Things Guys Do That Give Women The ‘Ick’

Over-the-Top Selfies

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Dude, we're all about confidence, but when your Instagram feed's a one-man show, it's like, "Where's Waldo?" — except it's "Where's You?" Chill with the selfie parade, bro. It's awesome that you love yourself, but scrolling through an endless reel of your pouty faces and mirror shots is like playing hide-and-seek with your personality. Leave a little mystery for the grand reveal, okay?

Excessive Mansplaining

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We're not all damsels in distress. When you drop unsolicited wisdom like it's hot, it's more like a chilly shower. Let us adult; we got this! We've got our own Wikipedia tabs open, thank you. Sharing facts can be great, but don't monopolize the conversation with a lecture on quantum physics when we're discussing weekend plans. We promise; we're perfectly capable of finding our way without your navigational guidance.

Gloating about Gaming

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Sure, we respect your skills, but when you game-talk more than a podcaster on a triple espresso, it's kinda hard to picture romantic candlelit dinners. We're down for your gaming passion, but remember, there's more to life than button-mashing. If your dinner stories consist of epic battle strategies, it's time to switch up the narrative, unless you want us to start ordering sword-shaped utensils!

Picking Nose in Traffic

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We get it; traffic's a bore, but treating your nostrils like it's a gold mine? Instant ick. While bumper-to-bumper may push anyone's patience, utilizing your nasal cavities as a dig site isn't the way to kill time. It's like turning rush hour into a personal excavation project. Consider keeping your nostril adventures private to prevent fellow drivers from experiencing a shared case of the "ick."

Cargo Shorts Overload

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Who needs that many pockets? It's not an expedition; it's brunch. Plus, you look like a walking storage unit. Sure, pockets are nifty, but turning your lower half into a storage locker is overkill. We appreciate practicality, but your shorts shouldn't double as a miniaturized Home Depot. Keep the mystery alive; let us wonder if you're hiding a toolbox in there!

Ignoring Hygiene Basics

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Remembering to shower isn't a bar you set; it's the baseline. Take care of business, or we'll start treating you like business-class seating — far, far away. Soap and water aren't exotic spa treatments; they're necessities. If your hygiene routine is reminiscent of a forgotten post-apocalyptic world, don't be surprised if you find yourself on the solo couch during movie night.

Emoji Overload

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Using too many emojis makes us wonder if you're secretly auditioning for a clown troupe. Emojis are the spice of digital life, but a parade of clapping hands isn't a standing ovation. Expressions are like a well-cooked meal — balanced and not drowning in seasoning. We're here for meaningful text, not deciphering your hieroglyphic symphony.

Oblivious Manspreading

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We know you've got goods down there, but claiming territory like an expanding universe? Not cool, Einstein. Sure, confidence has its place, but when leg space becomes a game of territorial expansion, it's like we're on a cosmic battlefield. Remember, we're all sharing this earthly ride, so let's keep the spatial diplomacy in check and avoid a galactic clash.

Axe Body Spray Abuse

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We want a date, not an encounter with an air freshener factory. Less is more, champ. The goal isn't to drench yourself in body spray to the point where we wonder if you're auditioning for a perfume ad. Think less "odor masking" and more "pleasant essence." Remember, subtlety is the key to creating an inviting aura, not transforming yourself into a walking scent dispenser.

Highlighting "Friendliness"

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Dude, if you mention how friendly you are one more time, we might think you're keeping a closet full of "Best Friend" trophies. Being friendly is commendable, but when you parade your affability like a peacock with feathers of popularity, it raises an eyebrow. It's like you're trying to secure a "Friend of the Year" award. Let your actions speak louder than your claim to fame.

Dad Joke Overload

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We chuckle at dad jokes, but when every sentence is a punchline, it's like a stand-up comedy show we didn't buy tickets for. Dad jokes are a treat, but when you morph into a walking punchline factory, it feels like we're trapped in a perpetual laugh track. Let's balance the humor scale; life's more than a sitcom, and we're craving depth beyond one-liners.

