1. Completely ignoring red flags
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When someone is blinded by attraction, it is likely that their judgment becomes heavily influenced by their feelings for the person that they are attracted to. So this means that it is highly likely that they will have the tendency to completely deliberately ignore or even unintentionally overlook red flags. And the thing is, these red flags can be seen by everyone else; it just seems that the person is so blinded by their attraction to the other person that the red flags are almost invisible to them.
2. Excessive daydreaming
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Hello? Hello? Have you ever tried to speak to your pal and they are completely lost in a daydream; staring into space with a completely glazed look in their eyes? Hello? No, they still do not answer... But do not take it personally because they're probably just lost in a fantasy about the person that is blinding them to the rest of the world. They are so focused on this other person that they spend a significant amount of time fantasizing about the other person. And we guess you could get your imaginary lasso out to pull them back into the real world, but you might have to use your muscles when they are too far gone!
3. Overlooking flaws
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Flaws are certainly not an issue in their minds. In fact, they seem to completely overlook and ignore even the most obvious flaws that the other person has. Everyone has flaws, that is just a part of being a human being, but the thing is, they seem to overlook even the flaws that have the ability to be detrimental to their own well-being. And in doing this, they idealize the person they are attracted to as if they are completely perfect in every way. But unfortunately, this outlook can be quite damaging as failing to see flaws can lead to someone getting hurt.
4. Ignoring compatibility issues
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If a person is blinded by their attraction to another person, a sure sign that can help you to identify this is that they completely ignore and disregard the issues surrounding their incompatibility with the other person. It does not matter how unaligned their lives seem to be, they are blind to these issues because of their intense attraction to them. They completely disregard everything from their differences in values to their goals, and even their interests. They might have no common ground whatsoever, but that does not seem to be a problem for them at all because they are blinded by their attraction to them.
5. Idealizing the person
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When they are completely unable to see any of the flaws the person they are attracted to definitely has (because who does not have flaws!), they are probably quite likely to idealize that person in their minds, and out loud to other people around them. They might see them as the ultimate perfection embodied and absolutely flawless; unable to make any mistakes whatsoever. There seems to be absolutely nothing this person can do to offend them because they are so blinded by their attraction to them.
6. Disregarding other people's opinions
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They might be so blinded by their attraction to the other person that they completely dismiss the opinions and warnings from the people around them. Their loved ones might be able to see certain flaws and behaviors that the person just cannot see. They are unable to get past their own idealistic view of the person that they are attracted to and disregard or invalidate any warnings from their own friends and family members. They might not be able to understand that they are looking out for them so they do not get hurt, and this dismissal can obviously also harm their existing relationships with friends and family.
7. Excusing inappropriate behavior
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Despite warnings from loved ones and constant possible red flags, they are also likely to actually excuse inappropriate behavior from the other person when they can actually see it. They might attempt to rationalize the behavior and justify it to themselves. And they might even attempt to justify any inappropriate behavior to their loved ones who point it out. So there is certainly a case of denial in this behavior, meaning that their attraction to them is completely clouding their judgment and logic.
8. Becoming possessive
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If this person is so perfect to the person who is attracted to them, then there is a chance that the person blinded by their attraction could become jealous or clingy towards them. If their attraction is reciprocated and it turns into a relationship, then they might become possessive of them, insecure, and envious of anyone else who speaks to them or enters their vicinity. But there is also the chance that their attraction is not reciprocated, meaning that they become possessive and clingy over the other person, even if they're not engaged in a relationship with them, and this might also lead to an obsession.
9. Having unrealistic expectations
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With their idealization of the other person, as well as their constant possible daydreaming and fantasizing about them, they are probably likely to have really unrealistic expectations about the relationship. These expectations might often be exaggerated and unachievable due to their possible differences and incompatibilities, including differing values, interests, and life goals. They might want completely different things but being blinded by their attraction to them makes them unable to understand and see how unrealistic their expectations for the relationship actually are.
