Tips To Spice Up Your Life In The Bedroom

1. Keep your clothes on!

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This might be the last thing you usually do in the bedroom but if you usually strip down to nothing, changing this up could really spice things up in the bedroom and create some excitement.  It would just break the routine a little and you might even find certain clothing gives you some confidence and makes you feel good and act differently.

2. Educate yourself on sex-related issues

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It's also important if you want to spice up your life in the bedroom that you take steps to educate yourself on sex-related issues, like sexual health and norms.  It's not uncommon for couples to go through a dry spell so it's important that you both do your research and access resources online, as well as seek advice if possible.

3. Make a list of fantasies

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One way to spice up your life in the bedroom is to create a list of your and your partner's fantasies.  Make some time for yourselves to communicate alone and make your list look pretty!  Treat yourself to some scented pens and colorful paper to make your senses come alive.

4. Have a faux affair with your partner

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One thing that couples enjoy doing to spice up their lives in the bedroom is to take part in some role play.  Something that does prove effective is to have a faux affair with your partner.  Go on a date and play the role of someone else in order to explore each of your fantasies.

5. Have fun!

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Having a strong connection with your partner can go a long way in spicing up your life in the bedroom.  But if you've been together for a long time, it can be really difficult to break your usual routine.  So take the pressure off, plan something fun together and laugh  - you'll feel better connected if you have fun!

6. Send each other saucy texts

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Sometimes the anticipation of being together in the bedroom can be enough.  And to help this excitement along a little, you could both try texting each other with private texts.  Keep the communication going and make it saucy, the anticipation of seeing each other after being apart will be enough to spice up your life in the bedroom.  What is the saying?  Absence makes the heart grow stronger!

7. Schedule a meeting

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Something that is quite effective and exciting is to actually schedule your time together and send your partner a meeting invite.  Just like you would at work.  And because you have scheduled your time together, that time you spend with each other will be the absolute priority.

8. Take away your senses

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Depriving yourself or your partner of their sight using a blindfold can help to spice things up a little.  It may make other senses like smell, taste, and most importantly (probably!) touch much stronger.  And it might not be something you usually do so it could be doubly exciting.

9. Send a gift

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Flowers, perfumes, and chocolates are nice and romantic but wouldn't it be more exciting to actually send a gift of beautiful lingerie or something similar to a partner?  The act of buying it helps with anticipation and imagination too and it's something lovely for a partner to receive and feel good in!

10. Slow down your breathing

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Slowing down your breathing can really help you both to relax and savor the moments you have together.  Try relaxation techniques and conscious breathing together.  It also helps you to focus on slower movements and be conscious of how you are responding to each other and gain a deeper connection.

11. Get away for an evening, or a day!

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At home, granted it's really hard to relax.  There's housework and about a trillion other tasks that you have unticked on your to-do list so no wonder your mind wanders.  So why not try actually getting away from all of the responsibilities of life together and book a night away in a hotel?

12. Turn on some music

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There are a few things that you can do to help to set the mood and help you to spice up your life in the bedroom.  And a typical but effective thing to do is to switch on some of your favorite music you enjoy together.  This can be relaxing or not and it all depends on the kind of mood you want to create together!

13. Light a candle or some incense

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Your senses are important and should not be neglected, whether you're depriving yourself of your sight with a blindfold or trying to stimulate them.  Lighting a scented candle or some incense an really help to create a sensuous aroma and the candles also double up as mood lighting.

14. Spray your pillow

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You could also think about spraying your sheets for a real treat.  Using a pillow spray or creating one of your own using distilled water and your favorite essential oils can really help to set the mood and using something different from what your sheets usually smell like can really help you to break your usual routine.

15. Make sure you communicate with each other

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When it comes to spicing up your life in the bedroom, you both have to be on the same page.  Communication is absolutely key to a successful connection so make sure you make some time and space for each other to talk, share and open up about your desires, worries, and other things.

16. Massage

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There isn't much that says intimacy as much as giving your partner a massage.  Use some scented body oil and put some relaxing music on to enliven your senses and make sure you communicate.  This can be a real treat for you both as you explore each other's bodies through massage.

17. Play with the temperature

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Playing with extremes in temperature can also be quite sensuous and exciting.  Particularly by using ice cubes and melted wax.  Even better, to heighten the anticipation of these sensations, you could also blindfold your partner and play them some music through headphones!

18. Good morning!

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If being intimate with your partner is something you both do when you head to bed, you might find that you're a bit zapped with energy after a busy day and probably not in the mood.  So mix up your routine a little and think about getting intimate in the morning!  Not only is it that after a night's sleep so you're rested but it has been proven to give you many health benefits!

19. Wear a perfume

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Something that might drive your partner wild is to wear perfume on your pressure points and your body.  It'll also make you feel good as well.  And to break the routine up a little and spice things up, consider using a different perfume scent to what you usually wear!  It's the little things that can have huge effects!

20. Confessions

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Making confessions to your partner about your desires and fantasies might feel a little daunting, especially if it's not something you have done together before.  So take it slow, find a quiet space, and find the courage to communicate your fantasies to your partner.  You might just surprise them (in a good way!).

21. Make space for your partner

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You've also got to listen to your partner too and make space and find time to also listen to their own fantasies and desires.  It would be no fun if it was just one of you talking and making confessions so make sure you both communicate and listen without judgment!

22. Build up some stamina

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With things spicing up in the bedroom, you might both want to build up your stamina.  But do this slowly together, there's no rush and you're both already on a wonderful journey of deeper connection and discovery.  Take your time and enjoy the time you spend together without pressure.

23. Play with the lighting

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In order to set the correct mood in your bedroom to spice things up a bit, make sure you also play with the lighting.  It might be enjoyable to actually be able to see each other and make that deeper connection so use lamps, colored lightbulbs and candles to create the mood you desire.

24. Get a babysitter

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If you have children, it is going to be a little difficult to maintain your intimacy and spice up your life in your bedroom.  But, if you can, see if you can get a babysitter occasionally so you can focus your attention specifically on each other (and not be interrupted!).

25. Shut the pets out

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There's nothing like a dog licking your face or a cat meowing and staring at you to completely kill the mood.  So don't feel guilty about shutting them out of your room for a while.  Or even get a friend or relative to look after them once in a while so you are completely alone.

26. What about a pamper?

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Feeling good about yourself, both you and your partner, can really go a long way to boosting your confidence and spicing up your life in the bedroom.  Why not make your own face masks together and have a couples pampering session?  Or you could just treat yourself!

27. Try something new together

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You might be stuck in the routine of life and it can be so difficult to come out of it.  And such a rigid and busy routine might be far from spicy.  So spend some quality time together and try new things, both inside the bedroom and outside of the bedroom!

28. Feathers

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To create a full sensory experience, you might be able to think of a few props you could use for different sensations.  In our opinion, the soft and tickly touch of feathers works an absolute treat and can give you both a really sensual experience...

29. Treat yourself

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You also need to look after yourself as a priority so take some time to treat yourself.  This could be spending quality time alone, with friends, or even buying yourself some treats.  These could include beautiful lingerie you feel amazing in or even beauty and pampering products you'll enjoy using.

30. Set the mood

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In order to spice up your life in the bedroom, there are so many things you can do to set the mood.  Whether that's taking the time to create a wonderful atmosphere in your own bedroom, getting away from the routine of life with a night away or even teasing each other when you're apart to create excitement and anticipation!  But the main thing is to communicate with each other!