Signs He Is Too Clingy

1. He wants to go everywhere with you

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When your man is too clingy you probably feel like you can't go anywhere without him jumping at the opportunity to come with you. And while it's great to have a boyfriend who wants to spend time with you, it's also super important to have your own space and time with your friends and family on your own! But with him, it's always 'I'll come with you!'.

2. He always wants validation

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Some people need more validation and words of affirmation to make them feel secure. But when a guy needs SO much validation and he wants you to reassure him it may be because he's very clingy. It may actually become very wearing and slightly exhausting for you to keep on validating him, especially when you feel that he never fully believes you when you do reassure him.

3. He's easily swayed by your opinions

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Another sign that he's super clingy is when he never sticks to his own ideas and doesn't have firm opinions of his own, he lets himself be swayed by your opinions and what you want. It's a sign that he's always trying to please you, he would rather agree than carry his opinion or ideas with conviction. You don't want him to, but he changes his opinion to fit yours!

4. He always wants to know where you are

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There's a huge difference between being caring and wanting to know whereabouts you are sometimes, but when it comes to having to let him know wherever you're going somewhere and informing him about where you are at all times he's way too clingy. At this point, the behavior sounds unhealthy and he needs to let you and himself have more independence from the relationship.

5. They always want to be touching you

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Whilst having a boyfriend who loves you and loves being physically close to you is what we all want, having to constantly be touching, in one another's arms, or have some kind of physical touch all the time isn't endearing it's annoying and it's a sign of clingy behavior. Physical touch should definitely be apparent in a relationship, but nobody needs to hold somebody's hand every second of the day.

6. He's super jealous

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Having a little bit of jealousy in a relationship is totally normal and it can be a very natural instinct in certain situations. But this is when jealousy is understandable, rather than him being jealous of practically everybody you speak to or spend time with. In this case, he is an ultra-clingy boyfriend and he could end up driving you away with his possessive behavior.

7. Their happiness relies on you

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Being in love can feel consuming, but it's always healthy not to have your whole world ever revolve around one other person. If their happiness relies on you, it is not only unhealthy for them, it is also highly suffocating for you who feels continuous pressure to be everything he wants and needs. If it is the case where his happiness does rely on you, he's clingy.

8. He doesn't socialize without you

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It's all well and good that he invited you along to his social activities, to meet his friends and family because he's incorporating you into his life. But by no means does that mean that if you don't go, neither does he. If he won't go out and socialize without you then he's extremely clingy and it suggests he's become too dependent upon you to live his life.

9. He doesn't have hobbies

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Hobbies are important for everyone, for marinating your passions and doing something you love that's totally for you and about what you want to do. But when he's clingy he may stop his hobby because you essentially become the center of his world and he drops out his hobby to spend all of his time with you. But time apart is vital for a healthy relationship!

10. They shower you with compliments

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Who doesn't love to be complimented? Even if it makes us shy and awkward because we don't know how to respond, it gives us a buzz and a great feeling! But...a clingy guy will shower you in praise and compliments even when you don't see the need or it just doesn't feel like the right time. You may even feel that he's doing it so much that it no longer seems to be sincere.

11. He never gives you personal space

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You know that feeling when you've been surrounded by people all day and you finally get some time to yourself in the comfort of your own home where you can relax alone and you think 'ahh, peace finally'. But when a guy is super clingy with you he doesn't let you have your own personal time and space - which is crucial for your own mental health and sanity!

12. He checks all your socials

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We've all been there, checking someone's social media. Usually after a breakup or at the very beginning during the 'talking or seeing each other stage'. After that, it's not good to keep doing it. It becomes almost addictive. But a clingy guy will be checking when you post when you were last active, and he may even start checking who liked your posts!

13. They get upset when you don't respond immediately

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A clingy guy will double text, he may even triple text, hell he may even quadruple because he won't care how many times he has to text he'll continue until he gets an answer. He gets annoyed when you don't answer immediately and tells you he 'was worried about you'. But this is down to his clinginess, rather than your actions of not replying immediately.

