12+ Things Unhappy Couples Do Everyday

1. Criticize each other

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If you and your partner are criticizing each other every single day, then it sounds like an unhappy relationship. Criticizing each other constantly can make you feel worn down and it can also make you lose your confidence and question yourself as well as feel super draining.

2. They argue!

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Arguing every single day isn't exactly a foundation for a happy relationship. Everyone argues and disagrees, but not on a daily basis. If a couple is arguing non-stop then it's a clear sign that these two people are not happy together and probably aren't meant to be!

3. They reminisce about how things used to be

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If someone gets to the point in a relationship where they continually start reminiscing about how things used to be in their relationship and not recognizing the place they are currently at, it's definitely a sign that the couple is NOT happy together.

4. They have no idea about each other's schedule

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In a happy relationship, you know where your partner is or what time (roundabout) they'll be home. It's just a natural part of communicating with your SO. If you have no idea what your partner's schedule is and when or if they'll be home this is a sign that the fundamental element, communication, has gone!

5. They come home late on purpose

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One clear sign that a couple's love life is in trouble is when one of them or both of them start to avoid going home, or they start getting home later and later just to avoid being together for too long. In a happy couple, it's the opposite, you can't wait to get home to see your partner!

6. They're always on their phones

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We're all addicted to our phones but it's super important to put it down and just focus on each other when you're in a happy relationship. When things start to go south couples spend more and more time absorbed in their phones, finding distractions from each other and seeking out communication from anybody other than their partner.

7. They avoid eye contact

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Eye contact is actually very intimate. When you lock eyes with someone you love it can make you feel a rush of emotions. When a relationship starts to crack or fizzle out...the couple may start avoiding looking into each other's eyes. The eyes give away the emotions that we feel, even if we daren't admit them out loud!

8. Ignore each other

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Ignoring each other is certainly a sign of an unhappy couple. They may start to ignore each other when they hear them speaking, they may ignore texts and pretend they didn't see them and when things get REALLY bad they may just start acting like each other doesn't exist.

9. Dismiss each other's emotions

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In a happy couple, each person can openly share their emotions and these emotions will be validated by their partner who can then offer them support or a shoulder to cry on! But, an unhappy couple looks very much the opposite, they will dismiss each other's feelings.

10. They question each other

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Unhappy relationships often stem from a lack of trust. They don't take their partner's word and they question what they say. They start to doubt one another and their intentions and when one of them goes out they may even start to question where and who they have been with.

11. They avoid their joint responsibilities

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Relationships take a lot of work and a lot of it is just real life, mundane things like sorting out financial papers or doing the house chores. These are joint responsibilities, but in an unhappy relationship one or both people may have checked out and they may be avoiding anything that ties them together with this person.

12. They moan...a LOT

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Moaning, moaning, moaning it's super draining. I'm sure we've all been around someone who just doesn't stop moaning. And in some unhappy relationships, it's pretty much like this constantly. Instead of uplifting one another, they drain one another's energy with negativity.

13. They dismiss each other's opinions

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Is there anything more frustrating than having somebody completely dismiss everything you say and put down your opinions? Nope. When this happens in a relationship it shows that this person doesn't respect what you're saying and what you think which is not a foundation for a happy or loving partnership.

14. They make passive-aggressive comments

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Another thing that happens every day in an unhappy couple is passive aggression. Little comments here and there, snide remarks, and unnecessary jobs; this is what happens daily in a relationship where the two people are completely over it. Love has been replaced by resentment at this point.

15. They bring up past problems

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When you have a hurdle from your past or someone has decided to move on from their partner's past mistakes, it's essential that it gets left in the past. Otherwise, it will be brought up again and again every time someone argues or feels upset which will create a really unhappy situation.

