30 Signs His Friends Hate You

1. They don't invite you to group outings or events.

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If your boyfriend’s friends are all planning to go out together, to a concert or a wine festival or just to grab dinner, it’s not a good sign if they don’t ask you to come. That’s a major indicator that they don’t enjoy your company and don’t want you around.

2. They exclude you from conversation.

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When you’re around his friends, do you have trouble squeezing yourself into the conversation? Does it feel like you’re being excluded? That might be intentional. If they don’t like you, they’ll do whatever it takes to make sure you’re not included.

3. They don't make an effort to get to know you or ask you questions about yourself.

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When you first meet someone, it’s normal to ask questions so you can get to know them better. If his friends don’t make an effort to learn about you on a deeper level, that probably means they don’t like you and aren’t interested in getting to know you.

4. They don't acknowledge your presence.

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There’s nothing more humiliating than feeling invisible at social events. If his friends don’t greet you or acknowledge your presence when you’re around, that’s a red flag. If this happens, try striking up conversation with one of his friends and see how they respond.

5. They seem uncomfortable around you.

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Obvious discomfort is never a good sign. If his friends seen uncomfortable, awkward, or tense around you, they might not enjoy your company. Usually, discomfort can be observed through body language, facial expressions, and how they speak around you.

6. They give you short answers when you try to talk to them.

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Maybe his friends aren’t making an effort to speak to you, so you’re turning the tables and trying to ask them questions instead. If they give you short responses or shut you down quickly, that’s a pretty big sign that they don’t want to talk to you.

7. They make sarcastic comments around you.

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Sarcasm isn’t always a bad thing. For many people, it’s a playful way to interact and converse with others. However, if his friends make sarcastic comments that feel directed at you, that might be on purpose. In fact, they might even be making fun of you.

8. They avoid physical contact with you.

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It’s common to shake hands, hug, or cheek kiss when you greet someone. On that same note, not everyone enjoys physical contact, and that’s okay. However, if his friends are huggers, but they actively avoid hugging you, that might mean they don’t like you.

9. They don't laugh at your jokes.

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Not everyone is blessed with the gift of comedy, but if you’ve cracked several jokes and his friends never seem to laugh or engage with you, that might mean they don’t like you. It could also simply mean that you have different styles of humor, though!

10. They’re more interested in talking to your boyfriend than talking to you.

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This one is really dependent on the situation. It’s totally normal if your boyfriend’s friends talk to him more, especially when you’re first getting to know them. However, if they continue to only speak to him at events and parties and they never initiate conversation with you, that’s a bad sign.

11. They make plans with your boyfriend but don’t invite you.

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This one might be hard to pick up on because your boyfriend might invite you along when plans are made, even if his friends didn’t explicitly invite you. But if you notice that your boyfriend is hanging out with his friends solo often, that might mean they didn’t invite you.

12. They talk about inside jokes often.

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Everyone has inside jokes, and that’s perfectly okay! But when his friends constantly talk about inside jokes and don’t explain the backstory to you, that’s a bad sign. Doing so creates an exclusive environment, and it prevents you from growing closer to them.

13. They don't friend request you on social media.

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These days, everyone follows everyone on social media. It’s very typical for new friends to request each other on Facebook, Instagram, TikTok, and other social platforms. If his friends don’t reach out to you on social media, that might mean they don’t like you.

14. They seem disinterested in your opinions.

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When you talk to his friends and express your own ideas and opinions, how do you respond? Are they receptive? Do they ask follow-up questions? Or do they ignore you, scoff at you, or try to argue with you? This will tell you a lot about how they feel about you.

15. They talk about you behind your back.

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This is another one that might be hard to pick up on, especially if his friends are sneaky and hide their gossip well. If you’re out at a group event and you notice some of his friend whispering and looking in your direction, that might mean they’re talking about you.

16. They often try to argue with you.

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Some conversation topics are more sensitive than others. If you find that his friends often disagree with you or try to argue with you, that might mean they don’t like you. However, it might also mean that you just have very different opinions on certain matters.

17. They roll their eyes when you speak.

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Facial expressions are a huge indicator of a person’s feelings towards you. Frequent sighing, eye rolling, and refusing to make direct eye contact are all signs that his friends aren’t interested in who you are, what you think, or what you have to say.

18. They interrupt you often.

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Interrupting people while they’re speaking is very rude. If his friends do that often when you attempt to engage in their conversations, that’s probably a sign that they don’t want to hear what you have to say. It’s also possible that they just have bad manners.

19. They make fun of your hobbies.

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It never feels good when someone makes fun of the things you enjoy doing. If his friends make snide comments about your hobbies, that might mean they don’t like you. A light joke once or twice might deserve a pass, but constantly joking is a bad sign.

20. They often forget your name.

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If someone forgets your name after meeting you several times, that’s an obvious sign that you’re not important to them. So, if his friends don’t make a point to remember your name and other details about you, that probably means they don’t care about you at all.

21. They don't invite you to their own parties.

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Do his friend throw parties without extending an invite your way? Maybe they enjoy hosting birthday parties for each other, or they celebrate holidays with festive themes. If they never reach out to you individually to invite you along, that’s not a good sign.

22. You’ve heard rumors.

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Have you heard rumors that his friends don’t like you? Maybe you’ve befriended one or two friends in the group, and they gave you a heads up that the rest of the group doesn’t like you. Unfortunately, there’s not much guesswork involved with this one.

23. They don't show appreciation for things you do.

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Maybe you’re trying your hardest to be accepted by his friends, and you’re going above and beyond to get them on your side. You’re throwing parties, inviting them over, and doing all sorts of nice gestures. If they don’t show any appreciation for your effort, that’s a bad sign.

24. They don't ask for your input when making plans.

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Do you feel like his friends ignore you when they’re trying to throw together a plan? Do they rarely (or never) ask for your input or recommendations? This is a likely sign that his friends don’t like you and don’t care about any suggestions you might have.

25. They talk about your boyfriend’s ex often.

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There’s nothing more awkward than hanging out with people who constantly bring up your boyfriend’s ex. It’s even more awkward if they speak fondly of her in front of your face. Here and there isn’t a big deal, but it’s disrespectful if they do that often.

26. They don't celebrate your accomplishments.

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When you start dating someone, it’s common for your friend groups to merge over time. Because of that, it’s expected that his friends will treat you like family. If you notice that his friends don't ever celebrate your accomplishments, that’s a bad sign.

27. They don't apologize when they hurt your feelings.

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Have you voiced your concerns about his friends to your boyfriend? Maybe he’s told them that their behavior is hurting your feelings and making you feel excluded. If they don’t make a point to personally apologize, that probably means they don’t like you.

28. They don't remember important details about you.

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Similar to the point about your name, if they don’t ever seem to remember important details about you, like your name, what you do for work, and where you live, that probably means you’re not at all important to them. This can be a signal that they don’t like you or care to learn about you.

29. They seem to avoid you.

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During parties and group gatherings, do his friends actively avoid you? When you walk into a room, do they scatter in different directions and leave the area? This type of avoidance probably means they don’t want to interact with you or engage with you.

30. They don't show any interest in building a relationship with you.

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At the end of the day, if his friends don’t attempt to build a positive relationship with you, that’s a very bad sign. As his close friends, they should be interested in the person he’s dating, and they should include the person he’s dating. If they’re not, his friend group just might not like you.