Reasons Why Life Is Harder When You Are Ugly

1. Constantly feeling isolated or lonely

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There might be a number of reasons why you feel constantly isolated or lonely.  It might be that your self-esteem is incredibly low so you decide to isolate yourself away from other people which can obviously lead to loneliness.  Or it might be that people around you are so shallow that they would rather see you isolated away from them.

2. Being avoided or shunned

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If people are that shallow, you might find them choosing to avoid you completely.  Or even when you make the effort to try and socialize or network with them, perhaps you experience being shunned pretty regularly.  This can make life so much more difficult, but remember, this says more about other people than it does about you!

3. Missing out on social opportunities

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If people are going out of their way to avoid you, or deliberately not making the effort to invite you out, there's every chance that you'll be missing out on so many social opportunities and the chance to make new friends or network with new people.

4. Being the target of negative gossip or rumors

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You might struggle with people being unkind to you or even about you behind your back.  There are people out there who just love to bring anyone down and they'll look for any excuse to do it.  So you might end up being at the center of negative gossip or unkind rumors.

5. Struggling to maintain relationships or friendships

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Please remember that what people find attractive varies from person to person and across cultures too!  But when someone calls you ugly, this probably squashes your self-esteem and this might affect how well you maintain your relationships and friendships with people.

6. Trouble with job opportunities

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People might even underestimate you and you might find that you're often overlooked for various job opportunities.  This might be their shallowness but if you have low self-esteem and your demeanor displays a serious lack of confidence, this can really affect whether you're offered a job or not.

7. Difficulty forming meaningful relationships

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And because of how other people have treated you throughout your life, you might have some real trust issues and this probably sees you having huge difficulties forming meaningful relationships with people, whether it's with a romantic partner or with a new friend.

8. Being seen as untrustworthy

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People do judge books by their covers, so there's every chance that you might be seen as untrustworthy.  But this is also true if your ugliness runs deeper and you are more ugly on the inside in how you treat people and how you make other people feel.  They might not trust you with their secrets or with tasks they need to do.

9. Being seen as unreliable

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And the same goes for being seen as unreliable.  Perhaps your lack of confidence in yourself makes people believe that you're not as capable as you are and this might make people unable to rely upon you for anything.  This might include at work and in your personal life.

10. Difficulty managing emotions

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You might also face some difficulties managing your emotions.  The truth is, if your self-esteem is at an all-time low and people are constantly judging you before they even get to know you, you're going to be exhausted.  And exhaustion makes everything feel so much harder, including how you manage your emotions and how you react to them.

11. Issues with stress

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If you're feeling isolated, and missing social opportunities and job opportunities, this can all have a knock-on effect on the rest of your life and cause you insane amounts of stress.  Stress can manifest in many different ways and can have detrimental impacts on both your mental and physical health.

12. Struggling to maintain healthy boundaries with others

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If you don't spend much time with other people for various reasons, when you do get the chance, you might really struggle to maintain healthy boundaries with them.  You might never say no to anything because you're too scared of losing your contact with them or you might be so insecure that you're going to be isolated again that you don't even leave their side.

13. Trouble with intimacy

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With low self-esteem and a complete lack of confidence in yourself, you might find it really difficult to be intimate with other people.  And this probably has nothing to do with anything they've done, but you might have been hurt in the past and don't want to let your guard down at all anymore.

14. Low self-esteem

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If people are constantly calling you ugly and avoiding spending any time with you or being seen in public with you, it's absolutely no wonder that your self-esteem is at an all-time low.  And this can really affect your mental and physical health in some really detrimental ways to the point that you stop looking after yourself.

15. Having a complete lack of confidence

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If people are constantly calling you ugly, it's not a surprise that you're lacking in any confidence whatsoever.  But you have to remember that this speaks way more to their ugliness and how shallow they are than what it means about you and your life.  It's important that you work on your confidence and try to unpack why you're treated this way, they are likely jealous of you!

