30 Signs You’re Unhappy In Your Relationship

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1. Any Excuse Not To Go Home

Image source The GuardianIf you're making sure you're unavailable, maybe arranging to see a friend straight after work, offering to do overtime or volunteering to go on a non-important business trip, rather than spending time with your partner, this is a sure sign things aren't all rosy between the two of you.

2. Snooping Through Your Partner's Belongings

Image source The Ladies CoachMutual trust is absolutely necessary in any relationship. and the only way to gain that trust is with respect. If you are forever checking your partner's phone, finding out their password on their electronic devices or even looking through their clothes pockets, you know you have to seriously think about how happy you are with that person.

3. Won't Commit

Image source Our Everyday LifeIf you’ve been dating for over a year and there's been no chat about getting engaged, this is an issue between the pair of you. Commitment is important and if there are excuses why one of you won't take that further step, it's not looking good for the long term.

4. Thinking About The Past

Image source The Good Men ProjectIt’s perfectly okay to reminisce about the past but if it becomes a very regular occurrence and you're thinking you wished it was like it used to be, it must be a sign you can't be happy and you have to question if there is still a spark in your relationship.

5. You're Bored

Image source Evan Marc KatzHappy relationships energize us and we look forward to spending time with that person and are usually excited to see them. If you are unhappy, you won't be interested in anything they speak about or suggestions they make. This behaviour tends to signify there are deeper issues going on in the partnership.

6. Telling Lies

Image source Re GainYou try to convince yourself and your partner that all is well between you but you know, deep down, that's not true. When someone asks you how the relationship is going, you make it up and say everything is great . Then you're miserable for saying it. It has to be a sign you are unhappy and you should face up to it and do something about it.

7. Don’t Confide

mage source The Gottman InstituteAt one time you would share intimate details of your life with your other half but now you find yourself speaking to friends instead. You have to accept this is a warning sign that the closeness is no longer there. Maybe you don't want to confide in them because you feel misunderstood.

8. Drink And/Or Drugs Habit

Image source PayPostMaybe you only used to drink socially but it's now becoming a regular habit, even at home. Is cannabis helping you deal with stress that you appear to be suffering from? You need to understand why you are using these vices and ask yourself if it's a form of escapism from your relationship.

9. You Feel Put Down

Image source The GuardianUnhappy relationships entail negativity and if you often feel down in the dumps, it could well be to do with your partner. Once you've ruled out that it's not a friendship thing or a work related worry, look deep into your soul and decide if it's to do with an unhappy relationship.

10. You Start Becoming Jealous

Image source YourTangoWhen you start to envy everyone and anyone because you think they are in a good relationship, the alarm bells will be ringing. You assume, rightly or wrongly, that all is good with people you know and it's only you that's unhappy, then you've answered your own question. It's time to get out of it.

11. Getting Emotional Around Friends and Family

Image source HelpGuide.orgWhen close family or friends ask about your welfare and you burst into tears, there is something seriously wrong going on. You probably know deep down that you aren't happy with your partner and you should open up to those who genuinely care about you.

12. You’re Constantly Irritable

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When you are constantly irritated by your partner, in even the small things you think they are doing wrong, stop and think. When they are going to be away from home for a few days and you are pleased about it, again stop and think. Sounds like you two aren't the great match you thought you were.

13. You’re Tempted to Stray

Image source The ListAnother sign that you might not even realize you’re doing is when you start flirting a lot more than you ever did, say when you’re out with friends or at work. That could be a red warning sign that you are looking elsewhere for someone to make you feel happy because your partner isn't.

14. It’s Hard to Make Yourself Tune In

Image source Love Problem SolutionWhen you used to pride yourself on being a good listener to your partner but now you don't really care how they feel and you can't muster up the interest in hearing about what makes them happy, such as hobbies or work, then it seems like a rift is growing between you.

15. No Arguing Any More

Image source Elite DailyYou would think that by not arguing with your partner, this was a healthy relationship but it's actually the opposite. Arguments, or heated discussions, show you care and are passionate about what you believe in. When you can't be bothered to engage in conflict, it's because you don't feel enough for the other person. Maybe time time to exit the union.

