30 Subtle Hints She Wants To Get Out Of The Friendzone

1. She compliments you

Image Source - PinterestIf she doesn't want to tell you directly about her sexual attraction to you, she will let you know that she cares for you more than a friend, by giving compliments, such as how nice you smell or how good you look in those new clothes you've just bought.

2. Trying to get you to see her in a romantic way

Image Source - PinterestWhilst in conversation she may try and make you see her in a romantic way by saying things that would make you imagine her as your partner or in a relationship with someone else. This may include sayings such as “if you were my partner, then we would” or “If I had a partner, this is what I would do.”

3. Telling you how she feels

Image Source - PinterestIf she is getting impatient, this is the most direct way she will try and get out of the friend zone. One day she may pluck up the courage and tell you outright that she is interested in pursuing something deeper. So the decision on what happens next is yours!

4. Not letting you talk to her as a friend.

Image Source - PinterestAnother hint will be that she will not like you talking to her as a friend. She will want to avoid certain topics such as your recent love interests or dating problems, as people in a genuine relationship will never have these types of conversations.

5. She likes touching you

Image Source - PinterestPhysical contact is a sure sign that she likes you. She will always look to make an excuse to hug you, always sit as close as she can to you when you're together and may even kiss or slap you when play fighting. This will be a test to see if these feelings are mutual.

6. She mirrors your actions

Image Source - PinterestMirroring is the behaviour in which one person subconsciously imitates the gesture, speech pattern, or attitude of another. This is also usually a sign of attraction, so if you're interested in something further, don't ignore these actions and take her on that date she's craving.

7. She asks lots of questions.

Image Source - PinterestFancy a chat? No conversations will be short-lived if you're speaking to a friend who wants to be your future wife. Her curiosity about your life will be off the scale, so no topic will be seen as mundane, she will be happy to talk late into the night about anything and everything.

8. She flirts when texting you

Image Source - PinterestSomeone can act very differently over text messages than they do in person. When you're both spending time together she may act like a normal friend, however, over text she may become more confident and flirty. Possibly even using suggestive emojis.

9. Open body language

Image Source - RedditDo you have a good eye for reading body language? If the answer is yes, does she have her feet pointed toward you when talking, or does she exude a sense of warmth? These are signs that she is attracted to you! People show this open body language when they're interested in something more.

10. She vents to you about her boyfriend

Image Source - PinterestDoes she always complain about her current boyfriend and confide in you about their problems? Does she mention that she wants the relationship to end? If so, she may be trying to get a reaction out of you to see if you're jealous, which would indicate you have some feelings for her.

11. She is jealous of other girls

Image Source - ebaumsworld.Being jealous of other girls may suggest that she wants you all to herself, this could also mean that she feels threatened by others. She also might be insecure that you don’t have the hots for her and that you have your eyes on someone else instead.

12. She brags about you to others

Image Source - PinterestYou the man! Does she make it known to others that you're a great guy? Even to the extent that you feel a bit uncomfortable? Her praising you in front of other people is a good sign. It means that she likes you a lot and that she wants you to feel unique.

13. Inside jokes

Image Source - PinterestHumour is an essential factor in most friendships. This is also an essential ingredient in most romantic relationships. So, if she likes you more than a friend, she will make more effort to create some inside jokes that you use on a regular basis to bounce off each other's laughter.

14. She tells you she loves you

Image Source - PinterestIf she tells you directly that she loves you, then don't ignore this and assume that she is messing with you. Love is a powerful word and her expressing it to you may be more literal than you realise, especially if she makes statements like, "I love you so much" or, "I am totally in love with you"

15. She makes strong eye contact

Image Source - RedditHumans always make good eye contact when we like someone. If she locks eyes with you often, it shows that she’s really interested in you. It also indicates that she listens to you intensely and that she’s fully invested whenever you're both together.

16. She always smiles around you

Image Source - PinterestIf she always smiles when you're together, this could well mean she holds some level of feelings for you. This also demonstrates that she enjoys your company. Smiling can also be a sign of nervousness, but being nervous around someone can also indicate attraction.

17. She texts you right before bed (Or right when she wakes up)

Image Source - PinterestIf she always has you on her mind, she won't follow the usual communication rules. She may send you a message in the middle of the night because she can't sleep or first thing in the morning to update you on her latest dream. She will also always message you to say night.