14. He ignores your boundaries

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Everyone has and should have boundaries. These are lines you don't want anybody to cross for your own well-being and how you like to live. So in any relationship boundaries are healthy and normal. But a clingy guy may disregard them and completely ignore the fact that he's doing things that are crossing your boundaries because he's thinking about his own feelings.

15. He doesn't like you socializing without him

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When it's time for you to go out and meet your friends without him, he may act really off or annoyed with you. He may even pretend that it's not because you are going out without him. One sign of a clingy guy is that they don't want you to go out without them, even if it's with your close friends. He's jealous and wants to be there with you, He may even try and invite himself along.

16. They demand your attention

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When someone wants attention constantly and they're always seeking it from you in one way or another, it can be utterly exhausting. This is what it's like with a clingy guy. They will be vying for your attention continuously. And even when you give it to them they will demand more and more, it; s never enough attention for a boy that is very clingy!

17. They expect you to drop everything to be with them

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They say they are free, or they want to see you...and they expect you to drop everything to go and see them. If you tell them you're busy with work if you're busy with friends they don't care - they want to see you right now. If not, a clingy guy will get super offended that you didn't rush to see him at the drop of a hat even when it wasn't convenient for you!

18. You are their life

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We often hear relationship advice thrown about all of the time, and one of the cliché (yet true) statements is that a boyfriend/ girlfriend should be a positive addition to your life rather than someone you rely on or that becomes your life. And it's true. But in the case of a clingy guy you will become what feels like their entire world and all of their thoughts are about you.

19. They constantly want affection in public

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Whether you're all for PDA or not, no one wants to be that couple, the one that makes everyone else who witnesses them cringe or physically heave because they're acting sickeningly lovey-dovey or all over each other. Apart from if you're clingy, and if he is clingy he'll be seeking out for physical affection in public to reassure him and show everyone else that you love him.

20. They get insecure at your slightest change of behavior

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Everyone has off days or down days where we act slightly differently than usual. Maybe we're even just tired or we've had a slightly stressful day at work or our social batteries have just completely run out. It's totally fine to feel like this, but if he's clingy he'll pull you up on the slightest change of behavior, relating it in his own mind to how you view him, thinking you've gone off him.

21. They see all guys as a threat

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When he's clingy, every other male is a threat. Clinginess often stems from feeling insecure and so he will view other males as competition. He will get stressed if he sees you talking to other guys and he'll fear that every guy is someone you could fall for instead of him. It's clingy behavior and it can be very wearing for you as you may feel like you have to alter your behavior.

22. They get upset very easily

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When a guy is very clingy he'll be assessing everything you say and overanalysing its meaning. So if you have an off day or you're feeling a bit grumpy and may you have a cross word with one another he; 'll be VERY upset about it, but in a way that doesn't compare to the scale of the situation. Healthy agreements are normal but with a clingy guy, it can be blown out of proportion.

23. They can't resolve things in a mature way

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In any relationship there will be arguments, it's normal, but what does define a healthy relationship is how you resolve it. If you can talk about it openly and find some kind of resolution or common ground it means you can happily move on from the situation together. But when he's clingy he may really hold a grudge and be unable to resolve things in a mature manner.

24. They question how you feel about them

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When you let someone know how you feel for them yet they constantly question if it's true, if you really meant it, or if you've suddenly changed your mind it could be because he's clingy. If he's a clingy guy he may constantly want reaffirmation that you love him and if he doesn't receive what he views as enough, he will question whether you really do love him anymore!

25. They compare your relationship to others

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Another sign that he's clingy is when he starts to compare your relationship with one another to other couples. For example, you may be out and see a cute couple together and he may mention that they looked closer or they were expressing more physical affection for one another. He may make comparisons because he's voicing his fears that the relationship isn't adequate because he's scared your feelings may have changed.

26. They try and solve all your problems for you

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Sometimes we all wish we had a fairy godmother to solve all our problems for us and they could all disappear. But that's not the reality and at the end of the day, we have to sort things for ourselves otherwise they never go away. But when he's super clingy he may want and try to solve everything for you. You may mention something and the next moment he's trying to fix it for you.

