Things Guys Do That Give Women Butterflies

1. A genuine smile

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Nothing beats a genuine and warm smile. A smile says it all. When a guy looks at us and can't help but smile...how could we not get butterflies? When it's the kind of smile where you can see the emotion in their face you instantly know exactly how they feel about you - they don't even need to say anything. It may sound cliché but it really does give you that warm kind of fuzzy feeling and butterflies in your stomach.

2. Intense eye contact

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They do say eyes are the windows to our soul for a reason, and it's because when you look into someone's eyes you see the truth. Sometimes actions and words can mask how someone really feels but the eyes tell it all. And when a guy gives you that intense kind of eye contact, there's something about it that makes us hot and flustered and we get that butterfly feeling.

3. Telling her she looks beautiful

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When we like or love a guy we of course want to hear compliments from him (a certain way to give us butterflies) because words of affirmation from the right guy give us the best feeling in the world. And there's something about hearing that we look 'beautiful' that is just super special and we feel happy and reassured but nervous all at the same time!

4. Forehead kisses

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Kisses in general are a sure way to give a girl butterflies because who doesn't love kissing? But if you're a girl I'm sure we can all agree that there's something different about forehead kisses. In a way, they feel more affectionate. It feels like an action that's come from a place of pure love, and that feeling alone is enough to create butterflies in our stomachs!

5. Flirting

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Flirting can either be really cringy and kinda gross, or it can be very sexy and give us a guaranteed butterfly feeling. When it's a guy you are into, and he knows how to flirt, then there's nothing hotter than flirting. It's one way you're sure to give a girl butterflies and it lets you know that you're interested without explicitly having to come out and say it.

6. Good morning texts

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When you wake up and you're in love or majorly crushing on someone, the first thing you do is go straight to your phone hoping to check it and see his name right there. So when you do, and you read a good morning text from him the butterflies hit instantly and your heart just melts. Good morning texts really start the day off on a high and have you thinking about him all day.

7. Remembering small details

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A guy who remembers small details about you is a guy who REALLY likes you and is taking a keen interest in everything about you. If he's showing you that he's remembered your favorite song or he knows your dog's birthday then this guy is showing boyfriend traits. He's thoughtful, he cares about you...and how could that possibly not give a girl butterflies?

8. Giving their jacket...

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Chivalry at its finest, when a guy gives a girl his jacket when she's cold it gives her butterflies. It feels like a protective gesture because his first instinct is to look after you, even at the expense of himself. Little romantic gestures like this are enough to give any girl butterflies, especially if somebody's looking for a true traditional gentleman in the traditional sense of the word.

9. Looking at her lips

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When a guy looks at your lips we all know what he's thinking. It's a well-known sign that if they can't take their eyes off your lips they're thinking about kissing you, wanting to kiss you, or about to kiss you. So if there was an action that was going to give us butterflies, it's got to be this. It's something that creates a huge amount of attraction and chemistry.

10. Running his hand through his hair

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It's a key scene in all the romantic movies for a reason. A guy running his hand through his hair is hot, and when we see them do it it gives us serious butterflies. It's an act of confidence, basically saying 'I look and feel good right now', and that is SUPER attractive to a girl. Even if he's doing it absent-mindedly, or because he's a little bit nervous that's also just as attractive.

11. Arranging date night

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'I'll pick you up at 8, I've got a surprise date night planned for you', or 'dinner and movie night, be ready for 7 I'll meet you outside your door'. Now are these not the worlds that we would all LOVE to hear? A guy arranging and planning date night just for us to make us feel special, it's the dream. It's a super romantic gesture and it really shows he cares about you.

12. Reach for her hand

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Who would have thought that such a simple gesture such as reaching for a girl's hand could have such a huge effect? But it really does, it's a display of affection and care that makes you feel much closer to one another. It's also a reassuring sign that he wants you to feel safe with him. Such a simple thing as touching her hand can have such a profound effect on a girl.

