Signs Of A True Friend

By Kirsty 1 year ago

You Can Get Down And Dirty With The Deets

Image Source / RedditYou can talk to them about absolutely anything - even the most intimate details of your private life, work life or even bodily functions. There's nothing you can talk about that would make either of you cringe or be embarrassed. You're a complete open book with each other.

They Say Yes Before Even Knowing What You're Asking

Image Source / RedditIf you ask for their help or their advice, they say yes before even needing to know what it is. Whatever you want or need of them, they'll always say yes anyway, and they trust you enough to know that you wouldn't ask them something they'd want to say no to. So a text saying "will you do me a favor?" immediately results in "yes, anything"!

You Always Get A Birthday Or Holiday Card From Them

Image Source / RedditNot only do they never, ever forget your birthday or special occasions, you will always - without fail - get a card from them. And it'll either be the most beautiful, meaningful card you've ever seen, or it'll be the most playfully insulting and hilarious one - depending on what kind of relationship you have, of course!

You Can Get Changed In Front Of Each Other, No Problem

Image Source / WikipediaYou're close enough with each other - and have shared enough intimate details - to have absolutely no problem stripping infront of each other. You probably go into store changing rooms together to try on new clothes, or get ready infront of each other in the same room for a night out.

They Could Order Your Drink For You

Image Source / RedditThey know your favorite drink off by heart, no matter where you go out to socialize. So they could confidently make your drink's order for you off a new menu without you saying a word. Even if you go somewhere new and obscure, they'll be able to work out what drink you'd like based on the ingredients.

They'll Do Errands For You Without Expecting Something In Return

Image Source / RedditThey're always happy to help you with any errands you need running, whether it's a full-blown grocery shop, picking something up from the dry cleaner's or doing your Christmas shopping for you. While some people might use this against you to say that you owe them one, they'll happily do it without expecting anything in return.

They'll Always Tell You If You Have Something In Your Teeth

Image Source / RedditThat awkward moment when someone has something in their teeth or something on their face - is it kinder to tell them, or has it been too long? None of that matters when it comes to your friend, because they'll always be the first to point out you have something in your teeth, the second they see it.

They're Besties With Your Family

Image Source / RedditTrue friends will either have known you long enough and grown up with you to know your family members, or you'll be so close they're around often enough to meet the folks and probably always eat with you. If your friend is on first name basis with your parents, and maybe even your parents look forward to them coming round just as much as you do, it's a sign they're here to stay.

They Never Judge You

Image Source / WikipediaNo matter what you do, what you say, what you wear - if you're being your best self, they're never going to judge you. Even when you make an absolute fool out of yourself or constantly make mistakes, they'll never judge you for them, or judge you at your worst.

They Always Keep Your Secrets

Image Source / RedditYou know if you ever told them anything, even the smallest, most insignificant secret about you, they'd take it to their grave. They'd defend that secret with their life and there's absolutely no chance of them yapping that secret to anyone or anything. Your secrets are safe with them.

They're Always Honest With You - Even If It's Difficult To Hear

Image Source / ProfiledYou'll never have to worry about them betraying you or lying to you, because they'll always be honest with you. When it comes to tough love and things you need to hear, even if the truth is hard to accept, they'll still be 100% upfront and honest with you - you know they have your back.

You Don't Need To Speak Every Day To Know They're Always There For You

Image Source / RedditHaving a true friend doesn't mean speaking to them, or seeing them, every second of the day. It's more about knowing that they're still there for you, even if you don't speak to them or see them. You know that even if you've gone a week without having a catch up, you could text them asking for help and they'd immediately respond.

You Never Have Awkward Silences

Image Source / Know Your MemeGah, to live in a world without awkward silences. That's when you know you're with the right person, right? Same applies outside of the dating pool, too. If you have a friend you can enjoy a silence with without it being horrifically uncomfortable - or, if there's never any room for silences because you're laughing too much - it's a good sign.

You Pick Up Right Where You Left Off If You Haven't Seen Each Other For A While

Image Source / RedditSometimes, absence can push people apart, and certain friends might go a long time without seeing each other and then find they prefer it, struggling to get back into the swing of things when they meet up again. It may feel more forced and formal when they do catch up again. Whereas for true friends, you pick up right where you left off, no matter how long it's been.

They Never Talk About You Behind Your Back

Image Source / RedditThat you know of... but we kid. You just know in your gut they'd never - and have never - said a bad word against you behind your back. Nobody has ever come to you to tell you they've been talking smack about you, and you know they're so honest anyway that they'd upfront tell you if they had a problem!