27. They are sensitive to even changes in your tone of voice

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Another clear sign that he's clingy is when he's SUPER sensitive to any little sign or any slight change in the tone of your voice. He'll ask you 'Why are you being funny with me?', 'What's wrong'. Rather than acknowledging that you're allowed not to always feel super positive, he'll take these as personal slights against him or as signs that you no longer feel the same way about him as you once did.

28. They struggle to be happy for you if you have good news outside of the relationship

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Usually, when we love someone we're happy for all their successes, achievements, and things that make them happy. So if they had a promotion at work we'd be over the moon for our partner. Yet sometimes, with clingy guys, they may find it very difficult to be happy for you when it revolves around something that wasn't to do with you because they resent anything that makes you happy that's not them!

29. They want to be your number-one priority

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A clingy guy wants to know, to feel, and to be constantly reassured that he is your number one priority. Yet this may not be the case and certainly doesn't have to be the case in a relationship. Their expectations from you may be way too high because they expect unreasonable things from you, such as your main and sole focus being them and what they want.

30. They want to know all your plans as soon as you make them

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If you so much as have an inkling of a plan a clingy guy wants to know it. If you've made plans and not discussed it with him he may get very upset by it. He likes to talk through what you're doing, when you're doing it, and who you are with or may be seeing. This is so that he feels he knows everything that is going on in our life because he's a super clingy guy!

31. Tips for dealing with a clingy partner: listen to his insecurities

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One of the biggest reasons a guy can be clingy in a relationship is because he has insecurities about himself. It'll only make him worse if you belittle his insecurities, so if you're serious about the relationship, it's best to be open to talking about them and listen to what he has to say so that hopefully you can work towards him building more confidence (and being less clingy!).

32. Check your own behavior

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There's always a chance that his clinginess is coming as a direct result of your behavior in the relationship, even if you don't realize you're doing anything. If you've been acting very distant, disorganized with messaging him back or not acting as invested as him, it might make him act more clingy because he's worried you're pulling away. Is there anything you might be doing to make it worse?

33. Is he actually clingy or do you need something different?

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'Clingy' behavior can mean something different to everyone. Some people might want to see their partners 24/7 and message them all the time, while others might find that behavior suffocating and therefore think their partner is being 'a bit much'! So think about whether they're actually being clingy, or if they're too intense a person to be your ideal partner, and it's just that you need someone more distant.

34. Always stand up for yourself!

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You should always call out their clingy behavior if it's making you uncomfortable, or if you don't agree with it. It won't help if you ignore it, and they need to be called out on their behavior so they can keep themselves in check. You don't have to be mean about it, but definitely bring up with them - in a mature and calm way - when you feel like they're being too clingy, so that you can talk about it.

35. You can make a decision based on his reaction

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Calling them out in this way on their clingy behavior is going to help you make a decision on the type of person they are, for the relationship going forward. If they deny any clinginess, are unwilling to listen to you and get defensive, it's a red flag. If they talk about it maturely and agree to try and be less intense, or are willing to find ways to compromise, it's a good sign.

36. Make sure you're giving him love and affection

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If you're serious about him, this goes without saying - but maybe his love language requires a lot of gestures or affirmations of your love for him, and maybe he's become more clingy if he's not getting that from you (regardless of whether you feel it or not, he's not a mind reader!). So take some time out to make sure he knows how much you love him, without the need for him to hear from you 24/7!

37. Encourage him to spend time with other people

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You can't force him to do things, but you might want to prompt him to hang out with his friends one evening instead of with you, or even go ahead and suggest inviting his friends round to your place. Try to encourage him to spend time with others away from you so he can get more used to time spent apart, while still being supportive and showing him affection.

38. Try not to hurt his feelings

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It can be a touchy subject to bring up if he's being overbearingly clingy, but the key is to try and not hurt his feelings. You need to be honest about the situation but you should explain how you feel tactfully rather than being blunt, like saying 'Gah you're so clingy!' He might then feel worse about himself and could spiral, so it's a good idea to think about what you're going to say, before you say it!