Underwear Exposé

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Thanks for the info, but we don't need the status update on your underwear. Secure that waistband, MacGyver. Sharing is caring, but when your waistband competing in an exhibition, it's time for an intervention. Boxers or briefs, we'll leave that decision to you, but we don't need a live demo during brunch. Keep your sartorial secrets under wraps, please.

Unsolicited Flexing

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We're all for a strong flex, but when you're showing off biceps like they're produce at a farmer's market — no thanks. Flaunting your physique is great, but transforming a casual chat into a muscle showcase is like attending a bodybuilding expo. We're here for genuine conversation, not a ticket to the gun show. Flex your mind; that's where the real strength lies.

Burping Contests

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Sharing is caring, but belching your alphabet is kindergarten-level antics. Time to graduate, really. While camaraderie is delightful, engaging in burping symphonies is like attending the school of social immaturity. It's not a competition for the noisiest digestive system. Let's swap alphabet recitals for more sophisticated conversations, shall we?

Food Fight Enthusiasm

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We love food, but watching you inhale a burger like you're wrestling it is a bit cringeworthy. Chew, don't challenge! Eating's a pleasure, not an Olympic sport. Your burger's not a wrestling opponent — it's a delicious creation meant to be savored. Instead of attempting a bite-sized wrestling match, let's savor the flavors and have a conversation that doesn't involve grappling with your meal.

Cartoon Character Voices

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It's like Siri's ghost possessed you. Let's keep Mickey Mouse out of this conversation, shall we? Cartoon voices can be entertaining, but too many character switch-ups make it feel like we're caught in a voice actor's portfolio. We're aiming for a tête-à-tête, not an animated casting call. Let's showcase our own voices for a change; no script required.

"Inexplicable" Jealousy

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When you suddenly turn into Sherlock Holmes hunting for non-existent clues of infidelity, it's time to drop the magnifying glass. Jealousy's a tricky emotion, but playing detective with a magnifying glass worthy of a murder mystery? That's a bit too far. If trust is a delicate flower, your magnifying glass is a bulldozer. Let's cultivate a more secure garden, shall we?

Nonstop Gym Check-ins

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Breaking news: You're at the gym! Documenting every squat like it's a national event is a bit much, don't you think? Gym dedication's impressive, but turning it into a breaking news feed? Unless you're the official spokesperson, your squats probably aren't prime-time material. Let's dial down the gym status updates and make room for a conversation that doesn't involve checking in as if you're auditioning for a fitness reality show.

Expensive Watch Flashing

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We appreciate craftsmanship, but when you're flashing your watch like it's an Olympic torch, it loses its charm, literally. Your exquisite timepiece deserves admiration, but wearing it like a neon sign screams, "Look at my wrist, not my personality." Let's swap the spotlight from your wrist to engaging conversations where the true value lies; what do you say?

Overboard Baby Talk

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Sure, babies are adorable, but hearing 'goo-goo-ga-ga' at a restaurant is like being stuck in a nursery. Babies bring smiles, but when adults succumb to baby talk, it's like a linguistic regression. We're adults, conversing about restaurant menus, not diaper sizes. So, let's switch off the nursery rhyme mode and engage in grown-up dialogue, shall we?

"Accidentally" Shirtless Selfies

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We're onto your "accidental" shirtless bathroom selfies, Casanova. It's time for a new profile strategy. The shirtless selfie's a classic, but pretending it's an accidental upload? We've cracked the code. Instead of relying on the 'whoops, my shirt slipped' trick, let's embrace authenticity. A genuine smile is a lot more appealing than a Photoshop bluff.

Extended Video Game Marathons

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Sure, we enjoy video games too, but when you're on a 48-hour spree, it's like you're dating your console. Gaming's a shared interest, but turning it into a solo 48-hour bonding session with your console? It's like you're in a committed relationship with pixels, for real. Let's find a balance between avatars and real-life conversations; we're adults, after all!

