The signs that someone could likely have bad parents
By David S
1 year ago
1. Criticising
Image Source - psypostNot good enough! Parents can be very demanding and have eyes on their children constantly. Nothing they do is ever good enough, and find fault with everything. Rather than teaching their children how to learn and improve each day they would rather criticise.2. Neglect
Image Source - consumer.healthdayWhen you neglect your child either physically or emotionally this can have a negative impact on the rest of their lives. This can make a child feel worthless and cause low self-esteem, leading to isolation. Unfortunately, neglect is a very common form of child abuse.3. Verbal abuse
Image Source - healthyplaceAfter a tough day or night at work, bad parents can vent their frustrations at their children in the form of verbal abuse. This can affect a child for years and can even cause a lack of confidence and in other cases development of an inferiority complex.4. Setting a bad example
Image Source - momjunctionSome parents ignore their kids' poor behaviour and do nothing to discourage bad manners and attitude. Many parents will use bad language, drink and smoke around their offspring setting a bad example, this can lead to the development of these same bad habits as children will often emulate what they observe at home.5. Favouritism
Image Source - mediumSibling favouritism does exist and it can be severely harmful when parents make it plain that they prefer one child over another, this can induce depression later in life. A sign of favouritism includes that the chosen child will always be the parent’s first preference when asking for advice.6. Oppressive, overbearing authoritarianism
Image Source - parentingforbrainA common sign of poor parenting is that they are very controlling, and try to project their own unfulfilled dreams and ambitions onto their children. When the child cannot live up to these expectations this can be very disappointing and demotivating for the whole family.7. Irresponsible Financial Attitude
Image Source - hernormHaving children comes with huge responsibility and part of this is to have a healthy financial outlook. Many parents are not very wise with money, continuously over-spending and this may cause children to develop bad habits such as not learning the real value of money.8. Too much pampering or interfering
Image Source - wehavekidsA lot of parents over protect their child via over pampering which is the opposite of neglect, but can still have a negative impact. If a parent pampers their child too much, this can make them incapable of looking after themselves and they become anxious, incompetent, and unable to make decisions.9. Lack of trust
Image Source - gulfnewsSome parents have no faith in their children and will often believe others more than they believe their own kids. Showing a lack of trust through words and actions can demotivate the child and lead to poor behaviour and rebellion as they grow up.10. Physical abuse
Image Source - verywellfamilySpanking or hitting your child does not solve any problems, it just makes things even worse. It has been found punishing your child makes it more, not less, likely that children will be defiant and aggressive in the future, children grow and develop better with positive role models.11. Not displaying adequate affection
Image Source - steemitNo child deserves to go searching for love, if they don't get the necessary affection growing up then they may not have the adequate psychological development. The affection or lack of received in their own home will condition them on what to expect from the outside world.12. Not supportive, when needed.
Image Source - momjunctionChildren need the support of their parents, especially when they need this the most, it could be their child's first school examination, however, a telltale sign of bad parenting is when mum or dad would rather focus on work or another commitment instead.13. The child is never offered a choice
Image Source - raisingchildrenIf parents decide everything in their child's life ranging from the school they attend to the clothes they wear. This tends to lead to the parents forgetting to give their child a choice. This results in the child wanting other things and in some cases the child will just take without asking.14. Giving short, grumpy answers
Image Source - momjunctionIf a parent chooses to speak to their child in a short and grumpy manner this can leave the child disappointed and let down. This is a sign of bad parenting as a child needs guidance through wise and comforting words. This can have a lasting impact on the child, and often the damage is irreversible.15. Help solve even the smallest problems
Image Source - helpguideIt is good to constantly look after your child, however, they should be a balance where there is some independence. It's not a good idea to help your child with everything to the point where they are unable to do anything on their own. This results in low self-confidence and self-esteem.16. The child is reprimanded even if they realise their mistake.
Image Source - momjunctionNo one can do the right thing all the time, especially a child. There will be moments when children make the wrong choice and do something incorrectly and even though they may realise the mistake, a bad parent will punish them for this, rather than applaud the effort.17. More advice, less encouragement
Image Source - momjunctionAlways telling your child how to do things can have an impact on their character. When a parent consistently offers advice rather than encouragement, this can prevent the youngster from making his own decisions and may become dependent on others later in life.18. Never proud of the achievements
Image Source - momjunctionThe day your child walks through the door from school with another gold star should be a proud moment for any parent. However, a sign of a toxic parent is that they express no excitement or joy when their kid comes home beaming with delight about their recent achievement.19. Make no efforts in understanding and respecting feelings.
Image Source - momjunctionParents may think that they spend a lot of time teaching positive behaviours, however, some never take a moment to understand the little one’s opinion and feelings. Each time the youngster shares something, a bad parent will rule it out and not take it seriously.20. Not showing the right way of doing things
Image Source - parentsWhen growing up children need to be guided through life step by step. It is not just about showing the path but also walking with the child for the beginning of their journey. Investing more in actions than words is important when showing the right way of doing things and a bad parent will avoid this.21. Guilt tripping
Image Source - powerofpositivityMaking your child feel guilty is another indicator of a toxic parent. Guilt-tripping is making someone feel guilty about something, usually in an attempt to manipulate them. This can lead to the child resenting their parents and to give in to peer pressure easily.22. Not understanding kids have bad days.
Image Source - herviewfromhomeChildren are humans and have bad days like all of us, they might not have a bad day the same way an adult would, however their little minds can get overwhelmed just as easily. Parents not understanding kids can also struggle is evidence there could be an issue with the parent/child relationship.23. Making a child pick sides
Image Source - pittsburghparentForcing children to pick sides in a broken marriage can cause long-lasting psychological damage. Rates of anxiety and depression are higher in kids that are stuck in the middle of a divorce with high-conflict parents. Children are more likely to thrive in low conflict environments.24. Gas lighting
Image Source - PurewowExamples of gas lighting is if a parent repeatedly disputes experiences or feelings, makes the child doubt or feel bad, or tries to relinquish responsibility for something they did by blaming their spouse. This can lead to confusion, increased self-doubt, and diminished self-esteem in a child.25. Silent treatment
Image Source - timesofindiaWe've all had the silent treatment at one stage in our lives, however subjecting your child to this can cause harm to their mind and emotional health. If they are in need of some advice, this would leave them in a vulnerable position with no where to turn.26. Lying
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When parents lie to their children, they are affecting them significantly When a child knows the truth but their parents contradict this, the child ends up confused and doubting what they know. Healthy children learn to trust their sense of right and wrong.
27. Conflict with other family members.
Image Source - family.lovetoknow.Regular and intense conflict between parents and other members of the family can place children at risk of mental health issues. It can also have a huge influence on a child's long-term future and increases the likelihood of problems with school and learning.28. Extramarital Affairs
Image Source - timesofindiaCheating when married, can cause havoc within a household, but what happens when you have kids together? This can cause children to feel abandoned, question everything, and possibly fall into depression. So if infidelity occurs it's important that parents don't forget their role.29. Excessive Drinking
Image Source - addictionhelperParents who drink excessively are also more likely to have children who follow in their footsteps and this can have harmful consequences. These include suicide, depression, personality disorders, criminality, and psychological and behavioral disturbances.30. Drugs
Image Source - bayviewrecoveryAlthough many children living in households with a substance-using parent will not suffer neglect, they are in danger of being re-homed due to child welfare issues. It has also been found they are more likely to get involved in substance use themselves.What To Read Next
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