're interacting with an introvert and you think they might be flirting with you is that they'll ask you a lot of questions. This is because, for one, they're interested in everything about you and want to get to know you because they like you. And two, this is safe ground because asking questions is an easy way to interact without recoiling from nerves. So, if you're getting question after question fired at you it's most likely not because they're interrogating you....they're actually just trying to flirt with you!9. They listen intently
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When an introvert is interested in you and they're trying to flirt, one of the ways that they will do this is by listening intently to you. They want to show you that they're interested in whatever you say, as a way to let you subtly know that they like you. They are showing their interest by paying attention and making you feel listened to, even if it is too subtle to be called flirting, it really is an introvert's flirting technique and this is why you have to pay close attention to their behavior and actions towards you.10. They mention little details to show they have remembered things
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Okay, so we can confirm that when someone remembers all of the tiny little details about you, it's because they like you...not just because they have a super efficient memory. If they remember that your favorite chocolate is a bar of Rocky Road, it's not because it's their favorite too, or because they're just generally interested in chocolate, it's because they have made a conscious effort to listen to you. And because they like you so much they take an interest in everything about you and inadvertently remember all of the details. This is flirting.11. They'll try to make you laugh
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Comedy is a go-to of an introvert. Real, sexy, flirtatious comments take real confidence, a bubbly personality, and an extroverted personality. It's generally something that introverts steer clear with. Yet with comedy, they feel more at ease. So cracking jokes and trying to make you laugh will be one of the ways that they will most certainly try and flirt with you. So no, they're not just really into humor and comedy they are actively trying to flirt with you to get across the fact that they're interested in you!12. They'll give you subtle compliments
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'Hey, you look super sexy today' 'I love it when you wear your hair slicked back like that'...do these sound like the compliments of an introvert? Hell no. An introvert's compliments will sound more like 'ah, you're t-shirt is blue, that's my favorite color' or 'wow you have super green eyes' or 'I love your hat!'. They're less obvious, more toned down, more difficult to know if it's even really a compliment, and super difficult to know that this constitutes as flirting! But we're telling you, this is the flooring of an introvert.13. They'll always be smiling around you
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If you want to know the MOST obvious sign that an introvert is flirting with you...just look at their face, do they smile every time you glance at them? If an introvert is flirting with you, whenever you're around they'll be smiling at you. Some of this may be conscious to smile at you and send subtle hints, but mostly this will be a result of really liking you and they just can't help but smile whenever they are near or around you. This is one way to know for sure whether an introvert is flirting with you or not.14. They'll be touching their hair
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Hair touching. This goes right back to 5th grade and we never stop this flirting technique, even as we get older. Extroverts intentionally may touch their hair because they want to draw your attention and they may do the *nonchalant run my hand through my hair sexily like I'm not trying to*. An introvert will do subtle hair flocks or constantly play with or move their hair. It may be intentional, or it could be a subconscious nervous action. Either way, hair touching is a sure sign that an introvert, man or woman, is flirting with you!15. They'll give you their full attention in group settings
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An introvert won't be super comfortable in group settings so they're probably not going to be the joker of the group or the loudest in the room. The way to see if an introvert is flirting with you in a group setting is still easy however if you pay attention. They'll give you their full attention. If you start to speak, even if nobody else is paying attention, they'll have their eyes on you. They'll be watching you, listening to you speak and the first to laugh at all of your jokes. You'll have their full attention.16. They'll seek out any opportunity to strike up a conversation
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Sometimes the thought of starting up a conversation can be daunting, and this is especially is the case for an introvert! So for an introvert to just walk up boldly and say 'hey, wassup' it's a huge mission. Instead, they may bide their time until there seems to be a perfect moment to strike up a conversation. And they will do this at any opportunity they can. This is a sign that an introvert is flirting with you. In fact, it's a huge sign. These are big steps for introverts who aren't as naturally comfortable with outward shows of 'flirting'.17. They initiate texts
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As we said before, an introvert can often find comfort behind a screen because it gives them confidence as they are not in a social setting. It can allow them to put their personality across without feeling the weight of social situations. Because often (although it's not always the case, of course) introverts aren't as loud, sometimes they can get overshadowed in group settings. So when an introvert initiates texts you may see their true colors more closely. This brave act of texting first is them is a clear sign that they are flirting with you118. They make thoughtful gestures
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Is there anything more that we could want than a thoughtful gesture? No, it's such a good feeling to know when someone has done something with you in mind because they are genuinely thinking about you and wanting to do something for you that will make you happy with no incentive or intention on their half. This is the kind of flirtatious gesture that an introvert will do for you to show that they are interested in you or that they care. And let's face it, this is so much better than conventional flirting anyway.19. They will ask your opinion on things