Spontaneous Pickup Lines

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We admire the effort, but surprise pick-up lines make us feel like we're in a cringey rom-com. A well-timed pick-up line can spark intrigue, but every sentence doesn't need a cheesy twist. Let's aim for genuine interactions without scripting our conversations. After all, we're here to build connections, not audition for a role in a romantic comedy.

Unsolicited Fashion Police

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We're not runway models, and you're not Anna Wintour. Let us be the trendsetter. While fashion advice can be appreciated, playing the unsolicited fashion police is like turning casual coffee chats into runway critiques. We're not auditioning for a fashion show, and you're not the final judge. Let's celebrate each other's unique styles and leave the catwalk critiques to the experts.

Extreme Competitive Streak

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Healthy competition's cool, but turning everyday conversations into Olympic events is exhausting. From Monopoly to who can finish a sandwich first, we appreciate your enthusiasm for friendly competition. But if every discussion turns into a gold medal match, it's like living in a perpetual playoffs season. Let's find balance, though — conversations aren't always sporting events.

Incessant Phone Checking

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Checking your phone like it's an emergency hotline sends a signal that we're sharing your attention. Our conversation deserves more than divided focus, so let's put the phones aside and dive into a world of uninterrupted connection. Our real-time chat should be the main event, not a sideshow to your screen. Frequent phone glances give the impression that you're chasing down elusive Pokémon, not actively engaging.

Faux Intellectualism

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Impress us with genuine insights, not a thesaurus-heavy monologue. Sprinkling conversations with overly complex words doesn't make you a philosopher; it's like watching a thesaurus tap dance. Let's opt for meaningful discussions instead of linguistic acrobatics. Monologues worthy of a TED Talk might earn admiration, but it feels more like a linguistics class when our dialogue becomes a vocabulary test.

Overstaying the Text Welcome

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Long texts can be a treasure trove of thoughts, but turning them into a novella suggests we're in for a marathon reading session. Let's strive for concise communication that leaves room for back-and-forth dialogues. Text messages are appetizers, not the main course. While your detailed messages are informative, they're starting to resemble novels. Let's embrace the art of succinctness, allowing space for engaging conversations rather than scripted soliloquies.

"Chivalry" Grandstanding

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Announcing your "chivalry" louder than a stadium announcer doesn't make it chivalry — it's showmanship. Chivalry's a timeless virtue, but when your acts of "kindness" resemble a grand parade complete with trumpet fanfare, it feels less about genuine courtesy and more like an attention-grabbing spectacle. Let's dial down the theatrics and focus on authentic gestures, shall we?

Endless Self-Deprecation

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Humor's great, but if you're the target of every joke, it's like we're watching a one-man roast. Constantly casting yourself as the punchline might earn chuckles, but it also leaves us wondering if you've mistaken our date for a comedy club open mic. Let's create a partnership where we both shine rather than turning our interactions into a stand-up routine with a solo act.

Ignoring them

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This is one of the biggest icks in the dating game because if you're dating, why are you willingly ignoring the person who's putting time and effort into you? If you want to ignore someone, then what's the point dating them in the first place! This is a no-go for women.

Have a HUGE ego

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Confidence is very important, but there's a limit - and huge egos can stay at the door, thank you very much. Not many women are going to find a huge ego attractive, because it leaves less room for them in your life. If you love yourself that much, date yourself.

Being sexist

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Even a little bit isn't okay, and no it's not a joke really is it? The smallest sexist comment brushed under the rug is just as bad, and we've no time for it. All it tells us is that 1) of course, you're sexist and number 2) that's what our future would be like with you.

Being very obvious when checking other people out

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Most people are going to have their eyes wander from time to time, it's inevitable, but there's a different between a quick glance and absolutely ogling the waitress that comes over - who you then turn your head to watch leave while at the dinner table with your date.

Wearing old and dirty clothes

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We spoke about how basic hygiene is a HUGE deal, but that goes hand in hand with clean clothes, too. You can shower all you want, but if you're putting on the same pair of jeans you've had for 20 years with holes all over them and a crusty t-shirt, it's a no from us, thanks.