18. She laughs (Even when your jokes are bad)

Image Source - RedditLaughter is an essential part of a healthy relationship. Many girls value humour in a partner and if she likes you, she will think you’re funny and may even believe you're more comical than you really are. She will likely laugh out loud even when your jokes are bad.

19. She avoids eye contact

Image Source - PinterestEven though it was mentioned previously that making eye contact is a sign she likes you, avoiding eye contact can also demonstrate her feelings, she may deflect her stare because she feels embarrassed or ashamed to look directly into your eyes for too long.

20. She doesn’t like your girlfriend

Image Source - RedditIf you're currently in a relationship, then it's certain she will not like your current partner. This may already be obvious as she could tell you directly that you deserve better, or this might be more discreet as she may be extra nice to you after having an argument with your girlfriend.

21. She posts pictures with you

Image Source - RedditSay cheese! If she constantly snaps a selfie with you and follows up by posting this on her socials, this is a sign that she is into you. This means she wants to show you off to the world and also hopes others make assumptions that you're officially an item.

22. She values your advice

Image Source - PinterestDoes your friend come to you when she feels stuck or scared for advice? Does she always follow up on what you tell her to do? If yes, this means she likely sees you more than just a friend. She also knows you can be trusted with her deepest darkest secrets.

23. She invites you to everything

Image Source - TwitterWhether she is going to the cinema, out for a nice meal, or attending a wedding, if she always wants you by her side, this shows that she is attracted to you! If you're always first on the plus-one list, then if you're interested, it might be a good idea to book a ticket for the back row at the cinema.

24. Her friends make positive comments about you two together

Image Source -  RedditDo her friends always say that you both would make a great couple? Do they always suggest that you should ask her out? If so, it's likely that she has told them that she likes you. She has probably even instructed them to try and get you to make the first move.

25. She wants you to know her family

Image Source - RedditIf a girl invites you to meet the family, then this means she wants you to be part of her everyday life. In normal circumstances, people won’t bring their partners to meet the family until they’re officially dating. So, if she’s currently just your friend and you're round for Sunday dinner every week, that's a clear indication she wants to be your girlfriend.

26.  She seems to want to make you jealous

Image Source - RedditIs she always talking about how she always has the boys chasing her on nights out? If this is the case, she might be trying to make you feel jealous. Her plan could be that if you think she’s hot property, you might be more likely to be interested in her!

27. She tries to make you feel special

Image Source - RedditA girl after your heart will always try and make you feel special! Whether it’s sending you a present or making your favourite dish, she will always go the extra mile. She will make this effort, as she wants you to be thinking about her in a positive way.

28. She blushes around you

Image Source - Wikipedia.Blushing is known to be a sign of nervousness. If she always blushes when you're with her, this probably means she is feeling nervous! This could also be a sign, that she wants your acceptance because she likes you and doesn't just want to be a friend.

29. She never seems bored

Image Source - RedditIf she never gets bored and seems to be having the time of her life each time you're together, this shows she finds you spellbinding and wants to spend as much time as possible with you. This will also likely be when you're both spending time alone in each other's company.

30. She starts trying your hobbies

Image Source - RedditIf your friend wants to get out of the friend zone, she will strive to learn about what you're interested in and what you like to do with your spare time. This will mean she will try and pick up some of your hobbies. This will also mean she will be able to spend more time with you.

31. She tries to have deeper conversations

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That isn't to say that two good friends can't have deep conversations, but you might find she's constantly trying to move away from the surface platonic conversations and talk on a deeper 'get to know you' level that you'd most associate with couples trying to connect!

32. The romantic flirting has been stepped up a notch

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Friends can harmlessly flirt without it meaning anything - most of the time it's just good banter! But have you noticed she's shifted up a gear when it comes to flirting, so much so that it's now crossed the line into serious romantic/suggestive flirting, that she continues with even if you don't react?

33. She encourages physical contact/closeness

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Wherever there is an opportunity to get physically close to you, she takes it. If you're out with friends for a meal, she'll make a point of asking someone to move so she can sit next to you. She'll call shotgun if you're the one driving, and she'll just stand or move a little closer whenever she can.

34. It's like she's trying to get her needs met by you

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Someone who's scouting you out for dating instead of just being friends is likely going to try and find out whether you can meet her needs in the way that she thinks you can. She might have started 'testing' you for things you'd usually associate with what a romantic partner might do, like cooking for her or taking her on a night out.

