Signs Someone Is A Man Hater!

You make huge generalisations

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You find it difficult not to lump all men together - you've heard so many stories! And you've know so many men over the years that have stuck to those stereotypes, why wouldn't you assume that all men are the same? They make so many generalisations about women, it's understandable that you would do the same thing. Aren't men from Mars and women from Venus anyways?

You don't trust the 'nice guys'

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Do nice guys even exist? All the men you've known haven't been. They've never respected you like a nice guy should. We've heard the tropes too - all nice guys are trying to do is to get more intimate with you, they're not actually trying to be your friend. Why can't there be guys out there who want the best for you, look out for you, and not expect something more?

You tell your friends to break up with their boyfriends

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No man is good enough for your girlfriend. You know she could do so

much better. You feel like it's less about man-hating and more about loving your friend, knowing and believing that she could do so much better than the jerk she's with now. And, most importantly, you'd get to spend more time with her on her own, and it can go back to the good ol' days.

You're single

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You don't want to even think about going near a man, let alone be in a serious relationship with one. You don't mind the occasional overnight visit when things get dire, but imagine spending 24/7 with a guy? You wouldn't get to watch any of the shows you wanted. You wouldn't get to do whatever you want with your time. You need your freedom! And you're only human for that.

You're competitive

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Do you sit across from a man and automatically feel the intense need to destroy him at whatever game you're playing (it's probably Candy Land)? Or maybe you're mid-argument and you can hear your friends telling you to chill out, but you won't be able to sleep if you don't win? It's not about the situation anymore, you need to show this man that you're a worthy opponent and he will rue the day he ever got to the Gingerbread Plumtree before you!

You can't stand male characters

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You could never understand the fascination with Don Draper or Walter White or even Chandler from Friends. These men just never interested you. You were much more invested in the plight of Daenerys Targaryen (SPOILERS: she was the real Queen of the North) than anything Jon Snow ever did. You have always skewed more to women's stories than to men's, and you're not ashamed of that.

You believe all men cheat

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It might not have happened to you, but it's definitely happened to someone you love. They're all capable of it. And that gut-wrenching feeling of betrayal could have been avoided if your loved one has just listened to you and your wisdom in this area. You haven't met a man who has exceeded your expectation in this department so you keep a watchful eye out for when his goes wandering...

You only have female friends

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Ever since Kindergarten, you've known that the people you get on best in this world are girls, women, and ladies. You have no issues admitting to it that you just think women are better! Who else can you talk about your innermost thoughts with? Or share bright pink nail polish with? Or feel at ease gossiping in front of. Women have always served you in a way you can't put your finger on and they will always be the ones in your inner circle.

Your playlists are full of female artists

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Okay, so you don't hate Harry Styles, but who can compare the works of the Spice Girls to anything he's ever written? And when you hear the sweet melodies of Shania Twain, man! You feel like a woman! The sound a man's voice grates on you too harshly, so when you need to get yourself together or clean the whole house top-to-bottom or dance as if nobody's watching, who run the world? Girls!

You roll your eyes when men talk

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Maybe you're at work and a guy opens his mouth to tell you that he thinks Die Hard is not and should never be considered a Christmas film. Maybe you're waiting at the bus stop, headphones lodged firmly in your ears, yet you can still hear the arrogant sounds of some dude's tinny speaker. Maybe you're you're telling your date about how much you love spending time at the beach, but he has to interrupts you with another inane gym story. *Insert eye roll here*.

You hate listening to men

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Not only do you roll your eyes, but you can almost hear the white noise kick in the second he opens his mouth. You make a swift exit to leave the room so you don't have to listen to him. You daydream about what it would be like if you could physically turn the volume down. It's even got to the point where you change your GPS to a woman's voice, just so you know you will take the instruction.

You cringe when a man compliments you

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Did you ask for his opinion? Absolutely not! You don't care about what he thinks about you, you're happy being completely left alone. Why does he think you need his validation when you know your outfit was cute? You know your joke was funny? You know you aced that presentation? The answer? You don't! He needs to turn his attention somewhere else. However, when a woman compliments you... well, that's just sweet!

You find it difficult to work with men

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Let's face it: in 90% of work environments, men are going to be there. They're everywhere! But it's especially difficult when you have to spend 8 hours a day, 5 days a week listening to their opinions, or hearing them take credit for group work, or giving their opinion on something you are clearly already managing. And when they get a promotion over you? You've never felt rage in your ears before.