Having no self-confidence

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Having absolutely zero confidence is just as bad as having a huge ego. If your self-esteem is on the floor, all that tells us is that you're going to feel more like a project than a date. It's okay to have insecurities but it's all about your attitude towards them. If you're just moping instead of trying to feel better, it's a turn off.

Lying - plain and simple

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Nobody wants a liar, no matter the gender. If you're telling little white lies, it's just going to make us wonder what bigger lies you're going to be willing to tell in the future. You shouldn't be lying about anything when you're dating someone, so you best believe it's an ick.

Being disrespectful (especially to serving staff)

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Basic respect is a must - having disrespect is an ick. And we don't mean it's okay if you're respectful to us, because if we see you being disrespectful to others, it's a turn off. You can tell a lot about a person based on how rude and disrespectful they are to people like serving staff.

Being pessimistic about everything

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This can sort of fall into the same category as the low self-esteem deal, because if you're constantly 'woe is me' or looking on the dark side of life, it's eventually going to wear us down and burn us out if you we date you, and we don't really want to be with someone who's going to drag us down.

Moving way too fast

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Sure, it's great to know you're invested and excited about the future, but it's a huge ick if you're already picking out wedding outfits when we haven't even got to dessert yet. Moving way too fast is definitely an ick because it's just overwhelming and akin to love bombing - which is a no-go.

Making us guess about your every move

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Openness and honesty is so key in dating, and it's a huge plus when a guy is upfront about what he wants or what he's thinking. If you're being annoyingly mysterious or not clear about your intentions for the relationship, or anything else you're doing, it's something we don't have the energy to deal with.

Bad manners (gross)

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We don't want to see you sneeze in your hand and wipe it on your shirt, or belch and then scratch your a**. We're fine with normal bodily functions, but there's a difference between doing what you can't help and point blank being gross. Whether it's in public or in private, bad manners are bad manners!

Being way too sensitive

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We definitely don't want to be treading on eggshells around you, which is why it's an ick - we don't want to be wondering whether you're going to take offense at every little thing we say. If you're overly sensitive, it also tells us you might have other issues or are insecure.

Having no get-up-and-go

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This falls into the category of 'empty promises' and 'yeah yeah I'll do it tomorrow'. You might think it counts if you say "yes, I'm going to clean the house tomorrow" or "I'm going to search for a new job" but if you never actually do it, it's just constant disappointment and shows you have zero motivation. Ick!

Not being able to depend on you

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Being able to depend on your partner is a must, which is why being unreliable is a big fat ick. If you're constantly late, standing us up, forgetting to call us when you said you would, it's just telling us you're disorganized and we're never going to be able to depend on you.

Being completely selfish

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If you're selfish, then you're not ready for dating - plain and simple. You can have your alone time without being selfish, so if it's all 'me me me' then that's one of the big icks. There's no room for us if you're being selfish, and it just means you'll always come first.

Not being willing to cook

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We don't mean we get the ick if you're not a naturally gifted chef or don't enjoy cooking - but if you're only ever prepared to make burnt toast and beans or the 10th TV dinner for the week, it's just.... well, off-putting. It shows us you're not healthy and kinda lazy to be honest.

Having zero ambitions

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Ambition and having goals is one of the most attractive things about a person, so if you have absolutely no get up and go, aren't making any attempts to make plans and are flat out lazy when it comes to life and your career, it just tells us everything we need to know about a future with you.

Wearing clothes that are too tight

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Fitted clothing can look attractive, sure. The most attractive thing is clothing that just... well, fits. If you're wearing clothes that are two sizes too small purposefully to accentuate muscles or whatever else, it doesn't look as good as you think it does. And it just means you look uncomfortable!

Sending unsolicited pics nobody asked for

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You might think that late night snap is the hottest thing you've ever seen, but we certainly don't - if we didn't ask for it. We don't want your heavily filtered, bad lighting photos when we didn't ask for them, and while it might be sexy if we want to see, it most certainly is not if you force it on us!

