Signs You Are Entitled

1. What does it mean to be entitled?

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Entitlement can play out in different ways, but at its core, it is when someone believes that they should get special recognition or treatment, even if they didn't do anything to earn it, they think they deserve it. These people are often self-absorbed and think that the world owes them something. They put their own needs before those of others. Do you think you're entitled? Keep reading!

2. You might be entitled if...

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You do whatever it takes to serve YOU. People who are entitled go out of their way to get the best for themselves, and it doesn't matter who gets in their way. They will step on and push aside anyone who doesn't serve their agenda, and they're often quite greedy in all areas of life.

3. No one is ever good enough for you

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People with a sense of entitlement think that they are superior to everyone around them. You are actually surprised when people won't do everything they can to serve you, and it tends to result in anger, a tantrum, or even violence. When you live life with this superiority complex, there's a sense that you deserve things you didn't earn, and that includes people's full attention and efforts. You despise those who fail to meet your unrealistic expectations and in fact, often punish them for it.

4. The rules just simply don't apply to you

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You might be entitled if you feel like you are so special that you should be treated better than everyone else. Because of this, there's often a sense that the rules don't apply to your life in any way, and any sort of guideline is merely a suggestion you don't have to follow. This means you're constantly bending the truth and pushing the boundaries... in a bad way!

5. People close to you have tried to talk to you about your behavior

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While it's really hard for you to keep anyone close, those who have tried have likely seen your behavior and tried to speak with you about it in a caring way. If you've ever been approached about being manipulative or controlling, then, this goes beyond a bad attitude and speaks to the fact that you're probably entitled. If you bully people to get your way, it might be time for some self-reflection.

6. There's a twisted victim mentality

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You're entitled if you think that you deserve way more than what you have in life. While this can be true when it comes to basic human rights, if you feel this way regardless of what you currently have, then it can become problematic. This can result in playing the victim for why you don't have these things and blaming everyone around you for your issues. You expect your life to be elevated without putting in any effort.

7. The word compromise is not in your vocabulary

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Again, back to the control thing. If you are narcissistic, then even little stuff like what movie everyone should go see or where to go for dinner becomes a HUGE deal. You HAVE to have your way at all times, and you probably look at compromise as other people being pushy. Your friends or partners may have told you you are unbending in your opinions, and they find it difficult to talk to you. You have a tendency to stonewall people.

8. You take pleasure in punishing people

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Perhaps one of the most sadistic traits of entitled people is that they actually find satisfaction in making people pay for falling short of their unrealistic expectations. This goes beyond any sort of disappointment into either insidiously or directly punishing people until they meet your needs. Whether it's stonewalling like we discussed or something more forthright like bullying, you will stop at nothing.

9. Everyone should agree with you all the time

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You might be entitled if you've reached a level of success and expect others to bend over backwards for you. If someone disagrees with you or tries to offer an opposing opinion, you will belittle them and make them feel as if they're wrong. You may even go so far as to tell them in a threatening manner that it is a horrible decision to disagree with you.

10. Morals and ethics mean little to you

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Entitled people are very goal oriented in their lives. While it's possible for this to be a very positive trait for most people, if you're entitled, then this will come at the expense of others, as we've discussed. But entitlement takes it one step further with a complete disregard for any sort of moral or ethical code when it comes to emotional, mental, or physical aggression.

11. You're not afraid to make a big scene

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When things don't go your way, you will 100% throw a fit. Entitled people are not afraid to turn on the dramatics when they're upset about not getting what they want. You may find that friends or family avoid you when you're in these states, because you will tear down everyone around you to remind them of how great you are.

12. Your niceness is just an exterior front

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You have a need to take on self-image goals and frequently find yourself in conflict with others. So you put up a front of being nice or even well-mannered, but deep down, the niceness or respect that you show is not how you truly feel, so resentment and feelings of superiority simmer and fester just below the surface.

13. You constantly have to control everyone in your world

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As much as you don't want to admit it, entitlement is often a result of deep rooted insecurity. People who are entitled usually have some form of feeling inadequate that plays out by exerting dominance over people. It's often not from a place of confidence, but rather from a place of not feeling good enough so, they want to appear in control. This makes it hard to collaborate with others. If you're entitled, you probably "unleash" power vs. building strong relationships.

14. You're not as self-sufficient as you think

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This might be surprising, but when you are entitled, you often aren't kind to yourself. This is because you never take responsibility to take care of your own needs, and you're constantly expecting everyone else to meet your needs for you. This results in self-neglect and even more dissatisfaction when you can't have your life fulfilled by others.