You've Successfully Had A Vacation Without Falling Out

Image Source / Independent.ieVacations are the true test of any relationship, whether romantic or platonic. If you can't go on a vacation together without falling out, storming off or even going home early because you can't cope, it's always a red flag for friendships or romance. But if you and your friend can easily have a vacation without a single hiccup, that's a good thing.

You Know They're On The Other End Of The Line Whenever You Need Them

Image Source / RedditYou just know that they're only a phone call or text away whenever you need them, no matter the time of day. If you needed them at 2am, they'd drive over in their pajamas and fluffy slippers (though we don't condone that, proper footwear please!). They'd even fly across the country if you needed them.

They Always Know How To Make You Laugh

Image Source / RedditWhether it's just what will set you off into fits of giggles when you're out in public, or if you've had a very bad day and need cheering up, they know exactly what to say to push your buttons. They never fail to put a smile on your face, and it's 100% likely you'll be in fits of laughter whenever you're with them, no matter what.

They Make Sure You've Got Home Okay After A Boozy Night Out

Image Source / Edinburgh NewsTrue friends will always make sure you've got home okay after a night out - but it doesn't even need to be that. You might be getting home after an afternoon coffee date and they'll still want to know whether you got home okay. Even if they wave you off at the end of the driveway, they'll want a text to know you've got through the front door without any issues.

Sharing A Room Is Your Go-To

Image Source / Booking.comNeither of you have any problems whatsoever about sharing a room - or even a bed - whether it's a sleepover or a vacation. It would feel weird not to share a room, because it'd be a night wasted if you didn't sit on the bed talking and laughing all night, or watching a movie together.

You Can Communicate With Just A Look

Image Source / MemesYou don't need words, or even facial expressions, to communicate with them. Sometimes eye contact is all it needs. You understand each other completely to the point where you know what each other is thinking or going to say next, and it only takes a quick look to know that.

You Have Private Jokes

Image Source / RedditThe best relationships will always have private jokes, and you and your friend probably have a ton of them. No matter what situation you find yourself in, or no matter what someone says, there'll always be an in-joke there somewhere that'll have you turning to look at each other with a knowing smirk.

They Have Never Gone After One Of Your Exes

Image Source / RedditThere is an unspoken rule about being friends with people that you should never date their exes (or even siblings, in some cases). This rule may have never needed to even be spoken between the two of you, because it goes without saying. They've never tried to hook up with or date one of your exes.

If You Do Fall Out, You Can Get Over It Immediately

Image Source / PinterestBeing a true friend doesn't mean that you never, ever fall out. Arguments can always happen, even in the best of relationships, and it's all about how you deal with them. If you and your friend can fall out knowing that you'll both be over it in the next few minutes, it's a sign you have a secure relationship.

They Always Remember Your Appointments

Image Source / RedditEven if you don't! They'll either have the best memory in the world or make a point of writing down all your important appointments - either way, they'll always send you a message on a big day, wish you luck for something important, or even just to ask how your doctor's or dentist's appointment has gone.

Money-Lending Is Easy Peasy

Image Source / RedditLending someone money is always awkward, even between friends, and especially so if they promise they'll pay you back and then seem to be taking their time about it. But with your friend, not only do you happily lend them money, but you don't even care if they don't give it you back, because you're happy to do it.

They'll Turn Up With Something Unexpected To Cheer You Up

Image Source / RedditIf you've had a very bad day or something's gone wrong, like failing your driving test or not getting that job, they'll be the first to turn up at your door - probably loaded with flowers, chocolates, booze, your favorite movie or anything else that's guaranteed to cheer you up.

They Never Complain About Your Style Of Doing Things

Image Source / RedditIf you like things done in a certain way, like to speak in a certain way or dress a certain way - even if it goes against everything else, or their core beliefs - they'll never complain about your way of doings thing. They love you for who you are, so they're not about to start complaining about that.

They Always Cover For You

Image Source / RedditIt's like they're programmed to know when you need an alibi, even if you don't ask them for it. They'll always cover for you, no matter what, and be the first to defend you and say you were with them or round at theirs if someone suggests you weren't. They'll want to know the gossip of where you really were afterwards, though.

They'd Never Put A Photo Of You On Social Media Without Your Approval

Image Source / Top5Some people upload photos to their social media on the basis that they look fantastic - even if their friends look awful in them, or doing something embarrassing in the background. But with your friend, you know there's absolutely no way they'd upload any photo of you without your approval - even if you look great in it.

Things True Friends WON'T Do: Shut You Out!

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A true friend would never, ever shut you out, or make you feel alienated in any way. You know you have a true friend in your life if there are never any moments of 'Wait, are they ignoring me? Have I been shut out? What's going on?'. There's nothing they don't want to include you in!