Being overly cringy

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Steer clear from the cringe because it's a one way ticket to giving a woman the ick. Being cringy could be trying too hard to be cool or funny but missing the mark entirely. Whether it's a cringe-worthy pickup line or overusing internet slang, just tone it down slightly.

Calling their ex 'crazy'

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Not only is it a clearly disrespectful and ick-inducing term to label your ex as 'crazy', but it also makes a woman question whether you're really the problem. It's red flag behaviour and it could warm a woman straight off you if they hear that age-old excuse.

Talking about their ex at all!

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In fact, in the initial stages we don't want to hear about your ex at all. Talking about them excessively just screams that you're not over them at all. Until a woman asks you about her, in which case be open and honest, then lay off the ex-girlfriend chat!

Acting too 'macho'

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You know, the whole chest-puffing, overly aggressive thing? It can come off as intimidating and even make it hard to connect to your real personality. Creating the whole 'tough' act means that people don't actually get to see the real you, just a façade.

Having a complete lack of communication skills

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Dating or forming a relationship is pretty impossible without any kind of communication skills. If getting to the bottom of how you are feeling is like drawing blood from a stone then it's going to get very old, very quick. A woman likes to know where she stands.

Or being super needy

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Dating someone who consistently seeks excessive attention and reassurance can be exhausting. The constant need for validation and support can make the relationship feel very one-way. A man being too needy makes a woman feel emotionally drained and can give her the ick!

Having copious amounts of confidence (arrogance)

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There's a fine line between confidence and arrogance. One is super attractive, and the other will give a woman the ick. The key lies in finding a middle ground where self-assurance enhances rather than dominates the conversation and every statement doesn't emphasize an unwavering belief in your own superiority.

Wearing trousers down to their knees

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That look has come and gone, thankfully. Yet despite the fact that the trend is out, some men still love to rock the whole trousers around their knees look. We don't want to see your underwear. Pull them up, or add a belt because it's not a good look.

Talking about lots of women

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Discussing or talking about lots of women, especially in a manner that objectifies or reduces them to mere numbers, is the most sure way to giving a woman the ick! No woman is attracted by a man belittling another woman, or by boasting about how many women they've dated!

The pouting selfie

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The pouting selfie' might trigger the ick factor for some women, and here's why, guys: when you consistently post selfies with that pouting expression, it can come across as somewhat insincere or overly posed. We'd much rather see a natural looking photo.

Making everything into an innuendo

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When everything becomes a potential double entendre, it might give the impression of a lack of depth or an avoidance of genuine connection. A woman will feel like you're here for the wrong reasons, and that you might be here for a physical connection only!

Being excessively loud with your friends

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Many guys, as soon as they are with their friends, change into a much louder version of themselves. Everything escalates in volume, which can make others around them feel uncomfortable. It's especially likely to give a woman the ick if you're shouting foul language!

And suddenly acting like you're back in the playground

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We've all witnessed a group of male friends get together and watched them revert from mature individuals, to kids back in the playground shouting and jeering. While it all might be a bit of fun, it's not exactly the behaviour that's going to attract a woman, but maybe the opposite effect!

White skinny jeans

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This is a controversial point. Some women may love the skinny white jean look. Others feel that this look came and went a few years ago, and they're hoping it will stay out forever. When done right, they could be a fashion statement. Done wrong, they could give a woman the ick.

Talking about fighting

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Is there anything more unattractive to a woman than a man talking about fighting or even worse, boasting about it?! It's an instant turn-off. It gives off the completely wrong impression, sounding aggressive and also majorly immature. It's a huge red flag.

Inappropriate humour

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Imagine cracking jokes that make people go, Did he just say that? It's not about killing the fun, but sometimes, the boundary between funny and off-putting is pretty thin. Keeping the vibe light without diving into questionable territory ensures everyone enjoys the humor without feeling awkward.