10. Prioritizing physical appearance
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The thing is, the attraction might stem from a purely physical stance originally, meaning that the deeper emotional stuff is a bit of an afterthought. The clear differences between them might be brushed to the side as the physical attraction completely takes over everything, rendering them blind to their incompatibility with the object of their attraction. And this can lead to emotional pain and heartache, as they idealize the person as being perfect in every way, based on their physical attraction to them.
11. Neglecting their own self-care...
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Another sign that someone is blinded by their attraction to another person is when they begin to neglect themselves, particularly when it comes to self-care. And this can look different for everybody. They might be so preoccupied with their attraction, that they cannot see past it, even when it comes to looking after their own health and well-being. They might neglect their own personal care needs, as well as their own emotional needs and relationships with other people, in favor of pursuing the object of their attraction.
12. ...as well as their own values
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As we have discovered, their whole being, including their needs, future goals, interests, and even values, might be completely misaligned with the person that they are attracted to. But the problem is, due to being so blinded by their attraction to them, they just cannot see it at all. And this can have the potential to actually make them neglect their own values, their own goals, and even interests in order to pursue and focus on their attraction to the other person and to force themselves to actually be compatible with them.
13. Completely minimizing their own personal needs
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As well as neglecting their own values and self-care, another sign that they are blinded by their attraction to another person is that they begin to neglect their own personal needs, including anything that takes care of their own health, mental health, and overall well-being. Minimizing their own personal needs is not sustainable for their own well-being but it might be done in an attempt to prioritize the object of their attraction over themselves to make their relationship compatible or even possible!
14. And neglecting personal goals
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They might have future aspirations, dreams, and goals that they have always wanted to fulfill, but because they are not aligned with the person they are attracted to, they might begin to neglect these too in favor of the other person's future goals. They might stop working towards their goals and begin to work towards the other person's goals instead, of prioritizing them over their own. And this can lead to a potentially unfulfilling life and possible future regrets if they do not do what they have wanted to do.
15. Focusing on that all-important initial spark
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There might have actually been an initial spark between them and the other person that got them all fired up because it was intense and completely electric. But as time went on, it might have become clear that they are unfortunately more incompatible than they initially thought. If they're blinded by attraction, though, they might only focus on the spark they felt at the very beginning, thinking they could perhaps continuously relive it again and again and ignoring the obvious incompatibility between them...
16. Neglecting other relationships
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They might be so invested in the attraction and the person they are attracted to that they become blind to other aspects of life. Not only are they blind to their own needs and values, but they might also become blind to their other relationships, like with their friends or family. They might neglect these relationships completely, limiting their contact with them and the energy spent being an active participant in those relationships so they can solely focus on the object of their intense attraction.
17. Disregarding disrespectful behavior
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The person that they are attracted to might engage in some disrespectful and deceitful behavior and even though everyone else can see it, the person who is blinded by their attraction to them might completely disregard it, and also disregard warnings from loved ones. And to be honest, they might not even be able to see it in order to acknowledge it because they are so blinded by their attraction to them. It seems like the idealized version of the person is always at the forefront of their minds and always seems to win.
18. And justifying it
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They do not only disregard that disrespectful behavior either, they might actually also take steps to even justify it to other people who point it out, or even when they do notice it. They might just have a whole bank of responses to justify any disrespectful behavior because they might want other people to see this idealized version of them that only exists in their heads. They might want to convince people that they are only doing it because of x, y, and z, rather than them being exposed for being flawed.
19. Becoming excessively dependent
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If you are looking out for signs that the person is blinded by their attraction to someone else, you might also notice that their happiness completely depends on the person that they are attracted to. In fact, you might even notice that they have become excessively dependent on the other person for their emotional well-being and happiness, meaning that they are incapable of being content without them. They might even still depend on them even when they do not reciprocate any attraction or feelings.
20. Becoming defensive
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When you care about someone's well-being, and you try to make them see what they have become blind to, you are probably not going to be met with much gratitude. If they are blinded by their attraction to someone else, it is going to be so difficult for them to see the real person without those ever-unreliable and untrustworthy rose-tinted glasses. So empathy and understanding is the best way to help them because it is possible that they might become incredibly defensive.