You think you deserve more

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A lot of the time, it feels like men are the obvious choice. Maybe it's for a promotion, or your dad's attention, or as the goalie in the office's football league. But how is that fair? Is it because there feels like there's more of them? Why can't you be the obvious choice for once? You feel like you deserve better than the treatment you get, and you certainly deserve more than men.

You're argumentative

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You might think of it as your strength, or maybe it's one of your weaknesses but you are so argumentative. With women? Not so much. But when it comes to kicking up a fuss with a man, you cannot help yourself. It's the competitive nature in you, and especially when something like religion, money or politics comes up, you can't idly sit by and let this man dominate the conversation.

You love DIY

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A wise woman once said that "if you want something done, do it yourself",  

and who can argue with that logic? You just love DIY. When the washing machine breaks, or the hot water goes cold, or the backyard is overgrown with weeds, why hire some guy to come and do what you could do yourself? YouTube tutorials have become your best friend. Even your mom has asked if you can come help out around the house!

You don't get on with your dad

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Your first word was "mom" and that ruined any kind of relationship with your dad from then on in .You've always been a girl's girl, gossiping with your mom about the neighbours, and, when he knew you weren't going up for the local soccer team, your dad just seemed to pull back. Or maybe you don't have a relationship with your father and that's informed your relationships with men. All you know is that on a Sunday night, it's your mom you call.

You don't have any brothers

 

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And thank goodness you don't! Never having a younger male presence in the house, you never got used to the shenanigans boys so often get up to. You and your sisters, on the other hand, used to braid each other's hair, quote Legally Blonde (you were always Elle Woods) and take equal turns on the swing set in the backyard. Now, you're the best of friends - who can imagine what a boy would have done to that dynamic?!

You believe in male privilege

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Without a doubt, you know that male privilege exists in this world. You've seen how they get treated in the office, high-fiving each other, going out for drinks after work, even running with an idea you know a female colleague originally had. Even the most trivial stuff can show just how favoured they are: the A/C is on? Men run hotter so they need the office to be cooler, even when you're in the thickest Zara jumper you could find. Steve has a bad day and he's just stressed and needs a drink. You have a bad day and it's because you're on your period. You know men will always be the privileged ones and it makes your blood boil.

You blame men

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It just always seems to be their fault. Sometimes it's a difficult thing to face, but when we can't own up to our own mistakes, we can find it easier to blame others for our misfortunes, and it just so happens that that tends to fall under the remit of men. If women were to blame, you are sure you would easily tell them what they had done, but wasn't it men who put the world in the state it's in now? It's tough to argue with such concrete evidence.

You love feminist dystopias

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And who could argue with that? Be it the powerful women in The Handmaid's Tale, or the bravery of Katniss Everdeen in The Hunger Games, you love a strong female character who does everything she can to battle the tyranny of men. You could read Station Eleven over and over and over again...You find these sci-fi novels as escapism and an opportunity to see the capabilities of women, far beyond your everyday life.

You think men should get paid less

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It might not seem totally fair, but when you consider how long women have been underpaid in comparison, you're sure you should be making more than your male counterpart. You're not even counting the fact that you work an extra 10 hours a week to make an impression, and he finished early yesterday to go a concert. You just want to be appreciated for your evidence, and it would make it so much sweeter if it came out of his pocket.

You hate war films

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Unless they have Matt Damon in and then maybe you can be convinced, but all in all, they're such a tough watch. Who wants to spend 3 hours of their lives watching men run around on a field with those little tin helmets on? If you're going to watch a historical film, it's going to be Marie Antoinette and you will, without a doubt, be eating a whole cake whilst you watch it.

You won't be alone with men

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This could be for multiple reasons: you don't get their humour, or you don't feel comfortable in their presence, or maybe you don't feel totally safe, and that's okay. It's a trust thing. You're not sure what could happen if you're by yourself with them, and you would always much prefer another gal be around, even if it means you spend the whole time rolling your eyes.

You stay away from sports bars

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Women's soccer is elite. Venus and Serena Williams have completed dominated tennis. Basketball was your favourite thing to watch after school. But sports bars? Why would you want to spend your time in a cramped, hot environment, always just out of reach of the chicken wings, listening to men scream at the top of their lungs? You'd rather chill at home in your pjs, waist deep in sweet potato fries and sipping on a lite beer.

