30 Things Men Wish Women Knew

They value communication

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Sometimes it can be difficult to figure out what a man requires, and what he is thinking. Below is a list of things, that the majority of men, wish that women knew (this obviously doesn't include every man, but it gives a good idea of their common needs/thoughts). For example, clear and open communication is crucial in any relationship.

They have emotions

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Men experience a wide range of emotions, and are appreciative of understanding and support. It has become normalized for men to struggle silently with their emotions, and only dealing with them in unhealthy ways. This can be changed, when they don't feel shamed for feeling a certain way.

They appreciate compliments

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Just like women, men enjoy feeling appreciated and attractive. The majority of men are not used to being on the receiving end of a compliment, so they are more likely to appreciate genuine compliments. These compliments don't have to be complex, they can literally consist of complimenting their smile or outfit.

They value respect

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Mutual respect is essential for a healthy relationship, and is greatly appreciated by both men and women. It is important to note that respect should be earned, and a man is much more likely to command respect, if he is respectful himself. Respect is just part of being a decent human being.

Sometimes they need space

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Sometimes, men need time to alone to recharge, or pursue their interests. By having this time to themselves, they are able to form a self-care routine, which prevents the development of a pessimistic and dismissive attitude. These activities will vary from man-to-man e.g. watching sports, playing sports, crafts and exercise.

They can be vulnerable

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Encouraging emotional openness can help men express their feelings, without feeling as though they're being judged. Men can be just as vulnerable as other people, but it is common for them to hide this vulnerability behind a 'ultra macho' exterior/facade.

They want to be good partners

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Men often strive to be supportive and caring within their relationships, and will try their best to maintain a healthy relationship. This can be difficult from time-to-time, for both men and women, which is why communication is extremely important within every relationship.

They appreciate effort

 

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Showing appreciation for their gestures and actions can be meaningful, and will often help boost their confidence and overall mood. These gestures can vary, and will take on different forms in every relationship e.g. buying flowers, paying for dinner, surprising you with your favorite activity etc.

They can be self-conscious

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Body image and self-esteem issues can affect men as well, especially if they don't fit the stereotypically 'attractive' physique for men. The best way to help men overcome these issues, is by supporting them in any way possible e.g. exercising with them, surprising them with their favorite activity, being an active listener etc.

They value independence

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Maintaining individual interests and friendships is important to many men, and is crucial to the maintenance of a healthy relationship. Being able to have time away from your partner, and socializing with friends, allows you to continue being a part of your friend-based support system.

They want to feel desired

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Feeling desired by their partner, can be a significant source of confidence for men. This links back to the point about giving men compliments, especially for the maintenance of a healthy relationship. Sometimes men need some reassurance regarding their attractiveness, and this reassurance from partners is appreciated.

They like surprises

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Thoughtful surprises or gestures can make a man's day, and they will appreciate the effort you have gone to (no matter how big or small the surprise may be). It can be as simple as making their favorite meal, giving them a massage or watching a movie with them.

They appreciate honesty

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Honesty and trust are fundamental in any relationship, and men appreciate honesty as much as women do. Honesty is often the strongest basis for a healthy relationship, alongside clear communication. Without honesty, there can be no trust in a relationship.

They can struggle with insecurities

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Insecurities can affect men, just as they affect women. Having an understanding of this, and supporting men with any struggles they may have, is often greatly appreciated. These insecurities will vary from man-to-man, and will typically range in severity.

They enjoy deep conversations

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Engaging in meaningful discussions, can strengthen emotional connections, and build a sense of trust and understanding. This kind of discussion will typically occur after a strong relationship has been established, and a man feels as though he can open up more (emotionally).

They have different love languages

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Understanding your partner's love language, can help improve your relationship. Love languages refer to the ways in which people showcase their affection for others e.g. acts of service, words of affirmation, physical touch, quality time and receiving gifts. Your partner may have one, or a combination, of these love languages.

They need support in their goals

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Being supportive of their ambitions and dreams is important, and this support should be reciprocated by them (towards you). This kind of support showcases to them that you care about their long-term goals, and the lifestyle they want to have in the future.

They can be unsure about their role

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Clarifying expectations and roles within a relationship can be helpful, especially during the early stages of a relationship. This will often refer to roles around the home, as well as daily activities you share with your partner e.g. cooking, cleaning, general housework and responsibilities.

They can be sensitive to criticism

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Constructive feedback is appreciated, but harsh criticism can be extremely hurtful. By providing them with feedback, whether its within their professional or personal life, they can gain a better understanding of what they are doing well, and what they can improve on.

They value trust and loyalty

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Trust is a cornerstone of any healthy relationship, and as mentioned previously, trust is often based on a strong basis of honesty. Trust should be 100% mutual, and you shouldn't feel shamed by a partner, because of personal issue they may have. Trust should be established early on, and consistently built upon.

They can be hesitant to ask for help

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Offering assistance (when needed) can be appreciated, especially as men will often avoid asking for help (whether it's mental, emotional or physical). Men will remember if someone has been helpful, which gives them incentive to offer help to the individual, if/when they require it.

They like to be included

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Involving them in decisions and plans can make them feel valued, and encourages them to actively contribute ideas etc. This can be as simple as asking them their opinion on where to go for lunch/dinner, what outfit to wear or where they would suggest to go for a day out.

They appreciate you taking interest in their interests

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Sharing hobbies, activities and interests can be a great source of bonding, and they will appreciate the interest you have taken in their interests. This can include watching their favorite movie, asking about their niche interests and asking if they can involve you in their hobbies (in some way).

They don't always want to talk about their problems

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Sometimes, they prefer to solve issues on their own, as they don't feel the need to include you. You shouldn't feel rejected by this, as they are probably acting with your best interests in mind. They may feel as though there isn't much you can do to help them solve certain issues, so they don't want to cause you unnecessary stress.

They want intimacy

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Emotional and physical intimacy are both important to many men, and they may crave them more than they let on. These forms of intimacy are important within a relationship, as they allow you and your partner to explore a deeper emotional and physical connection, which is essential for the longevity/development of the overall relationship.

They can be romantic

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Men will often have their own ways of expressing love and affection (think back to their potential love languages). It can take a little while to get used to and understand their method of expression, but the relationship will become stronger, as you become more accustomed to them.

They appreciate patience

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Patience is important within any relationship, especially when your partner needs time to process their emotions and certain situations. Allowing them the time to process difficult emotions, will show them that you are respectful of their feelings, and that you can be trusted to support them through rocky patches.

They value trustworthiness

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As mentioned previously, trust is essential for a lasting and healthy relationship, and men appreciate trustworthiness. Trust is something that should be established, and strengthened throughout a relationship, whether it's platonic or romantic. It will ensure the longevity of a relationship.

They enjoy compliments on their abilities

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Recognizing and praising their skills and accomplishments, will often boost a man's confidence and self-esteem. This kind of compliment will be highly valued, and is something a man is more likely to remember. It can make them feel valued, loved and supported by you.

They want a partner that is authentic

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Being genuine and true to yourself, is greatly appreciated by a man, as it shows you are happy with your uniqueness, quirks, hobbies and interests. It also showcases to them, that you're not afraid to share these elements of your personality/character with them.