13 + Reasons Your Crush Won’t Talk To You

1. He might just be shy

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He may be simply too shy to approach you! Guys get nervous around girls they like too, and sometimes they're too nervous to come up to you when you're in a big group of friends, so they're just biding their time for the perfect chance to talk to you. It may take some time, but try to offer him some reassurance that you want to talk to him too.

2. Guys get insecure too

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In the same sentiment, guys get insecure the same way we do. He might be fearful that you'll reject him or that he's not good enough for you. If that's the case, his insecurity (or his pride) may keep him from approaching you. It's hard to say if he'll be able to overcome this to take the first step, but if he really likes you, he'll likely try!

3. Maybe he's observing you from a distance

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Just because he's not talking to you doesn't mean he's not observing you! Sometimes guys want a little reassurance of who you are, what you like, how you act around your friends. So instead of talking to you, they might just casually observe you in your natural habitat before making a move!

4. He wants to know you're interested first

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In the same way you're hoping he comes to talk to you, HE might be hoping that you come talk to him! It's scary for guys to shoot their shot, so they're looking for a little clarity on if you're interested too so they don't get totally rejected. Look for signs that show they might be interested (such as them looking at your or always being near you), and then reciprocate.

5. He might already have girlfriend

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It's possible that even though you've crushed on this guy and watched him at school or out with friends that he has a significant other. Maybe he's in a long distance relationship or maybe he and his gf don't get to spend a lot of time together. You have to consider the possibility that he may be already has someone in his life!

6. He's emotionally unavailable

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Along those same lines, it's possible that he's just emotionally unavailable. Maybe he just went through a bad breakup, so he's not ready to jump into something new. Perhaps you could try just approaching him as a friend first to get to know him better and let things develop from there.

7. What if he's secretly in love with you?!

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You know how easy it is to get nervous around your crush. If he's not talking to you, there's a possibility that it's just because he really really likes you. He may try to catch your eye or smile at you when you pass him by. But if he's really into you, he'll eventually shoot his shot, so be ready!

8. He's not sure if you're single

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If a guy thinks you might be taken, he likely won't think it's worth trying to talk to you even if he has a crush on you. Again, guys like to know their chances are pretty good when they take that step to get to know you. Maybe he saw something on social media or while you were out that's made him question your relationship status.

9. He won't talk to you, but he stares at you because...

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He's trying to be friendly! Sometimes guys make eye contact because they want to connect with you, and they think if they can catch your eye, they have a better shot... which might result in them staring! If you feel confident he's making eye contact with you and not just staring off into space (lol), then be brave and say hi!

10. He's bad at real life conversations

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If your crush won't talk to you in person but he texts you consistently, then he may feel awkward talking to you in real life. This doesn't mean that he's not into you, but you will have to be patient and figure out how to have a conversation with him outside of texting. It's okay if you start the conversation first from time to time, but he also needs to take initiative to talk to you.

11. The unfortunate reality we must face, he's not into you

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There is a possibility that he's just not into you. As much as it sucks when your crush doesn't feel the same way, it's honestly better to know sooner than later. One thing is sure, that if a guy really really likes you, he will likely overcome any of his fear or anxiety in order to get to know you. So give him some time, but if he's not showing interest, then it's time to move on.

12. He's busy with work or school

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If your crush has good vibes and is flirty when you're around him, but then he never returns your texts or FaceTimes, he's probably just busy with school or work. Guys do make an effort to talk to girls they're into though, so if it bothers you, bring it up to him and see if he tries to make time for you.

13. He likes someone else

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Beyond the sad potential of him not being into you, it is possible that your crush has his eye on someone else. Even if he's around you and your friends a lot, but he isn't talking to you or is giving a lot of attention to someone else, it's possible that that is who he's crushing on. It's always hard to accept when this happens, but there are plenty of other guys out there.

14. He's worried about what his friends will say

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Depending on how old you are, it's possible that he's worried about how his friends will react. Guys tend to give each other a hard time about girls, especially when they're younger. So maybe he has his eye on you, but he's scared to talk to you because he wants to keep his social status.

15. He's really bad at flirting

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Beyond feeling insecure, there's a strong chance that he knows he's not great at flirting. This could cause him to feel scared about trying to flirt with you thinking that you might reject him if he's not super charming and suave. Just reassure him that it's endearing and not an ick!

16. He's interested but not ready for a relationship

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We notice attractive people all the time, even if we know we're not ready to be in a relationship. He might desire to be with you but because of work or school or family issues, he feels like it's not something that he can pursue right now. So in order to not lead you on, he chooses not to engage with you.

