30 Things That Are Never The Same After Getting Married

1. You feel more pressure from your job

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When you get married, the effort you put into work and the income you get suddenly becomes a team deal - you feel more pressure to provide for the shared life, and you realize that anything like promotions, working hours and bonuses are going to impact the both of you, and not just yourself!

2. You take less time for yourself

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Getting married just reinforces the importance of being there for your partner and meeting each other's needs. This can go both ways, though - it's a good thing, certainly, but a lot of the time you might find you're neglecting a lot of your own time and self care to meet the needs of your spouse.

3. You'll likely go out less

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As a married couple, you might think you'll never give up the more active social life you used to have, but the reality is you're likely to become more reclusive - at least at first. It's much more likely you'll 'settle in' as a couple and stop spending money on going on so much - whether this is a good thing or a bad thing in your eyes!

4. You'll both become more stubborn

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They say the first year of marriage can be the most difficult, and a lot of that could be down to the likelihood of being more stubborn! Once you've cemented in that marriage bond and officially becoming a team, you're more likely to be less generous when it comes to compromising, and a lot of people's true colors can come out in terms of what they want to be stubborn about!

5. Time goes by far too fast

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It's great that you're sharing your days with the person you love, but you'll find that the hours go by so much faster when you're married. There's double the amount of activity going on with two of you living your lives and you might find you can't believe a year has passed already!

6. Your comfort zone

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When you get married, your comfort zone - and what you're willing to try - completely changes. You'll be open to a lot more new experiences that push the boundaries because you're a couple looking for the next big adventure, and you'll likely do a lot of things you never would have done when single!

7. Your emotional stability

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Dating can be full of highs and lows when it comes to your emotions, and even a long-term committed relationship can see your emotions fluctuate. But with the commitment of marriage, emotional stability can actually become more solid and you'll likely both have a better handle on your feelings and how to express yourself.

8. Stresses over finances

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Money woes suddenly become more stressful, because you're sharing your finances - even if you don't have a shared bank account, you're still aware that your life (and its payments) are very much a shared burden now. Which means if your partner is doing something irresponsible with money, it's your problem, too!

9. Your own sense of identity

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A lot of people lose themselves completely in marriage, when it comes very much about their partner or their shared life together. Some people can drop old passions or hobbies that they might have had, and it's easy to have an identity crisis in marriage - especially when you slip into gender roles.

10. Your spending habits

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It's likely that your partner is going to see every little thing you're spending on your joint bank statement, so you become more aware of the stupid things you're buying or when you're shopping more impulsively. Spending guilt is also likely if your partner calls you out for something!

11. Say goodbye to privacy!

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You should still set boundaries when it comes to privacy, even in marriage, but for the most part, there's nothing you're going to be able to do privately anymore. Whether it's actively sharing intimate information with your spouse, or just them finding out the real you through married life, you won't really have any private sanctuary from your spouse.

12. And the hope of having any secrets

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We don't mean anything negative like leading a secret life or being unfaithful - we just mean those simple secrets you might have been able to keep when single or dating that now go out the window when you have a spouse. Even down to weird secret toilet habits, everything

is out in the open!

13. Romantic or lengthy text messages

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Gone are the days when you'd fill your partner in on what you're doing with the day, or maybe sending flirty text messages with lots of emojis. The likelihood of texting during marriage will be very short and to the point messages - to get an answer about something, or just because you know it's better to speak later about it in person!

14. Your friendships will change - for better or worse

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Getting married can truly be the testament of friendships - and it also depends on the relationship status of pals, too. Single pals may grow distant because you're settled now, or you may find new friends in married couples and neglect (unintentionally) old friends. Or, marriage can strengthen existing friendships because you make time away from your spouse.

15. You learn the true meaning of self-control

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Never has your self-control been in a better state than when you're married! You've worked out when you really need to bite your tongue, avoid bringing something up, or even avoid buying something because you know it'll turn into an argument. You'll get a better handle on what you have the energy for!

