We Adopted a 7-Year-Old From an Orphanage—The Second She Saw My Husband, She Screamed, ‘Oh No… Not Him Again!’

We adopted a seven-year-old girl who needed a home as much as I needed to be a mother. I thought bringing her into our lives would heal us. I never expected that the first time she saw my husband, she would scream like she'd seen a monster. The reason she was so terrified is something I'll never forget.

My name is Nancy, and I can't have children. When I was 23, a doctor sat across from me and gently said the words "congenital infertility."

I'd dreamed of being a mother my entire life.

As a little girl, I used to wrap my dolls in blankets and rock them to sleep. I'd whisper stories to them. Promise them I'd always keep them safe.

I'd dreamed of being a mother my entire life.

When the doctor said I'd never carry a child, my heart broke. But not long ago, hope filled my life.

My boyfriend, Stephen, and I got married. We bought a big house with too many empty rooms. As a wedding gift, he turned one of those rooms into a nursery.

He painted the walls bright yellow, laid down soft carpeting, and filled the shelves with books and tiny stuffed animals.

I stood in the doorway and cried.

He turned one of those rooms into a nursery.

"We can still be parents," he said softly.

"How?"

"We adopt. We give a child a home. A family. Love. Everything."

I fell into his arms and sobbed. But not from grief this time.

Stephen is a trauma surgeon. Three weeks after we decided to adopt, he got a call.

It was a month-long humanitarian medical mission overseas, responding to a region still reeling from a natural disaster. He had to leave.

"We give a child a home."

"I don't want to go," he said. "But..."

"You have to. People need you."

"The adoption..."

"I'll handle it. I promise."

He signed all the pre-approval documents through our private adoption agency and authorized me to begin the process.

The night before he left, he held me close. "If you feel it, you'll know. Trust your heart."

"I will."

He signed all the pre-approval documents.

***

I visited the orphanage two days after Stephen left. The social worker walked me through the common room.

Children filled the room, some laughing loudly, others playing in small groups, and a few sitting quietly in corners.

I met several sweet kids with bright smiles.

Then I saw her. A little girl sitting alone by the window, coloring carefully in a book.

She was talking to herself softly, telling a story to her crayons.

I met several sweet kids with bright smiles.

I knelt beside her. "Hi. What are you coloring?"

She looked up, her dark eyes peeking through messy braids, a small gap-toothed smile spreading across her face as if she'd been waiting for someone to notice her.

And I felt it.

The feeling Stephen had told me about. Like a part of me recognized her before my brain could catch up.

"I'm making a rainbow house. For people who don't have homes," she said.

"That's beautiful, sweetie."

She'd been waiting for someone to notice her.

She handed me a purple crayon. "You can help if you want."

Her name was Giselle. She was seven years old.

She had been abandoned and was now in permanent state custody, eligible for foster-to-adopt placement.

The agency explained that because Stephen had signed the pre-approval documents and our home study was already complete, placement could move quickly.

"How quickly?"

"Pending the final court hearing? About a few weeks."

She had been abandoned.

I called Stephen that night.

"I met her."

"Tell me everything," he urged, happy and excited.

I described Giselle. Her laugh. Her stories. The way she'd shared her crayons with me.

"She sounds perfect, Nancy. Perfect!"

***

Three weeks later, the placement was approved, and Giselle moved in.

On her first night home, I read her a bedtime story, and she fell asleep with her small fingers wrapped around mine.

Three weeks later, the placement was approved.

The house that had been too quiet suddenly filled with laughter, questions, and the patter of small feet on hardwood floors.

Every morning, Giselle helped me make breakfast. She insisted on standing on a stool to stir the pancake batter herself. Every evening, we did puzzles at the kitchen table.

She told me about her dreams of having a dog someday, about how much she loved the color pink, and about how deeply she missed her parents.

I hadn't put our wedding photos back up yet after rearranging the house for Giselle's arrival. So she'd never seen Stephen's face. Not even in pictures.

The house that had been too quiet suddenly filled with laughter.

Stephen called the night before he was supposed to come home.

"I can't wait to meet her."

"She's amazing. You're going to love her."

"I already do. She's ours."

In the background, Giselle was giggling. She was playing with dolls in the next room.

"Can I see her? Video call?"

I hesitated. "No. I want to see your face when you meet her in person. I've waited too long for that moment."

"You're going to love her."

Stephen was quiet for a beat. "Okay. I understand. See you tomorrow."

I could feel the joy in his voice.

***

The next day, I cooked a huge dinner. Roast chicken. Mashed potatoes. All of Stephen's and Giselle's favorites.

I dressed my daughter in a pink dress.

"You look like a princess, baby."

She spun around, giggling.

I could feel the joy in his voice.

The doorbell rang, and my heart jumped. I took Giselle's hand and walked to the door and opened it.

Stephen stood there holding balloons, dolls, and a stack of wrapped presents.

His face lit up when he saw me. Then he looked down at Giselle. And the joy on his face faltered, then disappeared entirely.

Giselle's hand tightened on mine. Her breathing got faster.

"Giselle, baby, he's your father."

She stared at Stephen. Then she screamed.

"OH NO, NOT HIM AGAIN!"

The joy on his face faltered, then disappeared entirely.

She yanked her hand away from mine and ran behind me.

"Do not let him touch you! PLEASE!"

Stephen dropped everything he was holding. The balloons floated up. The presents hit the floor.

"What is she doing here?" he gasped.

"What do you mean? This is Giselle. Our daughter."

He stared at her as if he'd seen a ghost.

"How did you find her?"

"Stephen, what's going on?"

"What is she doing here?"

