30 Signs Your Kids Partner Is Bad For Them

Your kid changes their behavior in front of their partner

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One of the first signs that your child is with someone no good for them is that their behavior instantly changes when you see them with each other. Usually, they become shy or coy, and that's no way for a mother to see her child. This for sure will start ringing alarm bells.

You notice random bruises and injuries

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If you've start noticing your child being presented with random bruises and injuries, don't ignore them. Did you know that 1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men will experience domestic abuse at some point in their lives? It might just be your confrontation that gets them out of it.

Your kid constantly looks tired and defeated

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You might have noticed that the last few times you've seen your child, they're looking more and more tired, with black bags under their eyes and messy hair. Well, perhaps there's something relatively important on their mind. Don't be afraid to reach out to them for their sake.

Your kid's partner ALWAYS picks them up and drops them off

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Have you noticed that whenever your kid is coming over to your house, the partner is always the one to pick them up or drop them off? This can be a classic sign of a controlling relationship, giving the partner the ability to know where and when your kid is at all times.

They've stopped posting on social media

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We all know what children are like; they love to post everything on social media, whether that's what they're wearing, what they're having for dinner, or just a photo of their beloved dog. However, a warning sign might be that you've noticed them take a step back from social media and have deactivated their accounts.

Their partner is in control of the money

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All of a sudden, you're going out shopping with your child when they admit that they've got no money. Why is that? They might be working comfortably, but they don't seem to do much outside of work. This is definitely something worth raising with them, as it could be a form of financial manipulation.

You've noticed they don't see their friends anymore

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Every time you ask your kid about one of their lifelong friends, they just shrug it off. How's Kelly doing? Not seen her. What about Jason? Not spoken to him in ages. This might not be a cause for concern, but it's worth bearing in mind in case their partner is keeping them from seeing their friends.

Your mother's intuition is calling out

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Listen, a mother's intuition is KEY and you shouldn't ignore it and blame it on your hormones. If you feel in your gut that something is going on with your kid and their partner, don't turn a blind eye. The bond between a mother and child is stronger than anyone could believe.

They won't come off their phone when they're around you

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You've finally squeezed in some much-needed quality time with your kid, but all they seem to be doing is texting or calling their partner and paying no attention to you. Their possessiveness might just be a massive warning sign that they're not good for them.

When they're texted, their mood changes

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Following on from the last point, you can instantly see a mood change in your child when their partner texts them. Don't ignore this warning sign; it might be a hint that something deeper is going on, and you should keep an on your kid to make sure they're okay.

They're making irrational life choices

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If you're lucky, your kid might've been a sensible person with their head screwed on. They wanted to save for a car, then a house, before settling down and getting married. But now, it's all changed. Since their partner has been in the picture, they've splashed their cash on pointless stuff.

Their partner is rude to you

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Well, we can hardly say that this is a surprising sign. Listen, if your kid's partner is rude to you, odds are that they're not treating your kid very nicely at home. Don't stand for the abruptness and rudeness; instead, address it with your child properly.

Alternatively, their partner is being fake nice to you

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On the other hand, to the point above, maybe your kid's partner is appearing to be almost too nice. It's an interesting tactic that they can often take, where they act so polite and kind to their partner's parents, when behind closed doors there's a different side to them.

The partner constantly talks down to your kid

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You might have even witnessed some odd behavior yourself that doesn't quite add up. If you're child is with someone manipulative, abusive or narcissistic, then the likelihood is that you'll see glimpses of it from time to time. Maybe you've noticed how the partner talks to the child and you're not fond of it.

Your child's partner turns up uninvited

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Perhaps you've been waiting for a while to see your child one-on-one for some quality time together; however, you're taken aback when they get their with a little extra company. This should definitely start ringing some alarm bells, as it may mean they're being overly possessive.

You've noticed a sudden change in appearance

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Perhaps you've noticed some minor or major changes in your child's appearance over the last few weeks. Perhaps they've cut their hair, lost a lot of weight, stopped looking after themselves, or looking after themselves too much. All of these things can happen as a result of too much pressure from their partner.

When you bring up their partner, they dodge the topic

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Okay, so you've noticed a lot of these signs going on and you decide it's time to casually ask about your kid's partner sometimes, just to see what kind of reaction it warrants. The real red flag is if your child skips over the topic or avoids it completely.

Your kid apologizes on behalf of their partner

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One of the biggest warning signs and worst things that can happen is when your kid starts apologizing on behalf of their partner. Perhaps their partner has recently hit the roof in front of you, and they apologized for the erratic behavior. Don't ignore this sign!

They don't seem as confident as they used to be

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One of the best things about seeing your child growing up is how confident they become with time. One of the most heartbreaking things to experience is when they start to become less confident, and you can see doubt creeping in their minds. Perhaps it's their partner's doing.

You can't remember the last time they smiled

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It's so upsetting seeing your child in a state of depression. You might have noticed that since they've been with their partner, you've seen them smile less and less frequently as the days have gone on. This is no small thing to ignore, and you should ask them if they're okay.

They've been calling in sick to work

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Whether they've told you that they've been calling in sick to work or you found out through some friends, this can be a telltale sign that something is wrong. It doesn't automatically mean it's their partner's fault, but you should probably check the situation out.

They cancel plans at the last minute

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Perhaps you've been waiting for an afternoon tea for so long with your daughter, and all of a sudden she just texts out of the blue that she can't come anymore. Not only does it hurt (like, a lot), it also begs the question as to why they would cancel on their own mother.

There's always an excuse why they can't see you

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If they're not canceling plans on you, then potentially they're just blowing you off before the plans even come to fruition. When they do, they give you some awful excuses. "The car won't start" or "I'm working overtime" or "the dog can't be left on its own."

They won't eat around you anymore

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You may have even noticed that your kid's eating habits have changed, which could be a sign that they're either going through a distressing time, or their partner has started to say some nasty things about their weight. Don't let this warning sign go unnoticed.

They've become more insecure

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Perhaps you've noticed some behavioral changes in your child that they didn't make before. For example, you pay them a compliment and they return it with "no I don't" or maybe you've seen them avoid looking in mirrors, wearing baggier clothes and covering their faces.

Their friends are noticing too

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If you're that kind of mom, maybe you've reached out to their friends too as you're keen to know if they've been spotting the same things. If they have, then it's definitely cause for concern, and you should put some plan in place to intervene quickly.

Any time you do speak to them, it's quick

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You've waited weeks just to jump on a phone call with your kid, and as you do, they put the phone down just a few short minutes afterwards. You're left feeling heartbroken, but the question is, why would they treat you like this? It might just be their partner to blame.

Sometimes, you catch them zoned out

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If something concerning is on your child's mind, then they might start staring off into space and dissociating. If you've noticed that your kid has started to do this more frequently, don't ignore it. Coupled with a few of these other signs, it might just be an indication that something's going on with their partner.

Your kid dismisses your concerns

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Okay, so you've noticed all these signs, and you finally decide to bring them up with your kid. However, when you do, all they do is dismiss what you're saying or gaslight you into believing that you're overreacting and reaching conclusions that aren't there. This is even a sign in itself.

If in doubt, speak to them!

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Ultimately, though, you shouldn't let their reaction get the better of you. Make sure that if you're really worried about the way they're partner is treating them, you make your concerns known to them. Perhaps it will be the turning point your kid needs.