35. She tries to encourage one on one hangouts

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If she's serious about trying to get out of the friendzone, then she wants to be alone with you - period! In her mind, it might be that she believes the more one on one time she can get with you, the more likely it will be that she can seduce you into wanting to be more than friends.

36. And might even sulk about group hangouts

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She might also make a very big deal about how she's disappointed you're hanging out in a group. If she invites you somewhere and other friends end up tagging along, she might openly say that she thought it would just be the two of you, sulk about it or be in a bad mood.

37. They always get your opinion on other love interests

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This can be another hint they might be trying to make you jealous. It could be a throwaway comment at a bar like "Oh, that person is looking at me, do you think they're cute?" or it might be something more complex like trying to get your advice about someone they're dating.

38. She seems very interested in your future

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Of course friends will be interested in their pal's futures through general discussion (and the intention to stay friends into that future!) but for someone who wants to get out of that friendzone, she could be asking questions about your future because she's trying to gauge what you have planned, and whether you see her in it romantically.

39. And seems to want to align her future goals with yours

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Someone wishing to get out of the friendzone might also be willing to change their own plans to better fit with yours, because they're worried they'll lose you, or you'll meet someone else. They might plan to go to the same university as you, for example, because they're hoping to start dating you eventually.

40. She doesn't seem to really get it if you express disinterest

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You might have even noticed all these strong romantic gestures or the flirting, and have tried your best to politely let her down - but she either genuinely doesn't get it, or she's in denial and choosing to ignore it. No matter what you do, she continues to do the same thing!

41. She might never actually mention dating anyone else

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It could be that on the opposite side of trying to make you jealous, she doesn't want to make you jealous at all - because she cares about you, so she doesn't want to talk about dating other people because she only has eyes for you. When she's spending time with you, why would she waste time talking about others?

42. But she might ALWAYS mention how available she is

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Rather than keep quiet, though, she might be making a point of letting it be known just how single and available she is! She's not talking about dating anyone else, because she wants you to not only know she's available, but also that the reason she's not dating anyone else is because she only has eyes for you!

43. She seems to always be putting in the extra effort to impress you

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It's rare that friends go the extra effort looks and behavior wise to impress each other, as that's more a romantic/dating move. Friends are more likely to dress in hoodies than formal clothing just to hang out. So if she always seems like she's putting in extra effort with her looks for simple tasks/hang outs, it could be a sign.

44. She ignores your encouragement to date other people

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Either because you're oblivious to her come-ons, or because you're trying to turn her attention away from you, you might have actively encouraged her to go out and start dating other people - to which she's refused or playfully laughed it off, because why would she want to date anyone else?

45. She always seems at ease with you

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Good friends will be chilled and at ease around each other, but there's a certain 'at ease' exclusive to people romantically involved, like that comfortable silence between couples hanging out and not having to say a word. It often seems like she's at that level of 'at ease' with you, all the time.

46. She's always the one making first contact

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That isn't to say you don't make an effort, but before you even have chance to be the one to message or phone first, she's already done it. She's always the first one to contact you, to suggest meeting up, to ask what you're up to, or to ask whether you want to do something.

47. She's said her family wants to meet you

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Actually asking you to go and meet your family can be a sign, but it doesn't mean she's told them about you yet. This, on the other hand - telling you her family wants to meet you - means she's actively been talking about you, for them to know who you are... and that suggests a romantic interest.

48. And has said you'd likely get along with them

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Someone who is interested in your romantically is also likely to have spent time thinking how well you'd fit in with her family and if you'd get along (because she's thinking about a future together). She might have said you'd get along loads with her brother, or her mom would love you.

49. They might have suggested 'romantic' vacations

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There are certain vacations or trips that just scream 'couple' more than 'friends hanging out'. So every time she suggests a weekend trip or vaycay together, is it always something like exclusive-for-couples beach resort, a romantic location like Paris, or accommodation where you'd be cozily sharing?

50. Or even hangout spots that are more for dating

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This might also apply to everyday hangout spots rather than big locations. It could be a restaurant renowned for its mood lighting and romantic dates rather than a fast food place, or it could be a candlelit picnic on the beach, or a film night with pillows and projector screen.