Giselle was sobbing behind me.

"Please! Please send me back! I don't want to be here!"

"Sweetheart, it's okay. He's not going to hurt anyone."

"He will! I saw him!"

I carried Giselle to her room. She cried herself to sleep, still trembling.

I sat with her until her breathing slowed. Then I went back downstairs.

"I don't want to be here!"

Stephen was sitting on the couch, his head in his hands.

"Stephen, what's going on? Why is she so scared of you?"

He looked up. "I know her."

"How?"

"About a year ago. Her mother had been brought in after a severe car accident and went into cardiac arrest in the emergency room. I performed defibrillation... tried to restart her heart."

"What does that have to do with Giselle?"

"Why is she so scared of you?"

"The girl somehow got into the hallway. She saw me pressing the paddles to her mother's chest. She started screaming that I was hurting her mom."

"And?"

"The nurses got her out immediately. But I never forgot her face. She was so terrified."

"Did the mother survive?"

"No."

"Her father took her home after. I never saw her again. I had no idea she ended up in the system."

"I never forgot her face."

I sat down heavily. "She thinks you killed her mother."

"I was trying to save her, Nancy. I wasn't hurting her. I was fighting for her."

"She doesn't understand that. She was six then."

We sat in silence.

"How did she end up abandoned?" Stephen asked. "What happened to her father?"

"I don't know. But we need to find out."

"I wasn't hurting her."

***

The next morning, we left Giselle with our neighbor and went to the hospital. Stephen pulled Giselle's mother's file from a year ago.

Emergency contact listed a name and address. We drove there.

A woman answered the door. "Can I help you?"

"We're looking for Matthew."

"Matthew? You mean the previous owner of this house."

"Previous owner?"

Stephen pulled Giselle's mother's file from a year ago.

"Yes, he sold this house last year. Moved out of state."

"Do you have his photo?"

She gave it to us.

Stephen's face went pale.

"That's the father."

Stephen called the number from the hospital records, but after a few rings, an automated voice informed us the number had been disconnected.

But we didn't give up. We hired a private investigator.

Two days later, the guy gave us a new number and an address in another state.

We hired a private investigator.

Stephen called, and a man answered.

"Who is this?"

"My name is Stephen. I'm a doctor. Am I speaking with Matthew?"

"Yes."

"I treated your wife a year ago," Stephen explained.

"What do you want?"

"We need to talk about your daughter."

A long pause.

"I don't have a daughter anymore."

Then Matthew just hung up.

"We need to talk about your daughter."

Stephen called him again and told him we needed to meet in person. Matthew hesitated, then finally agreed, saying he wanted to end things properly this time.

***

We flew out with Giselle two days later. She held her teddy bear the entire flight.

"Where are we going?"

"To see someone, sweetie."

She didn't ask anything else and just gripped the bear tighter.

He wanted to end things properly this time.

Matthew was waiting at a coffee shop.

Stephen went in first while I waited outside with Giselle.

After 10 minutes, Stephen came out.

"He admitted everything."

"What did he say?"

"He said he couldn't handle it after his wife died. He was drowning in debt, so he sold the house and left the city. He's with someone else now. They're planning to get married."

"And Giselle?"

"He left her at the orphanage gate, promising he'd be right back with candy. He never returned. He told me he didn't want to feel trapped by the responsibility of raising a child alone."

"He admitted everything."

I walked Giselle inside as Stephen followed. The man looked up when he saw her.

Giselle saw him and started crying.

"DADDY?? Where did you go? You said you were getting candy!"

He looked away. "I can't do this."

I stepped forward. "You abandoned your child."

"I was grieving."

"So was she! She was just six years old. She lost her mother, and then you abandoned her."

"You said you were getting candy!"

He stood up. "My wife wouldn't have died if she hadn't been picking her up from daycare that day."

The words hit like a slap.

"You're blaming your child?"

"She's the reason my wife is dead."

I grabbed Giselle and held her close.

"She's a child. Your daughter. Not furniture."

"I don't want her."

"She's the reason my wife is dead."

"Then stay out of her life. For good," Stephen snapped.

The man looked at Giselle one last time.

"Fine."

***

On the flight home, Giselle cried. "He doesn't want me?"

I held her close. "Some people are broken, sweetheart. But there is nothing broken about you, and you are so very loved."

"But why doesn't he love me?"

"I don't know. But I do. And so does Stephen."

"He doesn't want me?"

She buried her face in my shoulder.

That night, back home, Giselle wouldn't look at Stephen. She sat on her bed, holding her teddy bear.

I sat beside her. "Can I tell you something about what you saw at the hospital?"

She nodded. I took the teddy bear.

"Pretend this is your mommy. And her heart stopped working."

I placed my hands on the bear's chest.

"Stephen was trying to make her heart start again. Like this."

I gently pressed.

Giselle wouldn't look at Stephen.

"He wasn't hurting my mommy?"

"No, baby. He was trying to help her."

Giselle looked up at me. "Really?"

"Yes, sweetie."

She looked at Stephen standing in the doorway. Her eyes filled with tears. But not fear this time.

"You were trying to save my mommy?"

Stephen knelt beside her. "I tried as hard as I could, dear."

"I'm sorry I screamed."

"You don't have to be sorry."

"You were trying to save my mommy?"

***

A week later, Giselle helped me hang a framed photo on the wall, the three of us smiling together as if we'd always belonged in the same picture. She stepped back and looked at it.

"I think I'm home now."

Stephen picked her up.

"You are home. And you always will be."

Sometimes family isn't defined by blood, but by the people who choose to stay when leaving would be easier.

Family isn't defined by blood.

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