15. Gaslighting and manipulating feel normal to you

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When you're entitled, you like to belittle others and make them feel guilty for not giving you what you need or for disagreeing with you. You do this by making people feel selfish or insensitive or crazy. It could be in the form of name calling or yelling. When you diminish someone's self-worth, it's more likely they'll give into your demands to satisfy you.

16. You always expect something in return

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Entitlement means that you're never able to help someone or serve someone else without expecting something in return for your services. You think that even if you're volunteering your time, you're owed something. This is because you view what you're owed as "happiness" in the form of a reward.

17. Everyone and everything is a competition

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When you're driven by entitlement and view everything as a need for control, this turns everything and everyone into competition. You're unable to listen or learn or take directions, so much so that you actually resent having to follow any sort of instructions or guidelines. You're a highly suspicious person (aka paranoid) thinking that everyone around you is trying to take over your position of power.

18. You throw a lot of pity parties

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People who are entitled have no issues in letting others know how they feel. Because of their unmet needs, this means a lot of complaining about anything and everyone around them. These people consistently focus on the problem but never take time to think through any form of solution or take any action to make situations better for themselves.

19. You probably aren't reading this article

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Honestly, if you're entitled, you probably aren't even reading this article, because you would never think that anything you're doing is wrong or that you are the one who needs help. But if you have noticed this about yourself, recognizing it is the first step to change. In the long run, it will affect you negatively in every way from relationships to career.

20. Your life and priorities always come first

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We talked about putting your own needs first, and when you're entitled this is true NO MATTER the situation. You probably write off a lot of people because you are so focused on your own desires. Consequences don't exist to you, and losing people in your life is no exception. It's hard for your to empathize with someone's emotional or mental health, because you simply don't care. You demand for your needs to be met.

21. Not only do you love drama, you want to create it

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The world revolves around you and you alone. So the smallest inconvenience means you are ready to stir the pot. This often plays out in a sneaky and subvert way to cause absolute chaos around you. You secretly harbor a lot of self-pity that comes out in attention-seeking behavior that causes drama in other people's lives.

22.  You talk about yourself a lot

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Because you're only interested in yourself, you want to talk about yourself a lot. If someone tries to talk about something going on in their world, you often grow impatient or disinterested and figure out a way to bring it back to yourself. You also compare hurts by telling the person they have no right to be upset because you have it way worse.

23. Generosity is not important to you

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It probably goes without saying, but entitled people don't care about what others might need, so they don't tend to be generous with their time, money, or resources. While we know that they expect things in return from everyone else, they would never give anything to someone else that is of use or value to them. Also, their standards for what makes them worthy to receive something is very different than their standards for giving.

24. You loooove to argue

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Because you view yourself as better than everyone else, this includes what you say, so arguments are always juuuust below the surface, ready to go to full-on combat at any given moment. Entitled people will often argue just to make the other person feel smaller, or because it's impossible to admit a mistake was made. The entitlement will often make you close-minded, because you believe you're always right.

25. You can't differentiate between wants and needs

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When you're entitled, wants and needs are the same thing to you. This means that it's hard to make a healthy decision about your life, because you consistently want more and more, so you feel as though your needs are never met. It's impossible for you to let something go, because you view something you want as a NEED that you'll stop at nothing to get.

26. Happiness is something you're owed

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Because of an inflated sense of self, you genuinely believe that your happiness is something you deserve unconditionally. Regardless of how you treat people or the destruction you leave behind, you simply justify it as a way to get the happiness you're entitled to. You're probably quite vocal about your happiness no matter the cost.

27. You have an insatiable desire for praise

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Narcissistic people need to know that they are the absolute best. As we've said, this is often rooted in insecurity. So an entitled person may rely heavily on the energy from people's compliments or admiration. They use this energy to justify their bad behavior and to fill their hunger for attention that can never be satisfied.

28. You always feel disappointed

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If you are entitled, you probably find yourself experiencing chronic disappointment. This is due to unmet expectations that are unrealistic as well as continuing to reinforce a certain cycle of behavior within yourself trying to get what you want. In the long term, this puts you at risk both psychologically and socially.

29. It's hard to keep friends

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You might be entitled if you find it hard to develop meaningful friendships or even romantic relationships. This probably also plays out in relationships with your own family. People may be initially drawn to you because of the false confidence you portray, but ultimately, your entitlement fills you with negative energy, which results in people pushing you away as your self-centeredness plays out.

30. The relationships you do have, you take for granted

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Because you don't treat the people in your world like people, anyone who does happen to stick around you take for granted. When you're entitled, you view people as objects that you can do with as you please, so you view people by what they can give you vs. who they are. It's virtually impossible for you to place value on anyone and you have no intention of ever returning any favors done for you.