39. Do it in person rather than over text

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These sorts of things are better discussed face to face, so that they can hear your tone of voice, see your expression and also so that you can make supportive gestures like sitting with them, putting a hand on them or hugging them. This is because tone can very easily be misunderstood over a message, so if you tell him he's clingy on text, he might think you're being annoyed when you're not!

40. Talk to him about past experience

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Nobody really likes talking about their partner's ex, but sometimes, it might help to understand why they are the way they are now. Maybe they had an ex that pulled away from them, hurt them or cheated on them that made them too clingy with new people. Maybe they've never even had a partner before and that's why they've latched onto you so much. This can all help for a better understanding.

41. Be clear about what you need

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Like we said, some people might not count certain behaviors as 'clingy', which is why it's important for you to make it clear about what you need in terms of space. Tell them you need at least one day a week to yourself, for example, or tell them the certain times of day you can't message back, or don't want a message from them, because you're working or busy.

42. But then talk about the times you DO want to hear from them

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Don't make it sound like you're saying all these things as a way to get space from them - you should then balance it out by saying 'but we can have weekends to ourselves' or the days of the week that are best for you to call them, for example. That way the relationship needs are being met for them, but you're still getting space when you need it - and you've been clear about that, so it can't come back to bite you!

43. Stick to your guns

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When you love and care about him, it can be difficult to have that conversation and see him potentially upset by it, and you might then feel tempted to say 'oh no actually don't worry, it's okay'. It's important to stick to your guns, otherwise they might not only get confused, but then continue with the same clingy behavior - and then nothing will get resolved!

44. Explain how it makes you feel

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Instead of just talking to him about how he's being clingy and you'd rather he didn't be, it can be better to explain how it makes you feel so he understands on a deeper level. Rather than 'you keep getting annoyed when I don't reply right away and I can't cope with it' explain that it makes you feel overwhelmed after a busy day at work when you feel pressure to reply very quickly.

45. Think about how you've been with past partners

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Did you have a partner that you spoke to 24/7? That you would feel upset about if they didn't reply straight away? Are you having that same reaction or mentality to your current boyfriend? If not, it could be an issue with you and not the fact they're being clingy. You might not like them as much so you're feeling differently about their behavior, when you might love a different person acting in the same way!

46. Encourage individual hobbies

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Hobbies you can share with your partner and do together are great, but if they're being clingy, it might be time to try and encourage them to find a hobby to do alone when you're busy. Even if you have your own individual hobby, they'll feel 'left out' when you're alone to do it, so encourage them to find a new interest they'll like to do alone and get stuck in with that!

47. Don't cross any of his boundaries

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It's going to be difficult to set boundaries with the clingy behavior if you're not offering the same effort for any boundaries he may have. You need to work together to respect each other's wants and needs, so make sure not to be too casual about what they're asking, while you're being very strict about them not being so clingy with you all the time!

48. You may need to work on trust

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A big reason he might be being overly clingy is that it actually might be a different issue altogether: trust. If you don't have trust in a relationship, it can cause a huge amount of other problems, so the clinginess might not actually be the problem - it might be that fact you don't trust each other as much as you should. Work on that, and he might be less likely to worry when you don't reply, or what you're doing without him!

49. Tell them your preferred form of communication

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Some people just aren't very good at replying messages, but they'll happily take ten phone calls a day. Other people may find it easier to email instead of messaging on a phone because they're already at the computer for work. Whatever form of communication you find the easiest, tell them that, then they're not worrying about why you haven't answered their phone call when actually you can only check emails during the day!

50. Discuss the pros and cons of space

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Sometimes it's healthy to have space from your partner - it doesn't work for everyone in the same way, but you should discuss the pros and cons of space, and how you can make it work, with her. Tell them some nights you like to work on a hobby alone, so they'd feel ignored if they were with you, or messaging you. Ask them if there's anything they'd enjoy about taking time out for themselves. Be open and honest!