You vote for women or not at all

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The 2016 election meant you finally had a chance of a woman in the White House. Yeah, she may have had some skeletons in her closet, but she could have changed the country and made history! You find that you don't want to give you vote to a man who will continue the work of other men; you want to put it where it counts - in the hands of women. However, it is pretty cool that we have a woman Vice President. Biden is alright in your books.

You don't read books by men

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If you're going to take the time to pick up a book, it's a female author or bust. When you found out Taylor Jenkins Reid was a woman, you picked up Daisy Jones and the Six so fast, you barely had chance to read the back. While you can appreciate that men have made some great strides in literature, you will always pick up a Harper Lee over a J.D. Salinger any day of the week.

You're scared of men

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Let's face it: they can be scary. They're taller, wider, hairier and those deep voices can unsettle your stomach. We've all walked down a dark street, keys in hand, because we weren't quite sure who was walking towards us. Yes, it was just your neighbour this time, but you never know. You're not alone in that. It's evolutionary that they're slightly more intimidating, and who wants to spend time with that when you could be with your gals?

You've never had a successful relationship with a man

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You've tried, you really have, but you can just never quite seem to get relationships to work with men. Your significant others have tended to either annoy, interrupt or ignore you, and you feel you deserve better than that kind of treatment. Maybe a man will come along at some point who can prove you wrong, but it's easy to hate men when they can't stop themselves from breaking your heart.

You don't respect men

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You roll your eyes. You walk away. You turn your music up louder. His opinions are disregarded. You think you know better than him. You find it easy to make jokes out of his flaws. It's clear that you just don't respect men, and when they behave the ways they so often do, your hatred of them can build and build and build. Who cares about his opinion? You would be happy in an entire world without men.

You wish you could live in a feminine utopia

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Above all else, you just wish you could live in a world entirely devoid of men. A world where women can share ideas, write poems, and recite the entire Dinner Party episode of Real Housewives of Beverly Hills without any form of judgement (or, more importantly, interruption). You would give your left kidney to live amongst just women, and know that you could work together to not just survive, but to thrive.

Signs you're a female misogynist

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Misogyny is something often associated with men against women, just as being a man hater - or misandrist - is more often associated with women against men. But did you know women can be female-haters, too? A lot of the time they don't even realize they are, or might not consciously do it, whereas others might go out of their way to be so! Here are some signs to look out for.

What causes female misogyny?

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You might be wondering what can cause a woman to hate on other women when the world is hard enough as it is! There are few different reasons some women can feel some misogyny towards other women. A big reason can be that they're actually projecting from low self esteem or self-dislike to themselves as a woman. Another reason is because they have an idea of how the 'perfect' woman should be, and anyone who isn't that, they dislike.

You embrace an idea of the 'perfect' feminine personality

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One of the biggest signs can be that you have a set idea of the perfect way a female should be, you strive to be that, and you won't budge about it. This is usually the idea that the female personality should be domesticated, nurturing, always striving to look as young as possible, and may even extend to your opinions about 'purity' and s*x (so no s*x before marriage).

You think you're a prime example of this ideal

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Not only do you think this is the perfect way for a woman to be, but you think that you're the most perfect example of this. You might have full confidence in yourself that you're the prime example of a WomanTM, and also strive to do everything you can on a daily basis to make sure you're being the perfect woman, such as skincare to look youthful, doing the chores for your man, etc.

You show hate/distaste of women who aren't that

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It's okay to be this way if that's the way you want to be, while respecting other women, but signs of a female misogynist can include when you show an obvious disapproval or even hatred of women who aren't that ideal you have in your mind. So anybody who isn't the perfect housewife, who isn't 'feminine' enough or anything that isn't you, you might start hating on.

You think it's important to learn how to keep your male partner happy

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It's of course important in a relationship to try and keep each other happy and respect each other, but for you, it's more about that 'traditional' view of a woman needing to do everything she can to make her man happy, make it her day's work to do everything for him, while a man can do what he wants with 'his woman' to always be there to depend on. You completely agree with that way of thinking.