21. Becoming isolated
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If their loved ones do try to help and they do inevitably become defensive, chances are that they might just break contact with them and stop communicating with them. You might go to help with the best of intentions but if they are blinded by their attraction to the other person, you are unlikely to sway them and make them see the situation for what it actually is. This means that they might become isolated from their friends and family in favor of pursuing their relationship with the person that they are blinded by.
22. Neglecting personal boundaries
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If they are blinded by their attraction to another person, you might notice that they regularly allow the other person to overstep their personal boundaries without standing up for themselves. In essence, they are allowing that other person to walk all over them and they might not be able to see that they are being taken advantage of. And they might even do this because they have become insecure about their own future and chances with the person that they are attracted to. So they allow them to cross their personal boundaries because standing up for themselves might feel like a bad idea to them.
23. Inability to see the other person objectively
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If they are blinded by their attraction to the other person, you might notice that they are completely incapable of seeing that other person objectively. They see them through their rose-tinted classes and idealize them as the perfect human being. They might be completely incapable of being able to objectively evaluate the person's flaws or shortcomings and is unable to see anyone else's point of view other than their own. Their attraction is strong and difficult to break through no matter how much support you offer.
24. Overlooking lack of reciprocation
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Interestingly, despite the deep attraction to the other person, it is not actually always reciprocated by the other person in question. They might have this intense attraction to the other person and it is so strong that they are blind to the lack of reciprocation from that other person. This means that they might be pursuing something that is just never going to happen and they could perhaps disregard the lack of effort or investment from the other person in the relationship. This can obviously lead to heartache and frustration on all fronts.
25. Rationalizing inconsistent behavior
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They might not only disregard and justify certain disrespectful behaviors from the other person but they might also rationalize inconsistent behavior from that person as well. You might notice that they are always on the edge of their seat, waiting for what the other person is going to do next as they are usually unpredictable and inconsistent in their behavior and actions. It might be clear that they respect and care for that other person more than that other person respects and cares for them and their emotional well-being.
26. Dismissing warnings
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They might have a habit of dismissing the opinions, concerns, and warnings of those around them, including their close friends and family with first-hand experience of the relationship and behaviors. And it might not be that their opinions do not matter to them but it might be that they are so blinded by their attraction that they just cannot see where outsiders are coming from. They might not be able to understand why they see the other person that way and therefore dismiss these warnings and defend the person and the relationship.
27. Overlooking incompatible values
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Another sure sign that they are blinded by their attraction to another person is when they clearly overlook their incompatibility in terms of their values. They might dismiss really significant differences in their core values, such as their ethics, their beliefs, or even their priorities in life. And this is overlooked or dismissed in favor of their attraction to the person in question. This might prevent them from fulfilling their life's work, dreams, and ambitions in favor of pursuing this attraction.
28. Avoiding discussions about the future
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No matter how hard you try, you might notice that they are completely avoidant about speaking about the future, particularly if it involved the person that they are attracted to. Perhaps they actively avoid or deflect any conversations about long-term commitment or plans for the relationships, preferring only to focus on the present moment, or even the past when that initial spark was ignited. Maybe they do not wish to speak about the future because they are so unsure about what it might hold for them and their relationship.
29. Experiencing cognitive dissonance
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As we have discovered, they might hold conflicting beliefs or attitudes about the other person but because of their strong attraction, they struggle to reconcile those inconsistencies. So they might recognize the negative traits of that other person, but because of their intense attraction to them, they simultaneously idealize and defend them to the ends of the earth. And so it might become clear that the attraction between them is purely physical rather than emotional because they seem to have nothing actually in common.
30. Swayed by intense feelings
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If you feel like you or someone you know is experiencing some of these signs, then it might just indicate that you or someone else is blinded by their attraction to someone else. If someone is blinded by attraction, they might be temporarily swayed by those intense feelings, but it is important to understand that with work, time, and reflection, they might gain a clearer perspective of their feelings and thought processes. If you are worried about someone experiencing these signs, it is important to approach them with understanding and empathy so they know that you are there when they need your support.