16. They compare their current relationship to their past partners

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'Robert was more thoughtful than you' 'Sarah used to always laugh at my jokes' and 'my ex would never have done that to me!'. This is the kind of language used by unhappy couples who continually compare their current partner to their ex. Even if they don't say it out loud, thinking it is is also the behavior of an unhappy couple.

17. They avoid affection or intimacy

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Affection and intimacy are a relationship's bread and butter. Without them the relationship can go stale and the bond and closeness can quickly fade. But in unhappy couples rather than craving this closeness and intimate affection, they'll avoid it so that they don't have to get close!

18. They keep secrets from each other

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Keeping secrets is never a good idea (unless you're planning an amazing surprise birthday party). It's something that happens all the time in unhappy couples. First, the secrets may start small, and then they get bigger and bigger and they become trapped in a  web of lies.

19. They don't bother communicating

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If nobody is ever telling the other how they feel, how can it ever be fixed? And, if two people are unhappy in their couple but not telling each other, then things will continue on the same trajectory with neither one knowing exactly how the other feels. But in unhappy relationships, this is a super common problem!

20. They bottle up their feelings

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Bottling up your feelings can be something that happens in an unhappy couple because they don't feel like their partner would be willing to hear them express themselves, or they wouldn't provide them with support. Unhappy couples bottle up their feelings every day rather than getting to the root of the problem together.

21. They insist on their way or the highway

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There's stubbornness and there's just being pain difficult. While it's natural to want your own way, unfortunately, that's not how to work in a couple when you have to co-exist happily and come to some kind of compromise. If one of you is insisting on your way every time it doesn't lead to an equal partnership.

22. They avoid spending time with each other

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In a seriously unhappy couple, those involved may avoid spending time with each other every single day. They may be agreeing to work late for their boss or going round to their parents for tea or constantly hanging out with mates JUST to avoid going home and facing the unhappy music.

23. They make excuses not to get physically close

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Physical attraction is of course super important in a relationship because without it it's very difficult to feel close to your partner and to feel like more than friends! The spark can't always be as electric as when you two first met, but if you've got to that point where you're avoiding getting physically close because the thought repulses you...you need to end it.

24. They seek attention elsewhere

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When it gets to the point that someone in the relationship is seeking attention elsewhere...you know it's done. In unhappy couples, one or both people will probably be seeking some kind of attention from other people because at the end of the day if the relationship doesn't provide love or affection anymore then they may seek it elsewhere.

25. They give no encouragement or support

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Unhappy couples become completely lacking in any encouragement or support. Rather than encouraging each other in an unhappy couple they may do the opposite and play down their efforts or achievements. This can stem from resentment at the fact that neither partner is feeling fulfilled together anymore.

26. They don't have fun

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Relationships should be fun. Even if a couple has been together for 20 years it doesn't mean that all of the fun elements should be gone. There should be things you do together that you both love and if you're not having fun ANY day of the week...it's a very unhappy relationship.

27. They dismiss their feelings

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If things are being said in a couple such as; 'get over it', 'stop being stupid', or 'you're just being sensitive', then their feelings are being completely dismissed. Everyone knows that being told to 'get over' something only makes them feel 100x worse! Especially when this is coming from your 'partner'.

28. They feel drained

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In an unhappy couple one thing for sure that will happen every day is feeling completely and utterly drained. The relationship isn't making you happy anymore or adding anything to your life, instead, it's draining the happiness and energy from you because you guys just are not suited anymore.

29. They treat each other like acquaintances

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You may have experienced it yourself, or witnessed another couple's relationship slowly fizzle out until the fire has totally gone out and they remain essentially just acquaintances - and barely even friends! There's no love and fondness left and they act civil and polite like they've just bumped into someone they barely know.

30. Fantasize about being single

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When you're in an unhappy couple it can feel very difficult to get out because breaking up with someone is HARD. You may have been with this person for a really long time and you may not want to acknowledge that it's time to end it. So instead, you may be fantasizing daily about being single and wishing you could be, without having to hurt two people in the process.