30 Things Women Wish Men Knew

1. Declaring 'I love you' any time around s*x doesn't mean anything

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Men, if you're looking to say I love you for the very first time, you definitely don't want to do it before, during or after s*x. Women aren't going to believe you really meant it - even if you actually did - because you'd likely just be swept up in the moment. So save it for a better time!

2. Not every woman wants big muscles

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A lot of men think the most attractive they can be is looking like Arnold Schwarzenegger in his bodybuilding days - some women are into that, sure, but definitely don't go around thinking that's what every woman wants, and what a 'real man' should look like - it's not the case.

3. 'Fine' does not mean fine

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Okay, so women have a reputation of saying 'I'm fine' when they're absolutely not, but it also counts the other way around. If we ask you something, like how was dinner, how do we look in this outfit, or how was s*x and you say 'fine'? Not a good move. We need more positive feedback than that!

4. Shifting into high gear is not a good look

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Women don't really understand why you're trying to treat it like a race, and it's off-putting. If you're serious about her, take it slow - it's not a bad thing. The only reason you could have for rushing it, saying 'I love you' and declaring marriage within the first week is either because you want s*x or you're love bombing - both are red flags!

5. Those selfies aren't as hot as you think they are

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Women and men alike take posey selfies - especially after a gym workout - but men, if you're a serial selfie taker and that's all we can see on your dating profile or your social media, it's not as impressive as you think it is and it just makes us think you care too much about your appearance.

6. Treat a woman how you'd want your family to be treated

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If you have a sister, then think about the kind of guy you would want her dating. Would you want your sister's boyfriend to treat her the way you treat other woman? Same goes for your mother. Have the same respect for girls you're dating as you'd want your mom to receive.

7. Being smart isn't 'geeky' or a turn-off

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There's this unfair stigma about the 'more dumb' football guys being the ones who get all the girls, and the geeky smart guy being the one who never gets attention. Let's stop that right now! Intelligence is hot, it always has been, and always will be. So you don't need to act more dumb for our benefit.

8. Being kind to pets and children is a huge green flag

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It doesn't matter if we actually want children or pets with you eventually, what matters is that through being kind to pets and children shows us that you're dad material, or just a very compassionate and sweet guy. And those are all big green ticks in our book. (And you don't actually have to like children to be nice to them!).

9. Being a gentleman is timeless

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There's absolutely no situation where chivalry is going to be a bad thing. This doesn't mean you have to be the breadwinner, the guy who pays for the meal or 'the one who wears the pants' - it's about simple kind acts, like opening the door for us. It's not a big deal.

10. If we wear makeup, no we're not catfishing you

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It's your own fault if you think that women naturally have black winged eyeliner and are absolutely shook when they wake up without it. Makeup is a way of women expressing themselves - they're not trying to trick you. If you're not attracted to her without makeup, that's your own decision, but it's not the woman's fault.

11. We have normal bodily functions too, you know

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Yes, women poop, belch and everything in between - because, news flash, women have regular human bodies too. So don't be surprised or think it's 'so cool' that your girlfriend is comfortable doing those things around you because... we're just being a normal person.

12. We really can't help it on our periods - and we could use your help

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Periods are painful, messy and difficult - and believe us, we don't want to be going through it either. So if we're a little cranky, please just be patient - and it actually makes the world of difference if you help us with cramps, make us feel comfortable or just be nice to us instead of avoiding us like we're some sort of menstrual monster.

13. Speaking of - if we're angry, no it's not 'that time of the month'

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It's the most frustrating thing in the world for a woman to be told she must be due on if she shows any small sign of emotion. We can get angry and upset without having to blame it on our period or hormones, and our feelings are valid. If we're angry, try understanding why.

14. The girl who's 'not like other girls'

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If a girl isn't like other girls, then she won't have to tell you that - because she's not even thinking about it, and doesn't have something to prove. So if you have someone who's constantly telling you how different they are and how they're not like other girls, you should probably avoid!

15. Being nice doesn't mean we're flirting

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We understand it's a difficult terrain to navigate trying to understand if a woman is flirting with you, but the main thing to remember is that the bare minimum of being nice, smiling and being friendly doesn't mean we want to jump in your bed. Please, just stop with that.