13. Having confidence

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Confidence in a guy is super sexy. When a guy exudes confidence it's almost like a magnetic force towards him that just draws you in...even if you don't to want to be sucked in by it! There's just something incredibly attractive about a guy who has self-confidence and is comfortable in his own skin. A confident guy is a sure recipe for giving a girl butterflies.

14. Laughing at your jokes

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When we say a joke what we picture in our head is the joke landing in a room where nobody laughs or so much as smiles and it's massively awkward. So when a guy laughs at our jokes of course it makes us feel good. It's a sign to a  girl that this guy likes you and appreciates your personality and humor which is one of the most important things for forming a relationship!

15. Playful teasing

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Playful teasing is one of the flirtiest things you can do. Things don't really change from being young to being an adult, most of us still love to flirt by playful banter and teasing each other and still get butterflies from it. And when a guy does it to us it displays the fact that there's a real connection between the two of you that you have inside jokes and areas of common interest!

16. Hugs from behind

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Hugs in general are enough to give us butterflies. Hugs are an action that makes us feel fuzzy and warm and loved. It's the feeling of security and reassurance everyone sometimes needs. But hugs from behind are even more likely to give us butterflies because they're usually a surprise, and it means that he saw you and just had the desire to feel close to you.

17. Telling her she smells nice

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Compliments in general are lovely. But being told we smell nice for some reason is one of the best things we can hear. Perhaps it's because smelling nice is something an area of insecurity - a lot of us worry about smelling funky from time to time. It also feels very intimate, that he's paying such close attention to you and likes the way you smell.

18. Showing passion for a hobby

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It's so attractive and endearing seeing a guy so passionate about a hobby. Either seeing him whilst he's taking part in it or he's just telling you about it and you can see how happy it makes him is such a great quality. Guys don't realize how attractive this is for a girl and that even if you're telling her about something she's got no interest in, just seeing the way it makes you feel will give her butterflies.

19. The three words

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Those three little words. They are so small and have such a huge significance. Being told 'I love you' by the right person is one of the best feelings in the world. It's everything we want to hear. And no matter how long you've been with someone, whether it's completely new or it's been 20 years when you're in love it will still give you butterflies each and every time you hear it.

20. Surprises

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You may adore being surprised or you might say you hate surprises, but either way, if a guy arranges a super thoughtful surprise for us we're going to undoubtedly get butterflies. It's less about the surprise factor and more about the fact that he's arranged a gesture simply just to make you happy, for no other reason than he cares about you.

21. Taking initiative

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Everyone wants a guy to take some initiative. When a guy makes the first move or makes plans and takes some initiative it is a clear sign to a woman that he's interested in pursuing you. So when he's going out of his way to do things for you and take some initiative it of course makes us feel good as we know that your interests are totally reciprocated!

22. A wink!

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A wink can be controversial because it really does depend on the context. I'm sure we've all experienced random guys winking at us and it certainly does NOT give us excited butterflies. But if it's the right guy and you're into him, then a wink can make you weak in the knees. It's fun and cheeky and you know that if he's winking at you he's trying to flirt with you!

23. Thoughtful gifts

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When it comes to a gift the meaning comes entirely from the thought, regardless of how expensive or inexpensive the gift was. When your guy has thought about the perfect give that you would love, something personal to you that he knows will make you happy that kind of care and attention is guaranteed to give her butterflies. It's a way to show how much they think of you.

24. Standing up for her

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Being in a situation where you feel vulnerable or you feel at the brunt of somebody's criticism isn't nice. But whatever the situation is, the one thing that does help is having someone you care about have your back and stand up for you. When he shows he's stood in your corner and willing to defend you there's no better feeling and it's a true show of love!

25. Asking questions about them from genuine interest

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Asking questions is how we get to know someone properly and how we forge a deep and meaningful connection. So regardless of whether a guy is attracted to you physically, the way you know he's interested in YOU is when he shows a genuine interest in you and your life and asks questions. So when a guy does do this it shows that they value your opinions and thoughts.

