Signs You Are Too Nice

1. You are always doing things you don't want to

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When you're too nice you'll find that you're always doing things that you don't want to because you just can't say no to anyone. If someone wants you to do something with them, you can't refuse because you wouldn't want to upset that person in any way!

2. When someone wants something they come to you

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There are lots of great things about being a nice person, but like anything in life there are ups and downs. People know you're a nice person and so they will come to you when they want something, because they know you're just too nice to refuse them!

3. You prioritize other people above yourself

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You put yourself at the bottom of the pile, there's a huge line of people who you prioritize over yourself. You regard other people's emotions as more important to you, because you care deeply about people and want to ensure their happiness and needs above yours.

4. You agree with people because you don't want to offend them

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Having different opinions is a great thing because it makes things more interesting. But you often feel like you cannot express your real opinion because it differs to the opinion they have just expressed. The thought of insulting someone is your worst nightmare.

5. You have a hard time saying no

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'Do you want to come and clean my house with me this weekend? Sure!' 'Would you like to spend your weekend helping me move house?' I'd love to!' 'Could you lend me 30 bucks? Of course!'. Look if this is you, you're way too nice. Saying no isn't a bad thing, it's merely protecting yourself and enforcing your own boundaries.

6. You hate letting anyone down

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The idea of letting someone down makes you feel sick to your stomach because you're just such a nice person. You spend your entire time NOT letting people down and trying not to disappoint anybody so that you never have to feel as though you are ever letting anybody down.

7. You love to do nice things for people

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Doing nice things for people and making people happy literally makes you feel all warm and glowy inside. It's what fill you with happiness. You don't do nice things to plaster it over social media, you keep it quiet because you genuinely do it purely to make somebody else smile.

8. You rarely put your suggestions forwards

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You don't like putting your suggestions forward because you do not want anybody to have to do something that they didn't want to, just because you have said it. It could be as simple as someone asking what restaurant you want to eat at. You don't say anything because you don't want to enforce your ideas and you'd rather eat somewhere you didn't like so that the other person was happy.

9. People don't really listen to what you want

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When you're too nice people don't listen to what you want because they know that you'll be willing to compromise for them instead. So, they push forward what they want regardless of what you want. You have to be more forward in letting people know that this is a two-sided decision.

10. You are constantly saying 'sorry'

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It's pretty much your most used word at this point. Someone will bump into you - 'sorry!'. Someone will call you the wrong name 'sorry!'. You're basically apologising for someone because you don't want them to feel bad at all so you try and take the responsibility yourself.

11. You downplay yourself

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You put yourself down all of the time and never give yourself the credit that you truly deserve. You are very humble, but to the point where you do not recognise your own greatness. Downplaying yourself may affect your self esteem, it is good to acknowledge your own strengths.

12. You give away a lot of your time

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You bless people with your time and in fact you give away so much of your time to other people. You always make yourself available to help or be with people and do things that they want to do. Time is the most precious thing we can give to somebody else, but it's important to make time for yourself too.

13. It's always you making the effort

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It always seem to be you that has to make the effort. You're the one who reaches out to see people and make plans. You're the one who travels to see them at a time that is most convenient for them. Is the effort made in return? Hell no. You're just too nice.

14. You take things to heart

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You take things to heart because you're an emotionally sensitive person who cares deeply about other's feelings. To care so much about other people means that you take things they say to you to heart. It's not because you're weak, it's because you place importance on the actions and words of people.

15. People call you in need and drop you at other times

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You'll have noticed that when you're too nice people are all over you when they're in need, they'll speak to you constantly and want all of your attention and treat you like you're their best friend. Yet, when they don't need you they practically vanish - even if you needed them back.

16. You can be hurt emotionally

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Your deep and feeling emotions are what makes you so special, but it can cause you to get hurt. You open yourself up to other people and doing so can make you vulnerable to be emotionally hurt by them. Yet, as you know, this is a quality of a good and nice person.

17. People take advantage of you

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You're too nice but you do recognise that people take advantage of this. Your kindness can be exploited by others who will use you for their own gain and emotional support. They will ask a lot from you without giving anything in return. When you're too nice it seems to be inevitable that some people take advantage of this.

18. Seeing anyone/anything in distress makes you upset

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You're an empath, so when somebody/anybody is in any kind of distress you feel it deeply and it distresses you too. You never want to see anybody in pain. Even if someone had wringed you, you would help to alleviate their suffering because you're still upset for them.

19. You feel like it's your responsibility to look after other people

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No matter who it is, you feel as thought some of the responsibility for them lies on you. You feel responsible for making sure people are okay, making them happy and being there for them. This can really take a toll because it requires a lot of time and energy to look after so many people.

20. You have a lot of one-sided relationships

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One-sided relationships are all on that person's terms. They require your time and they want you there at your beck and call but it's all on their terms and when THEY want to meet. And, if you ever needed them when it was an inconvenience to them, they would not be there for you.

21. You give a lot away

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Now we don't mean in terms of money or gifts - although maybe you do that too! But we mean you give a lot away in terms of your energy and emotional support. You're willing to give anybody whatever they want from you because you're just way too nice.

22. You'll do anything to avoid conflict

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The idea of conflict and confrontation for most people makes their skin crawl with uncomfortableness and awkwardness. Especially when you're too nice. The thought of having a conflict where someone could get upset or think bad of you in any way is something you'll avoid at ANY cost.

23. You'll do things super inconvenient for you, just to help

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You REALLY go out of your way to help other people. Even if that means doing things that will be inconvenient to you. You're willing to sacrifice your own plans just to help somebody else and will drop your own plans at the drop of a hat to help someone.

24. You struggle to make decisions for yourself

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Sometimes you feel like everybody makes decisions for you because you do what they want you to do and follow their advice. You don't want to hurt people by making decisions that somebody else might no approve of, even if it is really what you want yourself.

25. You find it difficult to receive praise

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You cannot take the praise you deserve or give yourself the credit for being an amazing and good hearted person. Instead, you bat compliments away. You feel uncomfortable hearing nice things about yourself. This is because you don't act so nice for the glory, you just are a good person.

26. You don't like to offload your emotions onto anybody

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You are basically the shoulder to cry on for everyone else because you are empathetic, a good listener and you're deeply empathetic to people. But when it comes to yourself you do not feel as though you can burden others with your struggles or emotions. But this is because you're too nice and it's good to share!

27. You find it hard to cut off toxic relationships

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You may know full well that a relationship is toxic and that it is not good for you. They may be draining you physically as they take from you mentally without giving anything back. Yet you're too nice to cut it off, because although this person is toxic you still worry about them as a person.

28. You overthink your actions

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You are too nice to act in a way you want without thinking about the effects of those around you. You may say something and overthink it, wondering if anybody could take it the wrong way or if it could have accidentally sounded rude or be perceived wrong.

29. You over-explain yourself to other people

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You sometimes feel like you have to over explain yourself and justify your decisions because you are super conscious of how your decisions might be perceived. And. you are conscious of how the things you've decided could possibly affect someone else...

30. You struggle to stand up for yourself

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You struggle to stand up for yourself but it's not because you're a pushover or you're weak. It's just because you don't want to engage in any awkward confrontation where you could end up upsetting or offending them. So you end up letting things slide just to keep the peace.