16. If we said no once, don't ask again

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If you asked a random woman at a bar if she'd like a drink, if she'd like to go on a date, if she'd like to sit with you - and everything in between - and she said no? Take that as no. You asking again doesn't mean she's going to change her mind, and it's not suddenly a 'mission accepted' type deal. Just leave her alone.

17. Women love it when you speak positively about your mom

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Women love it when guys show respect for other women in their life, but especially their mom. How you speak about your mom and how you treat her is going to affect our opinion of you, and if you speak about/treat your mom highly, we take it as a good sign you'll treat us the same way.

18. But don't be a mama's boy

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There's a difference between respecting and loving your mom, and being a mama's boy, though - and the latter is a huge turn off. Women don't want a man who has an unhealthy attachment to his mom or still depends on her for cooking, cleaning and a place to live.

19. Don't tell a woman she looks tired, ever

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They already know they look tired, they can see it in the mirror and they most definitely feel it - so they don't need you to tell them that. Instead, give her a compliment to make her feel better. She already knows you know she looks tired, just don't say it out loud - it doesn't help!

20. Not every woman expects you to pay for everything

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This entirely depends on the type of woman you go for, and what you prefer to do in a relationship - it's all valid, but don't assume every woman is just out to have you pay for everything. A lot of women also want to pay 50/50 or take care of the bill. So don't go in with assumptions!

21. Call them beautiful sometimes

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Sure, it's a huge compliment to be called hot - but don't call women hot all the time. This has a bigger focus on looks only, and being called beautiful sometimes is such a huge deal. It sounds - and feels - sweeter. Go for other compliments, like gorgeous, beautiful and wonderful!

22. It's not all about the price tag

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Definitely don't think that you can win any woman over with a huge, expensive gift, or that that's what every woman wants. Trust us, it's much sweeter if you think of a thoughtful gift that hardly costs a penny - or plan a date that doesn't cost anything - than just going out to buy an expensive pair of earrings.

23. Nice guys don't finish last

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Don't think that to win a woman over you have to be a 'bad boy', you have to play hard to get or you have to act a little ruthless. Most women who are into 'bad boys' know the difference between crushing on a character on screen and the guy they actually want in real life - and what they want is a guy who's going to treat them well.

24. And nice guys don't have to say they're nice guys

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If you have a man going around telling everyone how nice he is, it's pretty much the same deal as a woman going around telling everyone she's not like other women. If you're a nice guy, you don't have to shout it from the rooftops - show it through your actions. All it tells us is that you're not actually a nice guy if you say it.

25. Don't ask us out at the gym

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If a woman is at the gym, she's there to workout. If she has headphones on, she doesn't want to talk. It's not a dating pool at the gym, so definitely don't interrupt a woman's workout to tell her you're interested or ask her out. And definitely don't stare at her while she's working out, either!

26. If we don't want s*x, it's likely us

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That's not to say a woman can't be turned off by a partner sometimes, but if you're in a happy relationship where you're attracted to each other, it's very likely the reason she doesn't want to get intimate one night is because she's having a bloated 'feeling fat' day and not feeling very sexy. Don't think it's about you, or that she's not attracted to you.

27. If she doesn't have any female friends, be wary

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If the woman you want to date, or are dating, doesn't have a single female friend - or maybe not any friends at all - you have to question why. There might be an innocent reason, but it's worth flagging up... because it could be this is a difficult or toxic person.

28. If you want to cheat, just break up instead

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Honestly, if you're at the point where you'd happily cheat on a woman you're dating? Just do everyone a favor and break up with her instead. Why bother stringing her along and going behind her back when you clearly don't want to be with her. The woman would choose you breaking up with her over cheating on her, every single time.

29. Flowers and chocolates don't fix things

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Honestly, if you've upset or hurt your partner, they'd much rather you come home empty handed with a genuine apology and being willing to talk and fix things, than arrive home with a bouquet of flowers and expecting that to just be the apology without you fully understanding what you did wrong.

30. If a woman is asking about kids and marriage, she's not 'crazy'

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Let's all be grown ups here - if a woman is asking your views on kids and marriage in the early stages of dating, it's not because she wants to get pregnant and married the next week. You need to make sure your values align, otherwise you're both wasting time. If she doesn't want kids and you do, then everyone needs to know that. It doesn't mean she wants commitment when you've only just started dating!