16. Forgiveness comes more easily

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When you're married, you're more likely to be open to forgiveness without holding a grudge. When dating or in a relationship outside of marriage, it's much harder to let go of things because it makes you doubt the future of the relationship. With the security of marriage, it makes it a lot easier to let things go!

17. Things feel less like a competition

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Being in a relationship can often feel like a competition, even if you don't mean it to be. Fallouts can be because of who earns the most money, who is responsible for paying for what, or even things like gym workouts or promotions can drive a wedge. In marriage, things feel more like a team effort and less like a competition.

18. Your go-to home base

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For most people, even when in relationships, their home base for security and support will be their parents' house, like if you need to move back in after losing a job, or just to have them close by to get on your feet. Now, your home base is directly your spouse for support.

19. S*x!

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One of the biggest things that can change after marriage is s*x, and that isn't to say that it changes for the worse. Marriage can be one of the biggest factors in physical intimacy levels, and while it's common for s*x to decline after marriage, the intimacy levels and connection during it actually increases and gets better! Hoorah!

20. Your self-esteem levels

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Your self-esteem worries should actually go out of the window by the time you're married - there's less and less you're worried about when it comes to your physical appearance or habits. By this point, your spouse has truly accepted you for who you are, so there's less uncertainty and worry about things like body image woes.

21. Your view on alone time

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This is bound to change after marriage, and actually, it can become easier to ask for, or expect, alone time. Because you both understand that through marriage you're under each other's feet a lot, it's not a bad thing for one of you to ask for a night off or more alone time in the other room if you share a home.

22. Your holiday habits

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Now that you're an official married couple, it's expected by everyone that you show up for holiday celebrations as a unit. It'll draw suspicious looks or questions if you turn up to a Thanksgiving party without a spouse, so there'll be more pressure on going to every single party or family gathering as a couple!

23. How much you're willing to compromise

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Compromise is one of the biggest factors in a happy and healthy marriage. You'll realize very quickly how much you're willing to compromise, have been made to compromise, or how you expect your spouse to compromise for you! You'll also find it likely comes very easy for the person you love if it doesn't fundamentally change who you are!

24. You're likely going to put on weight

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It's common for people in healthy and happy relationships to put on weight, because they've reached a level of comfort (and also spending more time indulging and eating out together!). After marriage, it's even more likely for one, or both of you, to pack on the pounds.

25. The responsibilities you have

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The mundane adult responsibilities you had before are suddenly doubled, because now you're both responsible for what each other has going on, too! You'll find you feel more burdened with everyday tasks, and this is also why it's important to clearly communicate who's responsible for what around the home.

26. The conversations you have

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Gone are the days of 'get to know you' conversations, or even deep conversations about the meaning of life. After marriage, it's more likely that you'll be open to more awkward and difficult conversations on a regular basis - because it's important to air it all out in the open when you want to spend the rest of your lives together!

27. Your sleeping routine

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One of the biggest things that can be impacted after marriage is the amount (and quality) of sleep you get - and there's a reason some married couples choose to sleep in different rooms! Whether it's dealing with a partner who snores, not being able to sleep when your partner isn't there or battling over which mattress firmness to have in the bedroom, your sleep is going to change - for better or for worse (in sickness, and in health!).

28. Weekends are for staying in, not going out

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To a married couple, weekends can very easily become a treasured opportunity to just stay home together and do nothing. It's more likely weekends are going to be time to spend together at home after marriage rather than big nights out or friend/family meetups!

29. How others perceive your relationship

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Telling others that you're married is taken much more seriously than if you just say you're in a relationship - even if you've been in one for several years! That label of marriage makes people view you differently, especially when it comes to a random flirt in a bar who is more willing to back off if you say you're married rather than 'I have a partner'.

30. Your views on health

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These views can change drastically after you get married, because you're suddenly thinking about your future together and how important it is to be as healthy as possible for your spouse in the long-term. You'll likely take exercise and healthy eating more seriously (but that doesn't necessarily mean you'll find it easy to stick to a diet!).