Chewing loud or with their mouth open

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Chewing with your mouth open or chewing too loud has to be one of the most irritating sounds, ever. Instead of savouring your meal, someone has to try and tune out disgusting smacking and slurping sounds. It shows a complete lack of table manners and it's simply just gross.

Totally ignoring boundaries

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Completely disregarding boundaries is like entering a social minefield where the well-established lines of comfort get blurred or flat-out ignored. When boundaries are thrown out the window, it's like signaling that personal comfort zones don't matter.

Texting non-stop

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When guys keep bombarding with messages, it can be a bit overwhelming. It's crucial to find a balance, especially in the early stages of dating. Constant texting takes away the anticipation of waiting for a reply and discovering things about each other gradually. Assuming the other person is available all the time? Not so great.

Or leaving texts on read!

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Come on guys, there's a happy medium here. Women don't want to be bombarded, but they do want SOMETHING. A little text now and then, it's super easy. Communication is a two-way street, and when one side feels ignored, it can create a sense of disconnect.

Talking about themselves too much

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When guys dominate the conversation with their own stories, achievements, or interests without showing genuine interest in the other person, it can be a bit off-putting. Constantly steering discussions back to oneself might come off as self-centred and make the other person feel unheard or unimportant.

Overly flashing the cash

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When you're flashing the cash too much it's off putting for a woman who think that you're trying to impress her with your wealth - which feels superficial! When you're constantly displaying your wealth, it can create an atmosphere that revolves around materialism rather than genuine connections.

Being flaky

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It's not just about occasional changes in plans; it's about the consistency of unpredictability. When you're flaky, it can leave others feeling uncertain and frustrated, questioning whether they can depend on you. Reliability is a cornerstone for solid connections!

Constant mirror check-ups

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When you find yourself doing mirror check-ups at every turn, it might inadvertently convey a preoccupation with your appearance. While a quick glance for a touch-up is normal, an excessive focus on your reflection could be perceived as vanity which is off putting for a woman.

Ordering for them

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This is seriously an ick move. Taking the lead and ordering for someone means that you're assuming their food preferences without a discussion. You aren't considering their preferences and giving them agency in their choices. When you take charge of ordering without consulting, it makes women feel like their opinions aren't valued or that their autonomy is being overlooked.

Being possessive

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When you become possessive it makes a woman feel stifled, as if they're losing their independence. A healthy relationship allows for individual space and trust. Constantly needing to assert control or constantly questioning someone's every move may lead to feelings of suffocation and a lack of freedom.

Trying to be too 'touchy feely'

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Being overly "touchy-feely," guys, turns every interaction into a physical thing. No woman wants to feel as though you're pursuing her for the wrong reasons and it comes across as though you're only interested in the physical aspect of the relationship.

Flirting obviously with other people

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It can create discomfort and raise questions about commitment. When you're laying on the charm a bit too thick with others, it's hard to ignore. Instead of creating a sense of security and appreciation, it introduces an element of uncertainty and can leave a partner feeling undervalued.

Being too focused on material things

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When you're excessively fixated on material possessions, it can potentially trigger the "ick" for women. Genuine connections and shared moments hold more weight than the price tags of your belongings. So, if the focus remains overwhelmingly on materialism, it may lead to a sense of shallowness and a lack of depth.

Talking about his 'status'

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When you consistently bring up your status, whether it's in terms of career, social standing, or other accomplishments, it may come across as self-centered or boastful. Women might find it off-putting because it can create an impression that your self-worth is solely tied to external validations.

Not making an effort

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All women want a man to make an effort. It sends the right message to tell her you are interested and you're willing to put time and effort into getting to know her because she's important to you. Not making an effort sends exactly the opposite message!

Telling you to 'dress nice'

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When you repeatedly emphasize the need to 'dress nice,' it might make women feel scrutinized, or make them feel that their appearance is your primary focus. It can create pressure and contribute to a sense of not being accepted for who they are, or that you have previously disliked what they wore.

Telling a woman 'they're lucky' to be dating you

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Telling a woman that she's "lucky" to be dating you, guys, can come off as a bit presumptive and super arrogant! It's like suggesting that your presence alone is the key factor in making the relationship fortunate for her, potentially overlooking her individual qualities and contributions.