17. Maybe he doesn't know what to talk to you about

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Perhaps this guy has observed you for a while in the same way you've observed him. Maybe your interests and hobbies are different than his, and so he's not sure what to talk to you about. Let's say you're super into English and reading and he's super into sports and video games. He might have a hard time coming up with a topic that he feels you'll find interesting.

18. It's not the right setting

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Beyond not knowing what to talk to you about, there's also the issue of where and when you're seeing this dude. Maybe it's at work or during a time when it doesn't make it possible to talk and get to know each other. If that's the case, then maybe try to be around him at a more opportune time during lunch or a work break or a party.

19. You're just not his type

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You can never assume anything about someone's sexuality or personal preferences or orientation. It's important to keep in mind that you may just not be his type. If this happens, try not to take it personally. The same way that you like certain people, he's allowed to do that too. It doesn't make you a bad person, and it definitely doesn't mean that anything is wrong with you!

20. He only sees you as a friend

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Okay, so you've known your crush for a while and you guys have a good time when you're together. But you're ready to take things to the next level, and it seems he's ignoring you. He may have picked up on your crush, and he's worried about hurting your feelings because he only sees you as a friend. It's always best to have honest communication about this stuff, but be ready in case he doesn't reciprocate your feelings.

21. He's trying to be a good listener

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If it feels like you're doing all the talking in the conversation, then maybe your crush is just trying to be a good listener and hear what you're saying to him. Be sure to ask him questions too and give him compliments. Guys like to be complimented about their appearance and their accomplishments just as much as we do!

22. He has a hard time trusting people

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You never know what someone has been through in their life. Maybe your guy has had his heart broken one too many times and has a hard time believing that it won't happen again. Even outside of romantic relationships, he might have a harder time than most trusting the good intentions of people around him.

23. He feels like you won't "get" him

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Sometimes dudes feel quirky or weird, the same that we do. Take time to get to know and understand his interests so that you can ask smart questions about what he likes. Hopefully he's doing the same thing with you, so that even if you don't have a lot of common ground, when you do finally talk, the conversation will flow easily.

24. Maybe he's figuring out what he wants

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Your crush might be curious about you too. Especially if, like we said, he's constantly looking at you or figuring out ways to be around you. But it's possible that, even though he's curious, he's not 100% sure how he feels about you yet, so he's trying to figure that out. Give him a little bit of time, and observe him too so you can be sure of your feelings!

25. He's hoping you'll notice how he acts

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Even if he's not talking to you, there are other signs you can look for to see if he's interested. If he smiles at you a lot or leans in closer when he's near you, there's a strong probability that he is into you and is hoping that you'll notice and show some interest based on these things!

26. He feels like you're not reciprocating

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When your crush has tried to talk to you in the past, are you being intentional in your conversation with him? Maybe he felt like the conversation he initiated was one-sided, so he's decided to stop engaging with you. A good way to remedy this is to ask for his opinion or advice on something you're dealing with at school or work or home. It's a good way to let him into your life and keep the conversation moving.

27. He's not comfortable around you

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This has nothing to do with you personally, but maybe he doesn't feel fully comfortable around you. He could think that you're out of his league, so he doesn't know how to open up when you're around. This could result in him seeming stand-offish or quiet. Do your best to be warm and welcoming to him when he's around!

28. He thinks you're too needy

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Guys can sometimes pick up on when we're crushing on them. If you're displaying it in a way that comes across as needy, he may be taking a step back and not engaging in conversation. There's a way to show him you're interested without throwing yourself at him or making yourself too available. Guys like a little mystery!

29. He takes you for granted

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If he's a friend who you've wanted to become more than friends with, it's likely that he takes his friendship and relationship with you for granted. He assumes that you will alway be there for him as a friend, so he hasn't considered that you guys would be good together in a romantic way.

30. If he wanted to, he would

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While I don't subscribe fully to this theory, because I do think relationships should be reciprocal, there is some truth to it. The reality is that if a guy is into you, he's going to take the steps required to get to know you. He will figure out a way to talk to you and to make you feel special, and that's what you deserve!

31. Signs your crush likes you back! They look at you A LOT

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As long as you don't have another logical reason why they'd be looking at you so much - like lipstick on your teeth or you've spilled your lunch on your top - then it makes sense why looking at you all the time could be a sign they like you! Especially if you catch them and they quickly look away. Suss.

32. Their friends talk them up to you

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When you have a crush, it's likely that you'll tell at least one of your friends about it. You might even ask them for advice on how to ask the person out. So if your crush's friends are 'talking them up' to you, telling you how awesome they are, it's likely because they know the person likes you and are trying to put in a good word!