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Right, so can we admit that this is something we all do? As soon as we get a crush, we start hoping that they like certain things, 'today I'll do my hair in a super cute braid to see if they like it' or we start questioning outfit choices to ensure that they catch us when we're looking our best. We don't want to be caught on a bad hair or outfit day! And, for an introvert, this is how they will flirt with you. They'll start to ask your opinion on things to gauge what they think of you because they don't want to outwardly ask 'are you into me?'.20. They sign out texts with flirty emojis
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Emojis say it all. And when an introvert sends a flirty emoji, they are purposefully and consciously flirting with you. Whereas, we all know people who are a little bit too heavy-handed on the winky faces. Not only can it totally change the tone and meaning of a text, but it also starts to lose its meaning because you know that every send they are sending to pretty much everyone has a winky face. But for an introvert, this really is flirtatious behavior and they are hoping you reply with something equally flirty in return.21. They'll create inside jokes with you
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Inside jokes are what you have when you're very close to someone. When you have experiences or memories with someone or share things that you don't share with other people, and it's turned into an inside joke. When an introvert is trying to flirt with you one thing they may try and do is create inside jokes. It might be about anything, but they'll try and make comments which arouse your attention and that only they know so that you know it was intended only for you. It's a way they are trying to bring you closer together, bonding you over a shared experience or subject.22. They'll introduce you to their friends
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One of the greatest ways of knowing if someone is truly into you is by who they introduce you to. If an introvert introduces you to their friends then this is even more of a huge deal than when an extrovert does it (although of course, it's always a big deal). Because for them, their friend group is probably smaller and more intimate than an extrovert who may have an abundance of friends. So if an introvert introduces you to their friends, this is a huge deal and they are definitely flirting with you.23. They will send good morning/night texts
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When we like someone, we all (come on, admit it) LOVE receiving a good morning or a good night text. Of course, we do, who wouldn't want to know that they're the first thing on that person's mind when they wake up and the last thing on their mind before they go to bed? It's cute and it's thoughtful. If an introvert does this it's a HUGE deal and yes, they are absolutely flirting with you. So if you're interested back, reply with the same kind of energy. Then, an introvert will gain confidence to keep flirting and may flirt more outwardly than just texting!24. They'll have playful banter with you
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Playful banter is something we do when we are flirting but we don't want to make it too obvious, or we don't want to outwardly admit it to them or to anybody else (or even maybe inwardly to ourselves either)! So instead, we revert to our backup plan which we've all been doing since high school, we use playful banter to flirt with the person that we're into. This is exactly what an introvert will do, so if they are using playful banter then they ARE flirting with you, even if it seems like a juvenile flirting technique.25. They watch you out of the corner of their eye
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Shy people...you'll know the score. If you're super confident you may never have done this. If you're an introvert, you have. You can't exactly flirt, but you do what you can, and in your mind, you are flirting. But really, you're not doing anything at all. You're watching this person out of the corner of your eye. And they can see you doing it. You're probably not even letting them see on purpose, but you just can't tear your eyes away because you like them! So if an introvert keeps watching you, they are flirting with you in one way or another.26. They will laugh at all your jokes
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You can come out with all of your worst jokes and you can be sure that if there's an introvert there trying to flirt with you, they're going to laugh at your jokes regardless. They probably don't find it remotely humorous, but this is how they're flirting. If you want to be sure that an introvert is flirting with you...test out your worst jokes ever, the ones no one laughs at, and see if they do. If they do, then there is your answer. But you probably will get called the king/queen of dad jokes.27. They'll giggle and blush
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As we've said before, introverts don't exactly flirt - at least in the conventional sense. But the most obvious way to decipher if they are trying to flirt with you in their own introverted way is to watch their body language and how they act when they are around you. Do they look shy around you? Do they giggle or do they blush when you talk to them or complement them or basically even so much as say their name? Do they look super flustered? If so, then it really couldn't be any clearer, they are flirting with you.28. They text back quickly
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Oh, the complicated games and rules of texting. 'I can't press on it or they'll know I've read it'. 'I'm going to wait two hours because they waited for one and I don't want to look too keen'. 'What shall I say?' 'Is this too much?' or 'maybe I should ignore it and play hard to get?'. There really are so many unnecessary dynamics of texting that if we cut out, things would be a whole lot simpler. But for an introvert, if they TRYING to flirt with you they're going to show this by texting you back quickly, Because they find it hard to show you they like you in person.29. They invite you out with their friends
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Okay so once you've had the introduction to friends it's clearly a sign someone is interested in you. But, if they invite you OUT with their friends, this is a whole different ball game. They are clearly trying to flirt with you and for an introvert, they may disguise it or gain niece by letting other people take the lead of the night by asking you out with other people. They can then flirt, but let other people take over the night. This way, they've shown you and already flirted by asking you out!30 They stay up late to talk to you
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