Idealizing the date or relationship

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Women can get the ick when a guy starts to idealize their situation, especially when they don't reciprocate the same level of feelings! If you're painting an over-romanticized picture that might not reflect reality, it's piling on the pressure for her to feel the same.

Constantly asking for compliments or reassurance

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Needing constant reassurance or fishing for compliments can be completely emotionally exhausting. It can make a woman feel as though they cannot give you enough, or as though you aren't trusting their true feelings for you. It makes women feel like they're on a loop of providing validation.

Telling continuous stories about himself

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If you're bombarding her with a continuous series of stories about yourself, she's going to feel as though you're only interested in you and not her. It's an egotistical trait, which may give her the ick because it's like a one man show. You're talking about yourself and never about her.

Interrupting mid-sentence

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It's not just about breaking into someone's words; it sends a message that what's being said doesn't matter. A conversation should be a give-and-take, a balanced exchange where everyone gets their say. Constantly cutting in mid-sentence throws this balance off-kilter, making it a struggle for everyone to express themselves.

Only complimenting a woman's appearance

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Every woman loves a compliment on her physical appearance, but not at the expense of her real attributes! It's not just about looks; it's about acknowledging the depth and uniqueness she brings. It might make women feel like their other qualities are overlooked.

Playing down their achievements

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Minimizing a woman's achievements sends her a message that her accomplishments aren't as significant as they truly are. It makes her feel completely unvalued which is a sure way to give her the ick. No woman ever wants to feel unappreciated or undermined.

Telling a woman to smile!

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As a woman being told to smile by a man, there's almost nothing more irritating. It's patronizing, and simply nothing to do with anybody else whether she wants to smile or not. It can come across as disregarding her right to experience and express emotions naturally.

Excessively gossiping about people

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Gossiping too much can make women question the sincerity of conversations and wonder if they might become the subject of discussion. So, you might think that talking about other people behind their back is interesting or funny, but it's giving the totally wrong impression!

Being overly bothered about people's opinions

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When you're overly preoccupied with what others think, it might make women feel like you're not fully embracing your authentic self. Constantly seeking approval can create an atmosphere of tension and may give the impression that external opinions hold more weight than your own values. Just be yourself!

Having a short temper

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When you've got a short fuse, it can make minor issues feel like major explosions, creating tension and discomfort. It's crucial to work on lengthening that fuse, giving yourself and those around you the space to navigate disagreements without the unnecessary fireworks.

Being inconsistent

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Inconsistency gives an impression that you can't be trusted. Consistency is like the trusty sidekick in a relationship; it's what helps everyone navigate the twists and turns smoothly. When you're consistently there, it builds a sense of security and understanding.

Being overly secretive

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If you're being too secretive, you could risk giving a woman the ick. Keeping secrets is going to make her feel like you're constantly hiding something and can't be trusted. A little mystery is very different to totally holding back on crucial information about yourself.

Being overly confident on text and shy in person

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Being super confident over text, and then turning into a bit of a shrinking violet in person isn't the most attractive move. When you're a text champion but a bit reserved face-to-face, it might make women feel like they're interacting with two different characters.

Making a joke out of everything she says

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This is super irritating for a woman because while they are happy to laugh and joke, there at times where it's not appropriate. For example, if a woman ahs opened up and told you something you need to respond sensitively. Joking can make her feel unheard and she won't trust you with her feelings.

Being unpredictable with your moods

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When you're unpredictable she'll feel as though she's walking on eggshells, which is not what any woman wants. They want consistency, to know where they're at. Not having to continuously guess what mood you'll be and whether you'll be blowing hot or cold with her.

Ignoring her input in decision making

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When her input gets consistently overlooked, it can make her feel left undervalued. It's important to create an atmosphere where decisions are a joint effort, recognizing the value each person brings. Balancing out the decision-making process ensures that both partners feel heard and have a say in how the relationship unfolds.