26. Hair strokes

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Stroking a girl's hair is a staple move, this guy knows what he's doing! It's an instant heart flutter generator that makes you feel close to him. Everyone loves to feel loved and cared for and this is exactly how it makes you feel. There's something about it that's just super attractive and caring at the same time. It's soft and gentle but it also feels very intimate too.

27. Talking about the future

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From the first day we realize we care about a guy, to having been with a guy for ages, we want to know that they feel the same way we do. So when a guy talks about the future it gives a girl butterflies because it clearly shows her that you are just as invested in this relationship as she is and that you want it to continue. He can envisage his future with you in it!

28. Offering to help her

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There are many things that a guy can do such as take us out or compliment us that are beautiful things, but they are still just scratching the surface. But when a guy's actions aren't just about impressing you, they're about genuinely helping you this is when we know his feelings are real. So when a guy truly wants to help us out it gives a girl butterflies because she knows she's truly valued by him.

29. Remembering important dates

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'So what are we doing for the 9th of July, it's our anniversary coming up', 'I've booked a restaurant for 2 weeks time it's the day we first met'. If a girl hears these words, she's not just getting butterflies she'll be falling in love with you all over again. There's nothing more attractive than a guy who is thoughtful and sensitive and genuinely cares about his girl.

30. Showing he genuinely cares about her

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The most simple thing of all that a guy does that gives a girl butterflies is just showing he genuinely cares about her. It doesn't have to be a grand romantic gesture, it may be as simple as taking her a cup of coffee in the morning or leaving her a note when she's feeling down. It's the small important things where a guy shows he genuinely cares about her as a person that is the most butterfly-worthy actions.

31. Making her feel safe

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This doesn't have to be a huge gesture of making her safe, like actively saying he'll protect her or promising to keep her safe for the rest of his days in your wedding vows. It's more about the little movements or gestures, like moving you to walk inside of him next to a busy road, or holding your hand in a busy crowd so he doesn't lose you. Unconscious gestures he doesn't even think about!

32. Compliments that come out of nowhere

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There are times when a woman sort of expects compliments, like when she tries on some new clothes she's ordered in front of him, or on her birthday or anniversary. But the best little compliments to give butterflies are those that come without warning, and especially when a woman hasn't made any effort to get dressed up or to do anything special. Finding him looking at you and then randomly blurting out a compliment!

33. Saying sweet things about your future together

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The butterflies can come when you're not expecting him to say anything at all, so when he says things outside of 'official' conversations about your future together. Maybe you've not even had that conversation yet, and you'll be walking through the park or on the beach and he'll say 'Aww I hope our kids will do that' or 'isn't that kid sweet? I love kids...'

34. When he gets excited with his friends

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It's really nice to see how your partner acts with his closest friends, and if he's got a very tight knit friends group, it can be really great to see him get all excited when he sees them again - especially if he hasn't seen them for a while. Even better when he acts like a little kid around them and you get to see that side of him that he wants to share with you too!

35. When he lifts heavy things like it's nothing

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We don't mean making a huge point of it, like oh yeah I've been working out at the gym let me get that box for you (flexes muscles)... We mean when he does it naturally, without any need for attention, and just steps forward and scoops up that heavy box you've been struggling with for an hour and carries it for you. Or lifts up something you can't lift yourself.

36. Singing a song at her

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It's always fun when you get into a song with your partner, especially if it's your favorite song or if you have 'a song' that means something for your relationship. But the best times can be when he just randomly cranks up the radio and starts lip syncing at you or singing right at your face, especially if the lyrics are romantic or complimenting you! It's just great to see him having fun with it.

37. Little 'love note' texts throughout the day

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Some people are all about the 'good morning' and 'goodnight' texts, and some people find them a bit icky. But when you have a guy that genuinely cares about you and doesn't overdo it on the messaging, it can definitely bring the butterflies when you get a notification from them that just says something cute and sweet, like a quick compliment or even just the love heart emoji.