33. They blush when you're near or when you talk to them

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A helpful reaction that your body can have when talking to someone you like, without you being able to control it, is turning bright red for all to see. This is because you're likely panicking, having your pulse beating faster and having the blood flush to your face because you're embarrassed - so if your crush always seems to be blushing, this could be why.

34. They might even get a bit hyper around you

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It's a good idea to pay attention to how their behavior changes when they're around you. If they're normally quite a subdued and quiet person, it can be a telltale sign if they suddenly like up when they're around you, get excited when they talk to you and act hyper about doing things together!

35. They gravitate towards you in a group

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In a group setting, whether it's a group of friends or casual acquaintances, you're not going to be bothered about who you're standing/sat next to unless you have a crush. So if you find in group situations they always seem to want to sit near you, or be closer to you, we wonder why?

36. They take time to ask the personal questions

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We don't mean very personal questions they shouldn't be asking, we mean asking about your hobbies, interests or you as a person rather than asking how your day has been or something irrelevant. This just shows they want to get to know you better, and leaping on any opportunity to do so!

37. They laugh when you laugh

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We know that laughing can be very contagious, and especially between a group of friends who enjoy each other's company. For a crush, it's definitely likely they're going to laugh when you laugh - both to bond with you, but it also might make them happy to see you laughing!

38. And they mirror your general body language

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When you like someone or are trying to fit in with them, it's common to actually mirror the person's body language - even without realizing you're doing it. So have you noticed your crush folding their arms when you do, scratching their nose when you do or running their fingers through their hair when you do?

39. You see them smile more with you than with others

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It can help to pay attention to how much they smile to other people in their life. If you're a big group of friends, do they usually not smile as much with anyone else compared to you? They always seem to have a huge grin on their face when they talk to you, and only you?

40. They tell you personal things - without you asking

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It's a very tell-tale sign if this person is opening up to you off their own bat without you prompting them. You may sit down together and they start telling you about their family, or a hobby they did at the weekend, just to make chit chat. This can be a sign that they like you, because they're giving you access to certain information about themselves.

41. You've overheard their friends talking about you

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In a positive way, of course! You might have been walking past a group of them in the hall, or heard them from another room, talking about you. This likely means the person you have a crush on likes you back because one good source of gossip within a friend group is who's crushing on who!

42. They give you positive vibes with their body language

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As we know, you can tell a lot about a person with their body language. So when you talk to them, are you getting a happy, at-ease and welcoming vibe? As opposed to them being closed off, half-way turned out of the room and not even looking at you? Body language can tell you a lot!

43. They're always liking your posts on social media

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They might not ever comment on what you're posting (which could be another sign, because they don't want to make it too obvious publicly that they like you!) but they're definitely always the first to hit that like button on anything new you post, even if it's mundane.

44. They seem to make more of an effort with their appearance when they're seeing you

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Have you noticed they always take care of themselves or make more of an effort when they're doing something socially with you? If it's a party you're going to be at versus a picture of them on their social media at a party you weren't at? Have you noticed they always up their outfit game when they see you?

45. They're always telling you jokes

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One of the most obvious things a person can do when they like them is try to make them laugh. It can break the ice as well as show they have a good sense of humor! They could be outright spinning off some Knock Knock jokes, or their way of joking might be to playfully tease you!

46. They stop to listen when you're talking

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Do they immediately stop everything else they're doing when you start speaking so they can give you their full attention? Maybe in a group setting when everyone is talking over each other they turn to you and purposefully strain to hear what you're saying or read your lips?

47. And they encourage you to go on if nobody else is listening!

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Is there anything worse in a group setting than starting to speak and watching everyone around you slowly lose interest or start up their own conversations? If this person cares about you, they might show you they're still listening - even if no one else is - by maintaining eye contact and staying focused on you.

48. They seem to come up with excuses to talk to you

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They have your number or they have you on social media, and they may message you quite often to ask random questions or things you know they already know the answer to! They're obviously looking for an excuse to talk to you without having to say outright that it's because they like you!

49. They seem to act nervous

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When you're crushing on someone, you're obviously going to act nervous, and you may have noticed a few nervous tics they have when they're around you. This can be more obvious if the person is usually a really confident person, so you might be surprised to see them nervous for the first time!

50. They 'accidentally' bump you

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People who like you will always be looking for excuses to get close to you, without overstepping their bounds. They might nudge their arm into you after a joke, nudge you with their elbow when trying to get your attention, or walking into you 'as a joke' and laughing it off!