Signs He Is Over Protective

1. He's always checking in with you

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An overprotective boyfriend will be constantly checking in with you. Where are you? Who are you with? What time are you home? Checking in now and then is good, but checking in constantly can feel more like he's checking up on you which is a very different thing.

2. He wants you to message him when you get home safely

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An overprotective boyfriend will always want to know when you're home safe which is totally normal because it's natural to worry if we don't hear from somebody, especially if it's at night time. He'll make it very clear that when you get home you should message before falling asleep so that he knows.

3. He's defensive when people criticize you

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If somebody criticizes you he gets super defensive because he hates anybody speaking bad about you or disrespecting you in any way. Sometimes he may even struggle to deal with people joking around because he gets super over-protective even if it is considered a joke.

4. He walks you home or to your car

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Of course, he wants to be the knight in shining armor, he'll insist on walking you home or walking you to your car to make sure that he knows you are home safe. If he gives you a ride he will walk you right to your front door or watch until you are in the house.

5. He asks you to take a portable charger in case your battery dies

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He's always prepared and like you to have a fully charged phone, portable charger, and anything else you could ever need because he's always thinking about what could happen and trying to prevent it. He wants you to be able to check in with him and does not want your battery to die!

6. He likes you to share your cab location with him

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When you get a cab or an Uber alone he gets very nervous and asks you to share your location with him so that he can track your ride. He hates you traveling alone and advises you to get a ride with one of your friends. If you don't share your cab location he'll call you instead.

7. He defends you when you're not there

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You know that even in your absence he's still super defensive about you and he'll not stand for anybody saying anything slightly negative about you. He will defend you and because he's overprotective he'll get angry and try and fight your own battles for you.

8. He gets jealous when other guys are around you

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One of the worst things for an overprotective boyfriend is dealing with how other guys are around you. He can be very possessive and thinks he has the right to stop other men from talking to you. If he sees a guy talking to you, you can bet he'll be there in a second.

9. He warns you against people he thinks don't have good intentions

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When a guy is too over-protective over you he can automatically assume the worst in people when it comes to their intentions towards you. It can make it very difficult to get to know people and to make new friends... especially when it comes to friends of the opposite sex!

10. He's always telling you to take it easy

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He doesn't like you to overdo it over exert yourself or stress yourself out. When he knows you working super hard or you have a lot on your plate he'll always be telling you to slow down and take a break. He's protective when it comes to you looking after yourself.

11. He doesn't like to add to your stress

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Because he's over-protective, sometimes he thinks you can't deal with things as well as you actually can. And, this means that he sometimes keeps things to himself in order to protect you from worrying. He never wants to add to your stress or what you've already got going on.

12. He worries when you're out alone

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The worst nightmare of an overprotective boyfriend is when you're out alone. If he knows you're walking home alone or you're just generally out and about on your own his head goes spinning into overdrive and he starts catastrophizing things that could happen.

13. They always want to be with you

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He ALWAYS wants to be with you, at all times. And while it can seem sweet it's actually way too much and everyone is entitled and should have their own personal space but he struggles to respect the boundaries when it comes to you having time without him!

14. He does things for you that you are capable of doing alone

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When someone does things for you out of love it's of course very much appreciated. But it can be taken too far. When he keeps doing things for you that you are perfectly capable of doing yourself it can feel undermining and you may feel like you have no independence anymore!

15. He overreacts to things that could be perceived as a little unsafe

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At the end of the day, everybody makes their own decisions. But, he's so over-protective that if he perceives these decisions as possibly unsafe he'll completely overreact. You feel as though he wants to wrap you up in cotton wool and take any decisions about your own safety away from you.

16. He won't sleep until he knows your home

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You know that as long as you're out and about, he's staying awake. And while this may seem super caring, it actually puts pressure on you to get home at a certain tie because you feel bad. It's a kind of emotional pressure that weighs on you whilst you're just trying to enjoy your night.

17. He can be overbearing or come across as controlling

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Over-protective boyfriends or partners can come across totally overbearing because it all gets a bit too much. Being protective is nice, but over-protectiveness can sometimes cross the boundary into controlling behavior that is toxic and not healthy.

18. He tries to make decisions for the both of you because he thinks it 'best'

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Is there anything more annoying than having a decision made for you? Not really. And that's exactly what he does. He claims that he made a decision in the best of your interests, and while that may be true, you should still be able to decide for yourself!

19. He sees every man as a threat

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This one gets old really fast because an overprotective boyfriend is constantly on guard. They see every single man as a threat. They may try to warn you of these men or even your own male friend who you have known for years and years, just because he feels threatened by them.

20. He gets super jealous

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He gets SUPER jealous about so many things. He's always on the lookout for guys and he perceives any actions towards you as 'flirty' or them trying to 'make a move'. It can be very difficult to have interactions with men without him getting too jealous which is a red flag!

21. He sometimes disregards your personal space

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Personal space is probably hard for you to come by if you're with an over-protective guy. He doesn't appreciate or respect personal space and boundaries because his over-protective instincts overpower them and it can be very overbearing when he's disregarding your boundaries!

22. He doesn't like you having a night's out without him

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He HATES it when you're on a girl's night out or a night out without him. He's on edge the entire time and you just know he's sat over-thinking, waiting for your next message and waiting for you to tell him that you're going home. It can make you feel uncomfortable when you're out and you know he's sat at home stressing.

23. He always wants to be the one you go to when you have a problem

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When you have a problem of any kind, he wants to be your first port of call. He would hate for you to talk to someone else about it first because he wants to be the person to fix everything for you. He wants to protect you from everything and he likes to be well in the loop.

24. He watches you

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He's like a hawk the way he watched you, you feel as though he observes your every move. For example, if you're out and about with him and you go to speak to someone or you go to the bathroom you know he's watching you, checking if anybody else is chatting with you, etc.

25. He acts like you are his

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Nobody owns anybody else, and you are never anybody else's. You are yours and that's it, but when it comes to him he acts and perhaps believes that you are his! He acts like he has rights over you and like he knows what's best for you, even more than yourself.

26. He sets 'rules' or 'limits' for you

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This here is red flag behavior because if he's setting you rules or limits, it's time to question the relationship. If he's setting you a curfew, or telling you how many drinks you can have, or anything along those lines it's completely controlling behavior!

27. He tries to tell you what you wear

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Nobody ever should tell you what to wear, aside from yourself. Anybody can choose what they want to wear and it's got nothing to do with anybody else. Asking for an opinion 'do you like my outfit?' is very different from him saying 'You're not wearing that, it's too short'.

28. He wants to know who you are talking to

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When he hears you on the phone he wants to know who you were talking to and what about, when he sees you on your phone he wants to know who you're texting. This over-protective behavior is not a healthy basis for a relationship, it's toxic and shows mistrust.

29. He doesn't like you planning anything without him or with other people

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If you told him you were planning a trip with your friends or you are going somewhere with someone on your day off and he's not included in the plans he will NOT be happy if he's over-protective. He wants to be in all your plans, all of the time, to leave no room for anything without him.

30. He's possessive

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Over-protective guys often get possessive. He acts like he owns you and he feels like nobody else can have you! This is toxic behavior and it will make you feel as though you have no autonomy over yourself because he is so over-protective and possessive of you!