38. Picks up power tools like he's worked with them all his life

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In the same way it's just great to see him swoop in and lift a heavy box, even better when he just picks up a power tool and can immediately use it without checking the instructions or fiddling with the accessories. He picks it up like he's been doing it all his life and then gets to work on that DIY job you need doing, without making a big deal out of it.

39. When he smells SO GOOD

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So women definitely get the butterflies when guys compliment the way they smell, but how about the way he smells? There's nothing that gets the stomach jolting more than when his pleasant scent drifts by, especially when you associate his smell with happy memories! It's also why women like it when men leave their clothes behind... yes, we all take a good whiff!

40. When he drops everything to make her priority

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It's the sweetest thing when a guy drops everything when a woman didn't ask, or didn't expect it. She messages him telling him she's had a really bad day and even though they weren't scheduled to see each other until tomorrow, he switches his plans around and tells her he'll be over later for a hug and so she can talk about it. And he doesn't make her feel bad for it, either!

41. When he acts goofy

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Sure, being all cool, collected and mysterious is sexy and can give you butterflies, but there's nothing like that moment when the guy puts his guard down and shows how comfortable he is with you by being silly and goofy. It might be pulling faces, letting his real laugh out or just being weird with you... It's definitely a tick in the green flag box!

42. When he's mad at a task but finishes it anyway

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He told you that he wants to build that IKEA table all by himself, and you happily left him to it, but now you get to watch him across the room as he has his little playful tantrums and starts cursing at the table only to not give up! You tell him he doesn't have to do it but he says, red-faced 'No, I need to finish this'. And then he does. And then he's so adorably proud of his achievement.

43. When he carries her to bed when she's tired

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It's inevitable you're going to fall asleep on the couch after you spent 3 hours choosing a film to watch on Netflix only to fall asleep within the first five minutes. And what's the sweetest thing they can do in that moment instead of kicking you awake? Gently carrying you in their arms to the bedroom to tuck you into bed because you're too tired to do it yourself!

44. Helping her during that time of the month

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It's not too much to ask for our partners to support us during that horrible time of the month, but most guys as we know might avoid a woman during that time or at least not understand how bad it can actually be. Which is why when a man gets the hot water bottle ready, the painkillers and also a hand to massage your aching back, it's the best thing in the world.

45. When he squishes her in his arms while talking

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You're relaxing on the couch together and you ask him how his day has been, but he wants a cuddle - and then proceeds to pull you into his arms and hold you tightly while he then tells you all about his day with you squished against his chest! You tell him you need a drink or you need to pee but he only holds you tighter and won't let you go until he's finished chatting!

46. When he shows up out of the blue

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Of course, for an introvert this is their worst nightmare, but we like to think the guy we like gets a free pass to do this! Sometimes it's the nicest thing in the world for them to show up out of the blue when you didn't expect to see them that day, especially if they pop over to see you on your lunch and bring some food and tell you they just wanted to say hello!

47. When he gets caught in a white lie

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We don't mean something seriously untruthful, but when he makes a little white lie because he's tried to impress you but he likes you too much to actually be able to lie convincingly so he just blushes and fesses up straight away! Like when he buys a new shirt that happens to be your favorite color and you ask if he did that for you and he says '.... no...'!

48. He falls asleep on her

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Women love falling asleep on their guy's chest when they feel safe, but nothing is more adorable when they do the same back - especially if it was unplanned and you realize they've nodded off while lying on your chest! And you don't have the heart to wake them up so you just let them sleep - maybe take a quick photo so you can show them how cute they are later.

49. Stroking her fingers while holding her hand

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Holding hands in general is cute enough for butterflies, but it gets even better when they make unconscious movements with their fingers on your hand, like if you're holding hands in the movie theater and they're stroking the back of your hand, or if they start playing with your fingers or squeezing them when they're in the middle of a conversation.

50. When he tries to cook (when he can't cook)

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They absolutely get points for trying even when they can't cook, but nothing is more adorable when they get it very, very wrong, despite trying to cook you the most romantic meal in the world! Sure, it's sweet if they're a world class chef, but it somehow tastes better when it tastes awful if you know they've tried their best and failed spectacularly.