16. Prioritizing Friends And Family Over Partner

Image source The Scottish SunWhile it’s important to make time for people outside your relationship, it becomes an issue when you'd prefer to see them instead of your partner, to share news. If you're in a happy relationship, your partner should be the first person you would want to speak to.

17. No More Date Nights

Image source NZ HeraldWhen you cant be bothered to go on a 'date night' because it's too much effort then this is a sign your relationship is losing value and importance. Go back in time to when you couldn't wait to go out the your partner and ask yourself why you no longer feel this way.

18. You feel You Are Under The Microscope

Image source Defeating DivorceWhen someone is unhappy, even the smallest criticisms can make them mad. Being ticked off for minor things is happening more and more and is outweighing the intimacy. When a relationship has got to this stage, someone is going to be very unhappy and needs to work out their future.

19. No Gratitude Forthcoming

Image source Verywell FamilyWhen you're in a partnership, you tend to do a lot for the other person, such as sharing salaries and maybe raising kids. When your other half stops noticing how much you do for them and never offers a word of gratitude or appreciation, this can make for a very unhappy relationship.

20. Nothing Nice To Say

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Sure, every relationship has its downsides and that's totally acceptable but if the bad memories and negativity far outweigh the good then that's a different matter entirely. The feeling of being dissatisfied and unhappy will only fester and take over your thoughts. The issue should be discussed before there's no going back.

21. Feeling So Alone

Image source USA TodayThe whole meaning of being in a relationship with someone is that you are in this together and feeling alone can mean you're not getting what you need from your partner, either in a supportive or emotional role. Get it put in the open if you feel that unhappy

22. You're Holding Grudges

Image source Men's DivorceHolding grudges is what young people tend to do but once you are in a grown up relationship, this behaviour can become quite toxic. It takes a lot more energy to be angry and not let a grudge go than to forget about it. If you wallow in this anger, it will not be good at all for the relationship and it will be difficult for you to feel happy.

23. Always On The Defensive

Image source MindBodyGreenCouples may fight but if you always blame it on your partner or vice versa, then someone is being irrational and stubborn. If the guilty party cannot bring themselves to apologise then there is usually a good reason for it and that comes down to resentment which is a very unhappy situation.

24. Wishing You Were Single

Image source The GuardianOnce you go down the road of wishing you were single or imagining other sexual partners, then you are not in a good place in your relationship. Whilst fantasies are normal, thinking about being with someone new is not the way forward, showing cracks between the partnership and at least one unhappy person in it.

25. Relationship Isn't The Worst

Image source Divorce MagazineYou know you’re dissatisfied and unhappy in the relationship, but you convince yourself that your life could be worse and there are probably lots of other couples in the same position. Stop thinking like this as you don't have to put up with this. It is possible and probable to be happy with the right person.

26. Accommodate Instead Of Compromise

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Healthy relationships are a two-way street when it comes to compromising and that's a fact. If your partner repeatedly doesn’t take your feelings into consideration, it’s not a good sign. A supportive partner will respond sympathetically when you express concerns. They make it clear that the two of you are a team and genuinely care about what’s important to you. If you feel you are bending over backwards to make things work, then it's unlikely to do so.

27. It feels Very Hot And Cold

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How often do you feel happy in the relationship you are in? Be honest with your rating if you feel you are unhappy most of the time and have to cling on to happier times to get you through. The good times should far outweigh the bad in anyone's book and you know that

28. You'd Leave If There Was Better Out There

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Once you start reaching your thirties and you are in a long term relationship, you should NOT be thinking that you'd leave if you could guarantee you'd find someone else. It's as plain as the nose on your face that this partnership is not making you happy and fulfilled.

29. Gut Feeling

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Your gut feeling is a very powerful indicator of your relationship. If you feel anxious and insecure with your partner and want more for yourself, then get out and find it. Being taken for granted and hoping things will improve is not going to happen. Listen to your gut.

30. In It Only For The Sex

Image source LoveAroundMeIf you find that you are putting up with a lot of stuff from your partner that makes you unhappy just so you can have sex with them, then it's going to be a rocky road. A healthy relationship needs to focus on emotional needs as well as physical and you are putting off the inevitable - it won't last.