You really don't like women who are too 'alpha'

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Some women might be naturally bad at being 'feminine' because it doesn't come naturally to them, or other woman might go out of there way to style themselves in a more masculing way - whatever the reason for other women being more of a dominant personality, you don't agree with it. Your idea of what a woman should be is more submissive than alpha, and this goes for clothing, hairstyle and personality!

And you show disdain for women who aren't 'feminine'

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But you don't just keep your disagreements to yourself and treat other women with respect regardless, you react negatively to any other women you think is being too alpha, or isn't being your idea of 'feminine'. You might feel like you always have to comment things, whether in person or on online posts, about what you think in regard to the way they look or act.

You support traditional gender roles

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Some people love traditional gender roles, and some don't - there's no right or wrong, it's about what makes you happy! But in this day and age, more people are fighting for less of traditional gender roles and more of an equal footing between men and women's roles. For you, the traditional roles just make sense. You think men should be the dominant bread-winners with their dinner ready on the table by the compliant housewife happy to make them happy.

You might actually think you're the odd one out

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It can also be normal to think that you're the odd one out and a bit of a 'female misfit' for feeling this way, when a lot of other women enjoy being more dominant, more independent and basically the opposite of how you feel. Because you feel like the odd one out, it can also risk you reacting more negatively to other women as a defence mechanism.

You think women can only have a lasting relationship if they're less 'alpha'

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Because of your ideas of how women should be or these traditional gender roles, you might also think that the only way a woman and a man can have a successful long-term relationship is if the woman isn't alpha. This is because you think an alpha woman and an alpha man will constantly clash, and you think it should be the woman's role to step back for the sake of peace!

You think being submissive is easier

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A lot of women actually prefer being submissive because it's just easier everyday not to have to think as much. Some people are leaders, some are followers, and for some women they might think it's easier for them to just be told what to do everyday and do it, without having to worry about taking the lead or being the alpha one. For some women, being more submissive for their partner is just easier, and they're happier with that.

You don't agree with your male partner adopting 'feminine' roles

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It actually might make you feel weird or uncomfortable if your male partner offers to, or tries to, do roles you think are more feminine, or should be reserved for the woman. You'd much rather do these things yourself than he do them, even if he's trying to help. You might much prefer him being the alpha leader, and it might make you feel like he's being less dominant if he does a feminine task.

You don't like yourself

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It's also possible for female misogynist to be really extreme in their dislike of women, to the point where you're just not a fan of any woman, including yourself. This can extend to more than just low self-esteem, as you might dislike yourself on principle that you're a woman, thinking that women are 'lesser' and therefore you're less no matter what you do.

You tar every woman with the same brush - including yourself

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Both misogynist and misandrists can make really unfair generalizations or assumptions about an entire sex, no matter what the individual people say or do, and for you, you're very quick to assume that every woman is the same no matter what, including yourself. And this idea of how all women are is a negative one - namely, doing things to be ashamed of.

You might be in denial about not liking yourself

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It's also possible that you're in complete denial about your dislike of yourself. You might have no idea you're actually acting this way, or you might choose to ignore how negative you're being, or get defensive if someone brings it up. Sometimes, you can even be in denial about hating yourself, but be honest about how you dislike other women!

And you might be in denial about your distaste of other women, too

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It might be that you're completely in denial about any of it - you think you're happy with yourself, and you think that you're kind and respectful to other women, and never think you're doing anything wrong. You might be forcing yourself to ignore your behavior, or it might actually make you feel bad if someone points it out causing you to rethink your views!

You think you're superior to other women

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Having self-confidence is really important and loving yourself, even more so! But that shouldn't come with the cost of thinking everyone else is less than you. So if you have a complex about every single other woman being inferior to you - no matter who they are, or how they act - it could be because you have the idea of the 'perfect woman' in your head, and you think you're her (therefore better!).

You always feel like you're in competition with other women

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It's natural for a lot of women to do this without meaning to be unkind. It can come from a place of anxiety or insecurity. You might worry about what to wear for a party because you want to look just as good - or better - than other women. Maybe you have a crush on someone and are trying to impress them. But it goes more into misogyny territory when you have this undying need to be better than every other woman.

You make it your mission to 'fix' other women

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Because you have this idea of how a perfect woman should be, you've made it your life's mission to try and change other woman to become that perfect ideal, because you think they all need to be fixed. No matter if they're happy with who they are, you think if they're not like you, then they're wrong, so you need to say or do what you can to guide them on the right path!