16. Being underestimated

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When you're down on yourself and struggle with your confidence, it is very easy to display this to the world.  And if you lack that much confidence that you never put yourself out there, nobody is going to realize what you can do and you will probably face being underestimated a lot.

17. Consciously isolating or hiding away from the world

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So you might have been isolated by other people, but because of your low self-esteem, you might take steps to consciously isolate or even hide yourself from view.  This could result in you not going outdoors, avoiding people on the street, and risking your health by not taking care of yourself.

18. Struggling with mental health issues

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And if you're not taking care of yourself and spending your days alone with no human contact, you're probably going to suffer with your mental health.  It might even be that the stress you're experiencing causes you to have heightened anxiety and an increased risk of depression.

19. Struggling with personal hygiene or cleanliness

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Isolating yourself away from other humans might cause you to stop caring about your personal hygiene or cleanliness.  And if your self-esteem is so low, you might begin to feel unworthy of any kind of self-care, including showering and washing each day.  So it is important to get help before things get worse.

20. Being viewed as unstable or unpredictable

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If you're struggling to go outside so much that you're not turning up for work, and then when you manage to get out, you struggle with respecting and maintaining boundaries, it's no wonder that people find you quite unpredictable.  You might experience real highs and lows with your mental health and nobody can quite predict these so it makes you harder to be relied upon.

21. Missing opportunities

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If you don't leave your home, you're going to miss so many opportunities too.  These might be opportunities with work, including promotions and new job roles, opportunities to see the world, and even meet new people.  There's way too much out there to let pass you by!

22. Being seen as lazy and unproductive

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Even if people did invite you out, you would just turn them down anyway.  And this probably happens so much that eventually, they just stop calling so you inevitably lose touch.  Friendship and relationships are a two-way street, and even if you're struggling with your mental health, not opening up about it will make it so hard for other people to understand and you might risk being seen as lazy and unproductive.

23. Failure to take care of self

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So we've established that you might have had some difficulties with feeling like you deserve any self-care which even includes the basics of washing your face and brushing your teeth each day.  But you may also not do anything about addressing your mental health either.

24. Struggling to control anger

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There's so much negativity coming your way and this might be from other people, or it might even be just from yourself.  And on top of all of this, you're stressed too and struggling to deal with your emotions.  So it's no wonder that you're experiencing unpredictable outbursts of anger.

25. Exhibiting signs of aggression

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And if you're experiencing a lack of control over your anger management, you might have some problems with how you deal with it, including exhibiting some clear signs of aggression.  This can obviously cause people to want to avoid you, especially if you make absolutely no attempts to address it.

26. Constantly feeling in the middle of conflict

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If you're angry and reacting in aggressive and uncontrollable ways, you might constantly find yourself at the center of conflicts.  And it might be that you caused it, got involved, or reacted to the way that people treat you, including spreading unkind rumors and gossiping about you.  And even though it's inadvisable to act aggressively, you have every right to stand up for yourself.

27. Difficulty seeing the good in other people

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As the old saying goes: "If you can't love yourself, how on earth are you going to love anyone else?!"  And it's true - how do you expect to see the good in anyone if you can't first recognize it in yourself?  And if you can't see the good in people, how do you expect to make lasting and meaningful relationships with them?

28. Constantly feeling judged

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One reason you might not put yourself out there is that you constantly feel like you're being judged, and this can negatively impact anyone's confidence.  This might be a result of how people have treated you in the past or it might be down to your self-esteem issues.

29. Being a victim of bullying

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Some people will look for any excuse to be unkind to someone, and this could include physical appearance.  But the truth is, this doesn't mean you're the one who is ugly, it's them who are in fact displaying extremely ugly behavior with the way they treat others.

30. Negative and hateful self-talk

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Negative and hateful self-talk refers to how we speak unkindly to and about ourselves.  This could be internally within our own mind or it could be aloud to other people.  And understandably, it can be really detrimental to our self-esteem and our mental health, as well as stripping us of all our confidence.