Gossip About You

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There's no way a good friend would ever talk about you behind your back, even if it's something innocent - gossip is gossip after all, and there's no way a bad word would come out of their mouth about you to anybody else. They have your back, and you know that!

Judge You For Your Mistakes!

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Or judge you for anything! A true friend is not there to judge or make you feel bad about any decision you make - they're there to support you in whatever you choose to do, even if it's the worst decisions, so they can be there to help you pick up the pieces after you've done something stupid.

Get In The Way Of Your Goals

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True friends should support you in your goals, and not try to sabotage them - whether intentionally or unintentionally. Even if it's the simplest goal, like you wanting to get up an hour earlier every day, a true friend is the one banging on your door to get you up at the time you said!

Only Hang Out When It's Super Convenient For Them

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Friendship isn't always about the exciting times to hang out - bad things can happen, problems can arise, and your bestie might need you at an unplanned moment when you have your pj's and face mask on. A true friend will hang out no matter what, even if it's super inconvenient for them!

Only Ever Talk About Themselves

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Friends share what's going on in their lives in an equal way - they want to tell you everything that's going on with them, but they're also super excited to hear everything that's going on with you. So if they only ever talk about themselves, they're not as good a friend as they think they are!

Sugarcoat Everything

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The reason you ask your friend if your outfit looks stupid is because you need an honest answer - and there's no way a true friend would let you leave the house looking silly. So if they sugarcoat everything thinking they're actually being nice, the opposite can be true!

Share Your Secrets

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You tell them something in confidence, you expect it to stay in confidence - especially if you've begged them not to tell anyone. Even if they only tell someone very close to them, like their partner or their mom, they're still breaking the friendship code - and that's a no no!

Get Jealous Rather Than Happy

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A true friend should celebrate your accomplishments with you and be overjoyed if you've got a promotion, found a new house or got a new bae. What they shouldn't be is jealous - so jealous, in fact, that they only have scathing comments or glances for you rather than smiles.

Give Up On You After One Bump In The Road

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Even the best friendships can hit hurdles every now and again, but what matters is how you deal with them and move past them. So if your friend throws in the towel the second you have a minor fallout, they're obviously not committed to the awesomeness that is you.

Prioritize Their Love Life Over Your Friendship

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Okay, so juggling a serious relationship as well as friendships with others can be difficult, especially when you're short on free time. But some happy medium has to be made where they made time for everyone. If you never see them because they only ever make time for their partner, that's a sign of a not-so-true friend!

Say Things Through Social Media Only

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Of course, besties can communicate through social media all the time - but it shouldn't be the only way you're talking. If you only ever get a 'Happy Birthday' or 'Congrats' on your Facebook timeline instead of a personal message, it's a sign you're not as close as you might think.

Dragging Down Your Self-Esteem

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Your true friends are there to lift you up, not drag you down - so have you ever got a niggling feeling they're pulling you down? Do you feel less confident around them, or after something they've said? True friends will always give your confidence the boost it needs!

Interrupting You All The Time

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There's a difference between excited chatter where you're talking over each other, and your friend just never letting you get a word in edgeways. Friendship is about give and take, which includes the contribution to conversations! If they're interrupting you, they love the sound of their own voice too much.

Putting You In Awkward Situations

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Friends should support you in stepping out of your comfort zone or trying new things, but they should never purposefully put you in a situation that's going to make you really awkward and uncomfortable. Do they call you out on something in front of others and shame you?

Embarrassing You With Photos

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It doesn't matter what it is - a photo they post on social media, one they send to the group chat or a baby photo they have of you for some reason that they decide to pass around - they shouldn't be trying to make you squirm with embarrassment over a photo if they're your true friend!

Let You Get Behind The Wheel After A Drink

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A true friend will not only know your limits when it comes to alcohol, but they'll also know when to take your car keys away! A good friend - and a good person in general, let's be honest - will never say, 'Ohhh come on, you can drive, you'll be fine, let's go!'. A true friend is a responsible one!

Stress About Splitting The Check 50/50

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Friends should never take advantage of others paying for everything for them, but in good friendships you can expect to splash out on the odd coffee here, or the movie ticket there, without stressing too much about having 50% of the debt back. It's all about the memories, not the cost!

Start Drama. So Much Drama

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A friend who starts drama at every possible opportunity is not one you want to be around - especially if the drama is toxic and directly impacts you! A true friend will look for as much zen as possible, instead of the next opportunity to kick off and gossip about nothing.

Ignore You When They Make New Friends

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Anyone is allowed to make new friends, of course - life moves on, new people are met - but it shouldn't come at the price of leaving you in the dust! A true friend will be just as close to you as they always were, even if they make a ton of new friends they have to make time for, too.

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